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    Some of you have mentioned using these things. There is one site that I have used off and on for a few years now. I've had modest luck with it, but nothing that I've hoped for. Oh well. That's not really what I'm posting about today, anyway.

    On this site, user profiles are broken into several categories, and every time I read through these categories on other people's profiles, I start feeling a little inferior. Well, that's a little extreme. I don't actually feel inferior, but it makes me sit and wonder "Gee, am I the only ordinary person left?"

    For example, one category on the profile asks the user to talk about the most recent book he or she read. Almost every time I see this on someone's profile, she'll list a book like "Grandma's Prodigal Angel" (I just made that title up for an example), and when she desribes the book, it'll be something like, "It was a harrowing book based on a true story about a girl, orphaned at the age of three, who overcame all odds against her and battled a tumultous childhood to become a heart surgeon, and every time she thought about giving up, she remember some special advice her grandmother gave her on her dying bed. It reminded me of my own childhood and my relationship with my own grandmother, and it gave me hope that someday I might be able to accomplish something big."

    You want to know the last book I read? It was a mystery novel. It was When Day Breaks by Mary Jane Clark. It was about a news caster who was murdered after she left a popular news program. Right now, I'm reading another book by the same author called "Dying for Mercy," which is also a murder mystery.

    Likewise, another category asks the user to talk briefly about the most influencial person in his or her life. Almost every time I see this on someone's profile, it's something like "I would have to say my high school English teacher. He challenged me to accomplish more than I ever dreamed, and he inspired me to write my memoirs and apply to *insert prestigious university* even though I insisted I couldn't do it. Even today, he gives me advice and shows me ways to make my life more special."

    Me? Well, honestly, I can't think of one single person who has been "the most influential person in my life." I've had people who have helped me along the way, but as far as being above-and-beyond inspirational, no one really comes to mind.

    Maybe this sounds like one of those "Woe as me" rants, but I read these and it seems like everyone has inspirational people all around them, and everyone else is reading inspiring, intellectual literature while I can't think of any influential people for me and as I sit here and read mystery novels that many people probably read while sitting on the beach or waiting for the dentist to clean their teeth.

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    I signed up on a few of them (Gawd that makes me sound desperate ) after I got tired of meeting the same typical "Vegas Girl" over and over again. One of them asks you to list what book you read last. I don't know how many times I saw "Eat, Pray, Love." I almost feel pressured into reading it now.
    Some People Are Alive Only Because It's Illegal To Kill Them.

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    • #3
      A lot of profiles definitely look generic. If I can't get through the first few sentences without getting bored because it looks like the last ten I've read, then I'm done reading their profile.

      When I actually read a profile that's really different and interesting, even if I'm not interested in the person, I still message them and give them props for their awesome profile.
      Violence has resolved more conflicts than anything else. The contrary opinion that violence doesn't solve anything is merely wishful thinking at its worst. - Starship Troopers

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      • #4
        Those "inspirational" books are usually crap anyway... even if they turn out to be essentially true.

        But they sound great, which is the point of listing them. Just like, with the "influential person" one. Most people *don't* have just one person who shaped their life, and most people don't have one that stands out as inspiring. But it doesn't sound good not to be able to list one, so people either think of someone they can embellish or lie outright.
        "My in-laws are country people and at night you can hear their distinctive howl."

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        • #5
          I think people are just trying to make themselves look really good and smart. LoL I doubt that is always really the last book they read. They probably spent a lot of time trying to think up "good" answers rather than being completely honest.

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          • #6
            why not put for last book "The cat in the hat"... then do a long write-up synopsis of it

            Oh crap! I just realised, the last book I read (as in, actually read, and not just skimmed or had for study) was Journey to the West (aka, Monkey King). And that was over a year ago!
            ZOE: Preacher, don't the Bible got some pretty specific things to say about killing?

            SHEPHERD BOOK: Quite specific. It is, however, Somewhat fuzzier on the subject of kneecaps.

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            • #7
              *disclaimer* I first read this thread a few days ago but never posted and have not re read the OP since.

              Some of the OP reads more like 'measuring my life against those of others' more than dating profiles in general, I found myself doing that a while back,
              "Wow Celebrity X is my age and look what s/he's done with his/her life."
              After a while I accepted that not everyone is cut out to make an impact on the world (short of a crass joke) and that there were many people like me who will never ammount to much and I just accepted that I am going from day to day working and sleeping when I could be out having fun (my one weekend off last month and the only decent club was shut FFS).

              I toyed with a few dating sites, 3 are all run by the same company and I found this out whilst registering for the 2nd.
              I got dozzens of emails a day about private messages, but unless I stumped up money I couldn't see who sent it or what they wrote. They had a few read your messages free days and I found all of em were mail bombs that they offer new members, so I let that slide and my account has been listed as idle I no longer get emails.

              Edit:
              One profiel I listed "Finally watching all of Metropolis" as an acievement or something (not last movie watched though) as it was a bit of a joke for me as when I got it on VHS as a covermount I would pop it in watch a bit, go do something, watch some more etc then the movie was over and I had watched little of it, I would do this often and perhaps see all of the movie just not sequentially, I got it on DVD after finding it in a box set for way less than the £20 they wanted for it by itself and I think I made it through the whole thing without falling asleep, but I can't say if that is accurate.

              As for books, I started the Morganville vampire books summer of last year, but I got partway through book 7? but never picked it back up so that was Augustish.
              I would not put anything highbrow on there even if I had just finished reading it as it comes off as pretentious, I loved Meg and Mog books as a child and would happily rebuy the set (did once but flood damaged my copies) and would list Webfoot as the book I most want to read as I had that as a child but it's been out of print longer than fly fishing by J R Heartly.
              Last edited by Ginger Tea; 05-03-2012, 02:16 PM.

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