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This is likely to be a fairly long post. Probably incoherent at times.
The background to this is that I know several people with advice for me. The variance in personalities is fairly even. On one extreme is PLC - Pizza Loving Chum - who reckons romance, especially the sex part, would be particularly good for me. I tend to view romance as being for people who know what they're doing (if I find either of them, I'll let you know). He now endorses 'pay to play' (so to speak) as a good method of feeling ... excellent about yourself, I guess. I dont' particularly feel such activities are unethical, but I don't see why I should be involved. In short, live for the now.
Another is Successful Chum (PLC is successful, but not in the same way) - he also reckons romance would be good for me, though has backed off in recent years. He tends to the view of live for the future - save up, pay off debt, live a better life over the length of it.
Those are the two extremes, and there are others inbetween. The whole relationship between us all isn't just down to me being dragged one way or another, and for the most part I'm fiscally trying to emulate SC, just so I can free up more cash for later. Most of this has been driven by my father's lack of brains and success, and the way I was sort of having to work for long hours for sod all to support him. I also abhor debt after seeing him use credit cards as cashflow, and then hope something would turn up to help him get out of the hole. It never really did. However, of late I've started to get my finances to a position where I've managed start having spare cash for saving up decently, and I have a few choices. I was initially going for solar panels - partly as an investment and partly to prop up my occasionally shoddy green credentials. The investment potential there has cracked, and I've looked at other options, such as throwing it at my mortgage to knock it down and free up more spare cash (far better payback than solar) and so forth. I'm more or less working on improving my income and suchlike - a long term proposition, that will eventually pay off.
However, two days back a work colleague died. There's a post on CS in GWC. I've started to wonder if I'm missing out. PLC's advice to enjoy life more because we're a long time dead is making more sense, though not necessarily the methodology involved. I'm 42 and somewhat out of shape (heavily overweight), though I can manage fifteen or twenty minutes on the crosstrainer (elliptical) from time to time.
I'm not asking for direct advice on what I do or how or why, since I doubt I've mentioned everything from my perspective above. I'm more interested in what tack other people take on this. Live to work or work to live? I'd also be interested in why you do that.
Rapscallion
The background to this is that I know several people with advice for me. The variance in personalities is fairly even. On one extreme is PLC - Pizza Loving Chum - who reckons romance, especially the sex part, would be particularly good for me. I tend to view romance as being for people who know what they're doing (if I find either of them, I'll let you know). He now endorses 'pay to play' (so to speak) as a good method of feeling ... excellent about yourself, I guess. I dont' particularly feel such activities are unethical, but I don't see why I should be involved. In short, live for the now.
Another is Successful Chum (PLC is successful, but not in the same way) - he also reckons romance would be good for me, though has backed off in recent years. He tends to the view of live for the future - save up, pay off debt, live a better life over the length of it.
Those are the two extremes, and there are others inbetween. The whole relationship between us all isn't just down to me being dragged one way or another, and for the most part I'm fiscally trying to emulate SC, just so I can free up more cash for later. Most of this has been driven by my father's lack of brains and success, and the way I was sort of having to work for long hours for sod all to support him. I also abhor debt after seeing him use credit cards as cashflow, and then hope something would turn up to help him get out of the hole. It never really did. However, of late I've started to get my finances to a position where I've managed start having spare cash for saving up decently, and I have a few choices. I was initially going for solar panels - partly as an investment and partly to prop up my occasionally shoddy green credentials. The investment potential there has cracked, and I've looked at other options, such as throwing it at my mortgage to knock it down and free up more spare cash (far better payback than solar) and so forth. I'm more or less working on improving my income and suchlike - a long term proposition, that will eventually pay off.
However, two days back a work colleague died. There's a post on CS in GWC. I've started to wonder if I'm missing out. PLC's advice to enjoy life more because we're a long time dead is making more sense, though not necessarily the methodology involved. I'm 42 and somewhat out of shape (heavily overweight), though I can manage fifteen or twenty minutes on the crosstrainer (elliptical) from time to time.
I'm not asking for direct advice on what I do or how or why, since I doubt I've mentioned everything from my perspective above. I'm more interested in what tack other people take on this. Live to work or work to live? I'd also be interested in why you do that.
Rapscallion
Just... empathy.
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