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I had my best friend come up to stay with us for a couple of days. We don't see each other often as we live at least 10 hours away from each other. My friend, we'll call her...Legend, is VERY passionate about everything law enforcement and self-protection. I'm somewhere inbetween Absolute and Conditional Pacifism. We make for an interesting pair to say the least 
Legend has become more into guns after she turned 21. She knows everything about holsters, guns and how to use them.
When she came up, she spent a lot of time lecturing Mr. Wooden and I about our lackadaisical attitude towards locking our door. And about our not having guns in the house. And my boyfriend's "subpar" boyfriendiness(?) (another topic entirely). I got really good at changing the subject to avoid confrontation, but it got to the point that I was incredibly annoyed. I appreciate that we have a difference in opinion, it makes life more interesting. I eventually kind of snapped at her. I finally made it known that we have no intention of changing our stance on locking our doors and we will not have guns in the house, period. I also requested a change in topic.
After that, things chilled a little bit, but the rest of her stay was pleasant.
What am I Fratching about? I'm a little torn. Healthy debate is good, but I'm not comfortable with debating on these topics. I'm not intending on preaching about the "evils of war" and "guns killing people" and all that rot. My stance is that I'm not comfortable with physical confrontation and guns make me uncomfortable. Nothing to debate, just my personal feelings. I'm a little upset at myself, because I didn't handle the situation as an adult. I should have sat Legend down and explained that I didn't agree with what she was preaching and felt a little insulted by the way she was approaching it. Instead, I raised my voice to her.
I know you guys have friends who are very passionate about certain debateable topics. Any suggestions, in case I run into this again?
Legend has become more into guns after she turned 21. She knows everything about holsters, guns and how to use them.
When she came up, she spent a lot of time lecturing Mr. Wooden and I about our lackadaisical attitude towards locking our door. And about our not having guns in the house. And my boyfriend's "subpar" boyfriendiness(?) (another topic entirely). I got really good at changing the subject to avoid confrontation, but it got to the point that I was incredibly annoyed. I appreciate that we have a difference in opinion, it makes life more interesting. I eventually kind of snapped at her. I finally made it known that we have no intention of changing our stance on locking our doors and we will not have guns in the house, period. I also requested a change in topic.
After that, things chilled a little bit, but the rest of her stay was pleasant.
What am I Fratching about? I'm a little torn. Healthy debate is good, but I'm not comfortable with debating on these topics. I'm not intending on preaching about the "evils of war" and "guns killing people" and all that rot. My stance is that I'm not comfortable with physical confrontation and guns make me uncomfortable. Nothing to debate, just my personal feelings. I'm a little upset at myself, because I didn't handle the situation as an adult. I should have sat Legend down and explained that I didn't agree with what she was preaching and felt a little insulted by the way she was approaching it. Instead, I raised my voice to her.
I know you guys have friends who are very passionate about certain debateable topics. Any suggestions, in case I run into this again?
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