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Right now, there is a rift in my family.
In the centre of this rift is my younger sister.
I seem to be on the outside looking in.
A few years ago, my younger sister got involved with a guy who treated her like shit. He would constantly tell her that her opinions should be ignored and that she should be glad he puts up with her at all. Despite everyone telling her to leave him, she stayed with him for about 2 years. In that time it became a regular scene of her coming to my parents house in tears. We tried to help her, but eventually after a year, I'm sorry to say that we started to just avoid her when she started crying. It seemed pointless to approach her as all she would do is scream at us. It wasn't unusual for her to walk out to her car to cry in the backseat for an hour, then walk back in like nothing had happened.
It started to get even worse when she started to see a therapist. First she went to one with her bf for couples counseling, and then later to one by herself.
She later started off with a new bf, one just as bad as the previous. I would want to cry when she would talk about him. But she didn't leave until it almost became dangerous.
Now, she's been seeing a therapist for a while now, and I just don't agree with his technique. It seems to be where she is encouraged to find instances from her childhood that has shaped her into the person she is today. What they found out was that my brother had been abusing her her whole life, and that my parents never did anything to help her.
I love my sister, but I just can't agree to this theory.
My brother was a typical boy. He was a bit rough, but never to the extremes she's accusing him of. Most instances she speaks about don't feel abusive in the way she describes it, and I've had the same sort of fights with my brother. It was just sibling behaviour to me.
I would have thought that her revisited childhood would have pointed towards me.
In the time growing up, I have choked her, bitten her, screamed at her, and in one instance, I punched her hard enough in the face that she lost a tooth.
I have also been the cause of at least 3 black eyes for my brother, one that was merely millimetres from making him blind.
Just today, my sister decided to make her accusations against my family public through her facebook account. Everyone in my family was named except for me. I also found out that she has been kicked out of my parents house, and refused entry at both my brothers and older sisters houses, and is currently at a motel.
I feel like I'm watching a soap opera and I just can't work out what is happening. It's frightening.
In the centre of this rift is my younger sister.
I seem to be on the outside looking in.
A few years ago, my younger sister got involved with a guy who treated her like shit. He would constantly tell her that her opinions should be ignored and that she should be glad he puts up with her at all. Despite everyone telling her to leave him, she stayed with him for about 2 years. In that time it became a regular scene of her coming to my parents house in tears. We tried to help her, but eventually after a year, I'm sorry to say that we started to just avoid her when she started crying. It seemed pointless to approach her as all she would do is scream at us. It wasn't unusual for her to walk out to her car to cry in the backseat for an hour, then walk back in like nothing had happened.
It started to get even worse when she started to see a therapist. First she went to one with her bf for couples counseling, and then later to one by herself.
She later started off with a new bf, one just as bad as the previous. I would want to cry when she would talk about him. But she didn't leave until it almost became dangerous.
Now, she's been seeing a therapist for a while now, and I just don't agree with his technique. It seems to be where she is encouraged to find instances from her childhood that has shaped her into the person she is today. What they found out was that my brother had been abusing her her whole life, and that my parents never did anything to help her.
I love my sister, but I just can't agree to this theory.
My brother was a typical boy. He was a bit rough, but never to the extremes she's accusing him of. Most instances she speaks about don't feel abusive in the way she describes it, and I've had the same sort of fights with my brother. It was just sibling behaviour to me.
I would have thought that her revisited childhood would have pointed towards me.
In the time growing up, I have choked her, bitten her, screamed at her, and in one instance, I punched her hard enough in the face that she lost a tooth.
I have also been the cause of at least 3 black eyes for my brother, one that was merely millimetres from making him blind.
Just today, my sister decided to make her accusations against my family public through her facebook account. Everyone in my family was named except for me. I also found out that she has been kicked out of my parents house, and refused entry at both my brothers and older sisters houses, and is currently at a motel.
I feel like I'm watching a soap opera and I just can't work out what is happening. It's frightening.
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