Some Guys' Attitudes About Sex

[Racket_Man]

As for the idea of period sex, all I have to say is, again,

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as a guy whose Ex had a slightly higher than normal sex drive (but then again I did not mind that for quite a while) having period sex is not really all that different from "normal" sex. at first I though "EWWWWWW GROSS" but horniness won out.



try not to get to vigirious and out of control, have an old but still intact absorbidant towel underneath (wash after each use and only use this towel exclusively for this purpose) and both need to clean up right afterwards (cuddle after clean up is a must). yeah it has a different feeling to it. some can get into it some can not just like anal

[Lace Neil Singer]

Well, if it makes you feel any better, I took a guys' virginity, and pretty much regret it, because I turned him into a monster.

And Lace, oh God, the jokes about sex being off limits during the period week, that used to piss me off something mighty! If men bled out their dicks or asses for a week, I bet they wouldn't want anyone touching them either!

Not to mention the lovely pain that goes with it; I get stomach cramps and headaches mostly, with the occasional bit of bloating to go with it. I feel ill and definitely not sexy, and my boobs are also far too sensitive to be touched. -.-

I have to wonder if there's anybody on this board who doesn't regret losing their virginity? And it wasn't so much a pressure thing for me as it was that I let my emotions and my sex drive control my rational thought process.

I don't regret losing mine. I waited til I was ready, and it was romantic and I loved the guy I lost it to. Just as I wanted it to be.

As for anal, NO. WAY. It's an exit, end of subject. Want to try it so bad? Then buy your girl a strap on. Funny, you've gone off the idea now; wonder why?

[Boozy]

Fiance has been wanting to try anal, but he won't do anything when I'm on my period. I'm like, blood bothers you but poop doesn't? Weird.

Maybe he thinks it'll be like in porn, where the women have bleached their assholes, had anal enemas, and have had nothing to eat for 24 hours.

In reality, minor accidents can happen. And if he's weirded out by your period, I wouldn't trust his reaction if things got a bit messy. That's just my two cents, anyway.

[blas87]

Boozy, you mean to say it isn't normal to spend part of your grooming time bleaching your butt and douching it?

I've been doing it wrong all this time, I guess

That, or if in the middle of the work week, my bf and I happen to spend an hour or two together after work, and he feels the prickles on my legs or *ahem* other area, and makes a comment. Hey, know what? I don't shave my legs and other area every day (esp the other area every day, that burns!), especially during the work week when I'm not doing or wearing anything requiring me to look great. I do him a courtesy of shaving when we are spending an entire day/evening together, as part of my routine of dressing up in my nicer clothes and doing my hair and makeup nicer than I do for work.

[Nyoibo]

I have to wonder if there's anybody on this board who doesn't regret losing their virginity?

Nope, I'm still with her and coming up on 2 years together next month.

Do it, it's the shit!

I see what you did there.

[telecom_goddess]

ok I missed when this turned into a discussion of anal sex and bleaching assholes and period sex

as for virginity lost I don't regret the way I lost mine. It was on a 4th of July and it was special.

[Jaden]

Ok, I get it, I spoke too soon Hardly anybody on here regretted losing their virginity except me, blas, and Gravekeeper. Got it.

[Nyoibo]

The only thing I regret about it is that it took until I was 27

[fireheart17]

Nope, I'm still with her and coming up on 2 years together next month.

3 years in June/July for me and Thorgrim (boyfriend).

The only thing I regret about it is that it took until I was 27

A guy friend of mine is late 20's and is still a virgin. Whether by choice or not, I have no idea. So you are not alone.

I lost mine shortly before I turned 19. With Thorgim. In a room that was part of a hostel, but not part of the hostel in a way

[Mishi]

I was about a month past 16 when I jumped Rugz (we'd been together for a year) I married the poor bastard as well!
9 years as a couple next month

[Jaden]

The only thing I regret about it is that it took until I was 27

There's no shame in remaining a virgin that long or longer, whether you're male or female. Don't let society's standards dictate that kind of thing for you.

[Amanita]

I am virgin by choice, I've never found anyone I liked "that way" so far.
One of my coworkers could not believe that, and told me that I needed to "get fucked" on my vacation to NYC. I should be a "bad girl", the one who nobody knows.
Her plan for me was this:
Go to a bar (I don't really like bars that much)
Wear a little black dress (I don't own one, don't want)
Get a glass of wine or get a guy to buy me one
Bring him back to my hotel room, and let him fuck me.

And here's my reasons why this didn't happen:
I don't like the idea of casual sex with no connection between partners. If other people are into that, fine as long as they use protection. But I'm not.
I would like my first time to count for something- it doesn't have to be "earth moving", but I would like it to be with somebody I really do care about.
Let's not even get started on how hella dangerous it might be to bring some strange guy back to my hotel room, and how many ways that could go wrong.

I wish people would stop looking at those who opt to stay virgins as freaks or pity objects. If sexual freedom only works one way (free to have sex, but the choice to abstain is invalid or worthy of mockery) then it's not really freedom at all.

[Jaden]

And here's my reasons why this didn't happen:
I don't like the idea of casual sex with no connection between partners. If other people are into that, fine as long as they use protection. But I'm not.
I would like my first time to count for something- it doesn't have to be "earth moving", but I would like it to be with somebody I really do care about.
Let's not even get started on how hella dangerous it might be to bring some strange guy back to my hotel room, and how many ways that could go wrong.

All great principles to have, and all principles that I myself hold as well.

I wish people would stop looking at those who opt to stay virgins as freaks or pity objects. If sexual freedom only works one way (free to have sex, but the choice to abstain is invalid or worthy of mockery) then it's not really freedom at all.

I agree with this as well. I'm rather disturbed by the cultural idea that if you're a virgin for any later than, say, 19 or 20, you're a loser or a freak. There's nothing wrong with that. I'd say it's very healthy to wait for somebody you love and trust, rather than to fuck just to fuck. The girl I lost it to, I did love and trust her. It just turned out my love and trust was...misplaced, is all.

[blas87]

There's nothing wrong with waiting for the right person. And throwing it away just to "get it over with" is very stupid.

I would love to go back in time and slap the shit out of myself in high school.

[Lace Neil Singer]

Exactly; I was twenty one when I lost mine, and I'm now engaged to the guy I lost it to. It's far better to treat it as a gift you give to the one you love, rather than as a nuisance to be got rid of at the first opportunity.