Experience with shooting a gun doesn't automatically translate into experience with the finality of death. It's the lack of connection that is at issue.
As for when kids start to understand about death, I know that both my brother and I understood what death was before we moved away from the ranch, and I wasn't quite 6 at that time while my brother is over a year younger. I suspect that the problem isn't so much that kids can't understand it as much as adults don't know how to approach the subject, which is what leads to the continued reliance on magical thinking.
We had cats disappear and die fairly regularly, which is what happens when you live on a ranch, have over a dozen cats, and are surrounded by coyote country. We also knew where babies came from, too.
Neither of those subjects are as difficult to grasp as some people seem to want to make them. But most modern children are so insulated and isolated from both of those that it's all some huge mystery.
That said, every child develops differently, and it's up to the parents to actually make some sort of determination before allowing their children access to weapons. Most parents manage to fail at that first step.
As for when kids start to understand about death, I know that both my brother and I understood what death was before we moved away from the ranch, and I wasn't quite 6 at that time while my brother is over a year younger. I suspect that the problem isn't so much that kids can't understand it as much as adults don't know how to approach the subject, which is what leads to the continued reliance on magical thinking.
We had cats disappear and die fairly regularly, which is what happens when you live on a ranch, have over a dozen cats, and are surrounded by coyote country. We also knew where babies came from, too.
Neither of those subjects are as difficult to grasp as some people seem to want to make them. But most modern children are so insulated and isolated from both of those that it's all some huge mystery.
That said, every child develops differently, and it's up to the parents to actually make some sort of determination before allowing their children access to weapons. Most parents manage to fail at that first step.
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