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Originally Posted by jackfaire
I was looking for perspective. Apparently this is the one topic on which people choose to withhold their perspective. If I asked people their POV on any other topic where they can't offer a concrete solution people rush to offer me such. This is one scenario where I find people are suddenly timid about applying their personal experience to a real life situation.
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How old is this woman? I've never had your exact experience, but I've seen instances (mostly on TV) where one person leads on another, with no intention of following through. It's
possible that's what's going on here. Sometimes someone really has no intention of dating someone
right now, but likes to know they're available. I don't know if you're familiar with them, but think of early episodes of The Big Bang Theory and the interactions with Penny and Leonard.
Another consideration is that social media has led to "oversharing", of sorts.
It's possible she's doing it because of "oversharing", and there's a good possibility she likes it, based on the fact you said she crows about "getting to [both of us]".
One other thing to consider is that she possibly
wants some sort of physical relationship, but if she's friends with your ex-wife and made that promise years ago, maybe she's keeping the promise.
Might not hurt to ask her. If she's good friends with you, she could be open about it. 20+ years ago I actually told a very close female friend of mine (we've since lost touch) that I always wanted to ask her out, but never got up the nerve. Because every time I thought I had the nerve to do so, she was dating someone. When I revealed that to her, she actually told me that she
wanted me to ask her out.