Ugh - sorry all. I bailed on the thread and it was a good article but you're right, that's not what I posted.
The original Korducki link should have been:
https://pictorial.jezebel.com/dump-h...n-t-1827748508
In the meantime I actually found another interesting article about the usual thing: men inflating their sexual conquest numbers (seems common sense to me) but what I actually found fascinating was the dynamics of Tinder. That while men cast a wide net (expected), women on average are only contacting 1 in 5 men and they are the same 1 in 5. So women are competing for the same 20% of guys. This actually flies in the face of one of the most frequent refrains I've heard from my women friends (and which I still mostly believe as this is a very specific sample) that women's preferences are vastly different.
https://www.cnn.com/2018/09/06/healt...ner/index.html
Anyway, it was stuff like this why I started the thread. It's not so much one thing, rather I'm fascinated by the factors that contribute to what often is both men and women increasingly frustrated with the "other" in relation to dating/relationships.
I don't have a solution, but when I see stuff like this and consider stuff like r/Braincels/ r/inceltears existence or general assumptions we make such as what men and women tend to want, I wonder if half the reason it's so complex is we're not being honest about the actual situation. That is, we actively contribute to a toxic body of knowledge about opposing sexes which actively thwarts people (with the inclination) of finding each other because it's both highly biased and factually inaccurate.
That said, I'll also plead ignorance. Outside of Tinder (which probably skews towards one night stand sites which distorts the sample) and dating sites, I'm not sure what is the most common way people find each other these days. Work used to be semi-common. Random meeting is perilous and not wanted. So is the fact more people are choosing to be single because single is inherently better, or are we just not setting realistic expectations of what a relationship looks like and what the average man or woman is or wants?