Graphic Sexual Question.

[Jester]

Again, this is graphic, so if you're squeamish or uncomfortable with this kind of talk, you should probably just to watch the newest episode of Glee.

(Hey, can't say I didn't warn ya.....)



Was talking to a female friend recently, and the topic of sex came up. Specifically sex while a woman is having her period. She said that most of the guys she's dated or been involved with were completely grossed out by the idea. I suggested to her that it was something about the guys she dates, because I guessed that most guys wouldn't be that weirded out by it. She disagreed. She even brought up the topic at a bar she frequents, and said that most of the people she talked with about it there were definitely more in the "Ewwww" camp than in the "No biggie" camp.

Myself, I have no issue with it. I won't go down on a girl during that time of month, buy as my dick doesn't have taste buds, I see no problem with intercourse at that time. It makes sense to me, even if it's not completely logical. But, yeah, I don't want to taste that!

So, what are your opinions on the matter? And I'm curious about what both guys and girls think about this. So, what do y'all think?

[ExRetailDrone]

I'll tackle this topic, I'm not squeamish about this.

I'm a girl and I'm actually in the "Ewww" camp. My husband has no problem with sex while I'm on my period, but he wouldn't go down on me, not that I would let him anyway But me, I'm not very comfortable with it. My ex boyfriends had no problem with it, either. Seems like my experience is the complete opposite of your friend's.

[siead_lietrathua]

i can get why not for the guys that don't, blood in general is a squeamish thing for some people, and the idea of interacting with it intimately can be squicky. blood isn't pretty, especially when dealing with periods. it can be an array of colours based on cycle time, and can contain clot-lumps and other gross-looking stuff.
for women, i think it depends on their cycle type (heavy, light, etc), where she is in her cycle, her own comfort level with blood, whether or not the hormones elevate or kill her sex drive, etc.

some of it also depends on culture a person is raised in. many people, myself included, are still raised with the concept that periods are dirty and gross, and need to be hidden. think of the ads involving things like "odor blocking, leak proof, no embarrassment" and etc. thank god ads seem to be moving away from that now.

on the personal level, i have one partner in the "eww" camp, that hates blood. another in the "meh" camp whose response to that question is "that's what towels are for". and myself, it depends on where i am in my cycle.

[Jester]

One additional thought that I forgot to put in the original post is that I've heard that, for some women, anyway, sex while on the period is actually better, i.e, it turns them on more. Not because they like the idea of it, mind you, but because the hormones are kicking in more and/or because for some reason, the experience is heightened for them. Being a guy I can't tackle that subject directly, of course, but would be interested in hearing your thoughts on this, too.

[Gerrinson]

Both my wife and I are in the 'ewww' camp. Her, because she has terrible cramps throughout and is generally completely uncomfortable & miserable for the duration. Me because I've got too much of a blood = biohazard thing going on.

[DGoddess]

As a woman, consider me in the "Ewwww" corner. I'm turned off by that and refuse to participate that week.

I feel bad enough with the mood swings and every so often, I'll have bad cramping and sex is the LAST thing I'll think about during that time.

And it doesn't matter if the guy isn't squeamish by it - there are all types of guys out there - if I'm not in the mood, it ain't happening.

[Jester]

And it doesn't matter if the guy isn't squeamish by it - there are all types of guys out there - if I'm not in the mood, it ain't happening.

Well, of course.

[Greenday]

I don't know anyone personally who is cool with it. I'm not, my girlfriend's not, none of my ex's were, and none of my guy friends are.

[Andara Bledin]

I couldn't care less. Thankfully, I rarely have bad cramping and the hormones kick my drive up, not down.

I've had all of two long-term relationships, and neither of them had any issues about timing. If we were both in the mood, it was on.

[Aethian]

I don't mind but my ex's I think were all against. During some of the harder cramps it's a no go but in some instances the inner muscle contractions actually help the clots get moving faster.

[Andara Bledin]

I have heard that orgasms actually help reduce cramping in many women. I know that wen I'm more active before and during, that things hurt less and end sooner.

[siead_lietrathua]

yes orgasms do ease cramping and stuff. it can also reduce risks of cancer in both men and women.
(i think i read too much)

but you don't have to have partner-sex to achieve those benefits

[Kheldarson]

I just...no. No. Nononononono.

I don't like when I'm bleeding; I feel out of whack, squicky, and strange. But hubs has indicated interest during that time, to which my response is: "As long as you do the resultant laundry." >.<

Strangely, he's yet to take me up on that...

[Kelmon]

To me, sex while she has her period is something you do if "there's no oher way", for example if it's the last chance to have sex before you're apart for months. Or you just can't wait. I'm not grossed out by it, but it's not great either.
In general, I rather wait the two or three days instead of having to make the bed blood-resistant first. Besides, there's plenty of other enjoyable things you can do instead.

Based on my experience, women vary wildly between "ewww!" and "great!", as well as finding sex on her period better or worse than usual, being more or less horny than usual, and it helping with menstrual pain or doing the exact opposite.

[AmbrosiaWriter]

I'm a chick and I'm not really sure I'd want to do it while ON my period. Why? Because I get really tender down there and it actually becomes painful rather than more pleasurable.

However, the 5 or so days before the period? That's when my hormones start kicking in. "Hey. Hey. HAVE SEX. I'M GOING TO MAKE YOU THINK ABOUT SEX ALL DAMN DAY. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA."