Sexual Preference & Promiscuitity

[blas87]

Latey, the poly people haven't been able to keep it to themselves either, and it just weirds me out.

I'm just being honest.

I think I'd rather hear about gay man hot butt sex right about now than some girl fucking her friend's husband like they do every Wednesday night after they play Mancala and watch Three's Company.

[Peppergirl]

Latey, the poly people haven't been able to keep it to themselves either, and it just weirds me out.

I'm just being honest.

I think I'd rather hear about gay man hot butt sex right about now than some girl fucking her friend's husband like they do every Wednesday night after they play Mancala and watch Three's Company.

So much WORD to this, girl!!!

To each his own, yeah - but you're right - the TMI factor has been WAY over the top lately.

[blas87]

I didn't mean to bash anyone or hurt feelings, I just felt the need to say it because it got a little creepy watching a thread go from a guy being a little too forward and dumb to everyone's personal preferences with Dommes and Subs and then other threads where it's just added in that they were doing their routine of playing musical partners.

Of course I'm a bit ignorant because it's not my style, and while I haven't a problem with anyone really and would never bash anyone for being who they are and loving who they love, for the first time in a long time, I was going while reading threads on CS, and it really takes a lot to make these eyes go bugged.

[smileyeagle1021]

Latey, the poly people haven't been able to keep it to themselves either, and it just weirds me out.

I'm just being honest.

I think I'd rather hear about gay man hot butt sex right about now than some girl fucking her friend's husband like they do every Wednesday night after they play Mancala and watch Three's Company.

Blas, we could always talk about gay man hott butt sex with a friend's boyfriend like they do every Wednesday night after they play Mancala and watch Will and Grace

I do agree with you though, there have been a lot of cases recently (both on the interwebs and at least for me at school and work) of people giving out way too much information. I don't go around telling people about the kinky things I do with my fiance and I would greatly appreciate if (especially from coworkers) the favor were returned
As I'm tempted to tell one coworker "if you promise to stop talking about your girlfriend's perfectly manicured tight pussy, I promise to not start talking about my boyfriend's massive and juicy cock. Deal."

[blas87]

I never tuned in to Will and Grace. How about Sex and the City re-runs?

[Greenday]

Scrubs had some excellent man-love going on.

[jackfaire]

Also look around. I can't always tell people are straight or gay because most of them aren't carrying signs.

Yes it has been a long time but the amount of gay couples that feel safe holding hands in public is far outnumbered by the amount of straight couples that can feel safe doing it.

I hardly feel safe checking out a guy in areas unless they are well lit and crowded. I don't mean like having to wipe drool I mean like glancing at a guy in anything other than the usual grunt and head nod.

[Boozy]

Still, I can't deny being guilty of the very thing Eisa criticizes here: I look at PDAs differently when there are people of the same sex involved.

If I see a man and a woman holding hands in public, I think "Couple." If I see two men doing the same, I think "Gay couple." If I see two women holding hands, I think "Damn!" (Sorry, couldn't resist... )

I think its understandable to have more of a reaction to same-sex public displays of affection, if only because they're rare to see. Your reaction is "that's unusual", not "that's wrong."

As long as you don't think less of them, or begrudge them their civil rights, it's not a problem.

[FArchivist]

So I'm turning to Fratching to hear what you guys think and have experienced.

Here's what I know: The concept of homosexuals being more promiscuous than heterosexuals is absolute and total crap. Reputable studies by academic institutions have shown that the rate of promiscuity is approximately the same when measured against both sexual orientations. If you follow the links at my link and read through the study results, it becomes very clear.

And personally, I prefer to not get STDs which is more likely to happen when you whore yourself out. It gets tiring after awhile.

"Whore yourself out"? Oh, now that's just classy.
Here, let me clue you in on a thing called slut shaming.

Regardless of what our history was, it still does not excuse the fact that if someone decided to start the National Association for the Advancement of White People, they'd be quickly labeled a racist, have activists and their mobs after them, and then be shut down. They would probably be sued along the way too.

Well, they weren't sued, but I think the reason the NAAWP is a bad idea is because it was started by a member of the Ku Klux Klan in the 1950s and revived by David Duke in the 1980s. I mean, the Klan - yeah, that's who I want representing me, sure.

I've been told things like "Only white people can be racist", which redlines my bullshit meter. Racism is a learned behaviour, it's not a genetic trait. I've been accused of being evil in some way solely for being Male (always by young, militant feminists, never by older feminists stangely). I've had people look at me and assume that I'm upper middle class based solely on the color of my skin (I actually earn below poverty level currently) and get pissed when I tell them I have no money.

*sigh*
It is not that "only white people can be racist". The more correct explanation is found in the academic definition of racism (no, not the dictionary definition; that's different), which states "Racism = Prejudice + Power". It's what people outside of race studies would call "institutional racism". When you discriminate against someone because of their race, you're just prejudiced. But when you contain the power? Then it becomes racism.

As white heterosexual males in the USA, we hold the power. We always have. Who are our leaders? Mostly white straight males. Who dominate our corporations and power structures? Mostly white straight males.

As a white straight male, I can get a job where a black man, a gay man, a white woman who is more qualified than me would get denied. The police will have a less tendency to search me than the black man. I will get less flack and more forgiveness from religious leaders for my sins then a gay man. The white woman will receive less pay than I will because she's supposed to be at home making babies and cooking for me.

And you will say, "But I don't benefit from these things!" No, you may not benefit. But you have the opportunity to do so, in the right places, at the right times. A black man who doesn't like white people is just prejudiced. A white man - well, we have INSTITUTIONAL POWER aligned with us. We benefit from that just by existing.

Thus, in the USA, only white straight males can truly be racist. Note that this is reversed in a country where blacks are the majority and whites are a minority. Thus the difference between racism and prejudice.

Very rarely does any one of these people who are lambasting me for the crime of being born Male, White, and Straight stop and get to know me as a person. Ask me my thoughts and beliefs on their respective subjects.

Doesn't matter if they know you as a person. You are a part of the Institution and thus part of the problem. Whether you like it or not, you are The Man and you have an ability to Put Them Down that others not like you don't have.Your personal viewpoints on the matter are irrelevant; until the Institution changes as a whole, you are part of the problem.

[KnitShoni]

Um...where is this academic definition of racism located, and who came up with it? I was under the impression that prejudice dealt with the ideas a person has about another person/group based on their appearance/lifestyle/gender/what have you. Racism is actively treating said group/person differently because of their race. You don't have to be a heterosexual White male to do that. It doesn't require a great deal of power, or any power at all.

[FArchivist]

Um...where is this academic definition of racism located, and who came up with it? I was under the impression that prejudice dealt with the ideas a person has about another person/group based on their appearance/lifestyle/gender/what have you. Racism is actively treating said group/person differently because of their race. You don't have to be a heterosexual White male to do that. It doesn't require a great deal of power, or any power at all.

Here's an excellent academic paper on the subject. I then recommend following it up with these links:

White Privilege: Unpacking The Invisible Knapsack
The Anti-Racist Alliance on Whiteness as a Social Construct
Humor: Black People Love Us!
Back-Stepping Away From Racism: A Guide For White People

Please keep in mind that if you take a current sociology or race studies class in college, deviation from these definitions will earn you a failing grade. Also, you must be very, very aware of tone argument.

[Boozy]

Holy tangent, Batman!

We need to drop the discussion of racism here, please, and start a new thread. I think it will be popular.

The topic here is sexual orientation and how it does/does not affect behaviour.

Thanks, guys.

[Greenday]

"Whore yourself out"? Oh, now that's just classy.
Here, let me clue you in on a thing called slut shaming.

You realize that the term "whore" doesn't strictly pertain to females only, right?

[Canarr]

Well, the thread was basically started because of (alleged) gay sluts. So, FArchivist's links seem dead-on to me.

[Greenday]

Well, the thread was basically started because of (alleged) gay sluts. So, FArchivist's links seem dead-on to me.

Guess you didn't even check out the link? It's only about women who sleep around. It has nothing to do with men or being gay or bi. And being a whore applies to men too.