Best (Wo)Man?

[jackfaire]

What is everyone's opinion on this. I have male friends but right now my closest friend is a girl. I am not looking to get married right now but shouldn't I want someone to stand up with me that actually is my best friend not my fall back because my friend happens to be female?

Thoughts?

[Plaidman]

I don't see why not. Hell, when my cousin got /married/, her best man was her adopted son, and her /wife/ biological son.


Even though they split, they are still in her life. Hell, her /daughter/ keeps saying I'm her favorite cousin cause I would play with her and her brother when they were young.

I didn't have the heart to tell her it was because I didn't have friends my own age XD.

But they are still cool. I text them alot so yeah. They're awesome. That girl is going to break alot of hearts though.

[HYHYBT]

It's your wedding. You can have anybody in it in any capacity you want, so long as that person and your to-be spouse agree. Well, there are some slight limitations on who you can have for an officiant, but other than that

[KnitShoni]

One of my best friends was male. When he got married, I was both his best (wo)man and his bride's maid of honor. Some people had issues with it, but it wasn't their choice. That was between the bride and groom, and later me, once they asked me.

[Red Panda]

I think she should be able to be a bridesmaid but best man should be a man

[Plaidman]

I think she should be able to be a bridesmaid but best man should be a man

Why? Bridesmaid is for the bride, not the groom.


Let's do another example. The groom has no brother. No father. No uncle. No son. No male friends. He has one female friend. Does that mean he cannot have her as the best man?

I know it's an extreme example. But the best man is the closet person to said groom. Its like the bride of honor for the bride.

I'm curious as to why the groom's chosen person of honor should be bridesmaid, which has nothing to do with the groom typically.

[Nyoibo]

Were I to get married (I can't say that with a straight face) The person I would be most likely to want to be my best "man" would be a woman.

[Arcade Man D]

I think she should be able to be a bridesmaid but best man should be a man

If the Groom's best friend is a female, she should be standing by him in the position of Best "man". Just like a woman whose best friend is a guy should be able to have a male "Maid" of honor. Same goes for Bridesmaids and Groomsmen. Granted, the names would need to be a touch different.

Bridesmaids and the Maid of Honor are friends/family of the bride, not the groom.

[Rapscallion]

From what I was taught and am too lazy to check on Google, the best man was actually the second best man and would stand in for the groom should be be unavailable on the day.

Best Woman would be a modern development, but it would make the nuptials a bit odd for some people if there were traditionalists around

Rapscallion

[jackfaire]

Best Woman would be a modern development, but it would make the nuptials a bit odd for some people if there were traditionalists around

I scare traditionalists