My position on this is pretty simple: my house, my rules; your house, your rules.
Is that the accepted position, or is the opposite?
Some examples: My good friend has severe shellfish allergy. She makes anyone who is handling her food in any way very informed of this. She doesn't allow shellfish in her house, at pot lucks she only takes the food she made, before other utensils have the opportunity to cross contaminate. When her family is at my house, I continue making whatever for dinner I already had planned, and if there is shellfish in it, I very carefully make her something separate - a chicken breast out of the freezer or something. Once I gave her a tomato sandwich for dinner, because the lasagne I had in the oven had crawfish in it and she surprise showed up, and it was all I had on hand. She ate it and didn't complain. I assume because it is my house, and I can make whatever I want. When she was a member of a mother/baby group she would have people sneak in shrimp dip or similar to her house, because they all liked it so much. I was furious on her behalf, why should she allow that in her home? I guess being a good host means putting up with life threatening additions to your kitchen, because she just bitched a little but kept putting up with it.
My sister in law has these three obnoxious pocket dogs that rule the roost, with the help of my 2 year old niece. When you visit her house the dogs get the couch, the 2 year old sits in the recliner and the adults sit on the living room floor. I personally think it's loony that she lets that happen, but it's her house, so I shut up, sit on the floor and smile politely. When she comes to my house and the dogs jump on the couch I'll put them off or command them off it. She gets terribly offended 'We are guests in your house, you shouldn't treat them that way.' Uh, no. You and your family are guests in my house, the dogs just show up with you. I also lock them in the bedroom when we are eating because they are horribly active and interfering table scrap beggars, and it drives me nuts. I figure I put up with dogs scratching all over me and jumping on me while I eat at your house, and you should put up with dogs being (safely, with a bowl of water) segregated for an hour to eat at my house. She seems to think I'm very wrong.
I could pull up more examples and rant about this for a while, but I think I made the idea clear.
Is that the accepted position, or is the opposite?
Some examples: My good friend has severe shellfish allergy. She makes anyone who is handling her food in any way very informed of this. She doesn't allow shellfish in her house, at pot lucks she only takes the food she made, before other utensils have the opportunity to cross contaminate. When her family is at my house, I continue making whatever for dinner I already had planned, and if there is shellfish in it, I very carefully make her something separate - a chicken breast out of the freezer or something. Once I gave her a tomato sandwich for dinner, because the lasagne I had in the oven had crawfish in it and she surprise showed up, and it was all I had on hand. She ate it and didn't complain. I assume because it is my house, and I can make whatever I want. When she was a member of a mother/baby group she would have people sneak in shrimp dip or similar to her house, because they all liked it so much. I was furious on her behalf, why should she allow that in her home? I guess being a good host means putting up with life threatening additions to your kitchen, because she just bitched a little but kept putting up with it.
My sister in law has these three obnoxious pocket dogs that rule the roost, with the help of my 2 year old niece. When you visit her house the dogs get the couch, the 2 year old sits in the recliner and the adults sit on the living room floor. I personally think it's loony that she lets that happen, but it's her house, so I shut up, sit on the floor and smile politely. When she comes to my house and the dogs jump on the couch I'll put them off or command them off it. She gets terribly offended 'We are guests in your house, you shouldn't treat them that way.' Uh, no. You and your family are guests in my house, the dogs just show up with you. I also lock them in the bedroom when we are eating because they are horribly active and interfering table scrap beggars, and it drives me nuts. I figure I put up with dogs scratching all over me and jumping on me while I eat at your house, and you should put up with dogs being (safely, with a bowl of water) segregated for an hour to eat at my house. She seems to think I'm very wrong.
I could pull up more examples and rant about this for a while, but I think I made the idea clear.
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