Answered Questions Re: Miss California

[smileyeagle1021]

Not all gay people have anal sex.

thank you so much anriana... I hate that stereotype, even within the gay community. I honestly have little interest in anal sex... I much prefer oral sex. I've been told by both gays and straights that obviously there must be something wrong with me for not preferring anal sex... I know there must be at least some other people who feel the same way.

BDSM is by no means exclusive to the gay community nor are overt displays of it.

thank you again... I have never actually met a gay guy into BDSM, know quite a few straight people though into it.

Do you have a problem with two men kissing each other?

absolutely not
especially if I'm one of them

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Hetero, means that I can only fall in love with woman. It has almost nothing to do with wanting to put my penis in a vagina.

Thank you... yet another thing I hate is the people who think that being gay means nothing more than liking penis... while I won't deny that I do enjoy penis, there is so much more than that, it is about love. Yes, I love many women, I love them as friends, as family, as sisters I never had... but I just can't love a woman in the same way that I can love a man.

[Flyndaran]

thank you so much anriana... I hate that stereotype, even within the gay community. I honestly have little interest in anal sex... I much prefer oral sex. I've been told by both gays and straights that obviously there must be something wrong with me for not preferring anal sex... I know there must be at least some other people who feel the same way.
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I may be hetero, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want anal even if I were gay.
Maybe it's partly due to my previous surgeries, but I doubt it.
Hetero, means that I can only fall in love with woman. It has almost nothing to do with wanting to put my penis in a vagina.
I would still be hetero without a penis or even a body.

[anriana]

thank you so much anriana... I hate that stereotype, even within the gay community. I honestly have little interest in anal sex... I much prefer oral sex. I've been told by both gays and straights that obviously there must be something wrong with me for not preferring anal sex... I know there must be at least some other people who feel the same way.

I hate it because it ignores queer women, but also for the reasons you listed. It comes from a mindset that sex has to have a penis penetrating something - either straight vaginal/anal or gay anal, and lesbians can't have "real" sex so they just pretend with dildos. It seems everyone hates oral or other forms of play, which I don't get. And I don't think you're weird at all - mouths seem like much sexual better instruments, both for giving and receiving. (it took me five minutes to come up with a nice way to write that!)

thank you again... I have never actually met a gay guy into BDSM, know quite a few straight people though into it.

But BDSM is weird icky sex stuff and so is gay stuff so they have to be the same!

[Kalli]

I spent half the day reading this thread, and I only have 2 things to say (long-winded though they are):

1) On behalf of straight people everywhere, I apologize to the gay community for the fact that you have to fight so hard all the time only to have a reminder of your basic human rights fall on so many deaf ears. The only comfort I can offer you is that in the near future, humanity will look back on this circus with shame and embarrassment, much as we look back at things like racial segregation and oppression of women.

2) In every debate, no matter how convinced I am about who is right and who is wrong, I think it is important to hear good argument from both sides. I have never once heard any argument against same sex marriage presented in any way that can even be remotely described as valid argument.

Saying "The Bible specifies it as wrong" Is not valid. Separation of church and state means that using the bible's words to justify a law is a huge no-no.

Saying "It could be damaging to society" Is not valid, unless you can describe how. SO many Christians say this, but fail to point out how exactly. Also, I would submit that removing some people's rights based on what is ultimately a harmless personal preference is severely damaging to society, particularly one who values the freedoms and rights of it's people so highly.

Saying "The children will get confused" Is not valid. It's not at all confusing if explained to them the same way anything else is. They won't get confused. You only say that because they get confused by being lied to about gays by straights.