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So, I have a friend who is also on Fratching. Young-ish. Still lives at home. Doesn't have a job. Doesn't have a license. Is supposed to be going to community college and proving that Friend can handle real college before the parents (Mother, mostly) will send Friend.
Friend recently had a birthday during the second week of this month.
Friend received some funds from a couple of relatives, so Mother declared that Friend had to write thank you notes. Mother dictated that the notes had to go to relatives A and B. Friend disagreed, stating that Relative B never sent any gift, but relative C did. Mother declares Friend wrong and demands that Friend write the thank yous immediately. So Friend writes the notes, upset that Mother refuses to believe that Friend might be right or even wait until it can be confirmed. It's worth nothing that the ones Friend was forced to thank were Mother's relatives and the one Friend wasn't allowed to thank was one of Father's relatives.
Friend writes out one of the addresses to "Uncle X and Aunt Y." Mother has a fit, declaring that it's wrong despite that being the way that Friend has always written it. Mother berates Friend, Friend gets upset and yells back, and Mother takes $20 of the gift money for it. When Friend redoes them, Father says it's a miracle that Friend did something right. Then, later, Mother takes another $10 of he gift money because Friend left the stamps out.
Then, less than an hour later, Mother decides that Friend has to give her the whole $125 back (ignoring the $30 she already took) because Friend didn't write the thank yous fast enough. She is now declaring that she begged Friend for weeks. And Father is stating that it's ok for them to take Friend's money away because Mother got upset, and it's all Friend's fault that Mother was upset, so it's ok for Mother to take Friend's money, now.
She also charged Friend for "leaving the pillows out of order" in the basement. Because she "had to pick up after Friend." Here's a direct quote from Friend: "She says she's helping me because the rest of the family pities me and she's acting as a screen against that..."
This isn't even close to all of it. This doesn't include so very much. And I know it's also one-sided. But I want to know: Does this look like an abusive relationship to anyone else?
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Friend recently had a birthday during the second week of this month.
Friend received some funds from a couple of relatives, so Mother declared that Friend had to write thank you notes. Mother dictated that the notes had to go to relatives A and B. Friend disagreed, stating that Relative B never sent any gift, but relative C did. Mother declares Friend wrong and demands that Friend write the thank yous immediately. So Friend writes the notes, upset that Mother refuses to believe that Friend might be right or even wait until it can be confirmed. It's worth nothing that the ones Friend was forced to thank were Mother's relatives and the one Friend wasn't allowed to thank was one of Father's relatives.
Friend writes out one of the addresses to "Uncle X and Aunt Y." Mother has a fit, declaring that it's wrong despite that being the way that Friend has always written it. Mother berates Friend, Friend gets upset and yells back, and Mother takes $20 of the gift money for it. When Friend redoes them, Father says it's a miracle that Friend did something right. Then, later, Mother takes another $10 of he gift money because Friend left the stamps out.
Then, less than an hour later, Mother decides that Friend has to give her the whole $125 back (ignoring the $30 she already took) because Friend didn't write the thank yous fast enough. She is now declaring that she begged Friend for weeks. And Father is stating that it's ok for them to take Friend's money away because Mother got upset, and it's all Friend's fault that Mother was upset, so it's ok for Mother to take Friend's money, now.
She also charged Friend for "leaving the pillows out of order" in the basement. Because she "had to pick up after Friend." Here's a direct quote from Friend: "She says she's helping me because the rest of the family pities me and she's acting as a screen against that..."
This isn't even close to all of it. This doesn't include so very much. And I know it's also one-sided. But I want to know: Does this look like an abusive relationship to anyone else?
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