I've recently changed a lot of the ways I think and approach life and dating. And you know what? I've already been accused of being "selfish" and thinking it's all about me by a couple of dates.
Feel free to bash me like they have. I'm no longer apologizing for stepping on toes in the name of making sure people like me!
For the best years of my life, meaning I have already wasted my late teens and early and now mid 20s on a bunch of fucking worthless people who used me as a personal umbrella and welcome mat on their rainy days. I have put others before myself and I never, ever should have done that. It always resulted in me being hurt. Remember that awful saying what you allow will continue? It's fucking true!
I woke up one day, realizing 27 is knocking on my door. Not old by any means, but hell, these are supposed to be the best years of my life. While I'm still single and without children and while I'm still looking and feeling good, it's about damn time I came first all the time in my own life.
Eventually, I tired of excuses, lies, and working around other people's stupid hangups and quirks. Do you really think anyone works hard around mine? No way. And I'm not typing all of this for sympathy, or to sound like one of those whiney martyr drama whores. I am saying this in all seriousness. I started to feel like such an idiot when I realized that for too long, with so many people, I was willing to work around so much bullshit just in the sake of trying to make things work with friends and guys. HOW STUPID IS THAT? I mean, I wasted nearly a year of my life with a guy who was inappropriate with his ex wife and I was dumb enough to work around all of his excuses and the bullshit around that. I was dumb enough to try to work around a guy with a severe personality issue involving beyond normal passive aggressive behavior and a hatred of social things and people. Not until things ever became such a problem did I realize that no one had worked around me at all.
I'm important to me. And I'm all about me now.
If you think it's selfish that I nip idiot behavior in the bud, call something off because you act like an ass, or if you want to end a friendship because I'm no longer working around guilt trips and passive aggressive behavior on Facebook on Halloween..........you better fucking mean it when you say you aren't talking to me anymore or when you delete me or when you say I'm too selfish to deal with!
Feel free to bash me like they have. I'm no longer apologizing for stepping on toes in the name of making sure people like me!
For the best years of my life, meaning I have already wasted my late teens and early and now mid 20s on a bunch of fucking worthless people who used me as a personal umbrella and welcome mat on their rainy days. I have put others before myself and I never, ever should have done that. It always resulted in me being hurt. Remember that awful saying what you allow will continue? It's fucking true!
I woke up one day, realizing 27 is knocking on my door. Not old by any means, but hell, these are supposed to be the best years of my life. While I'm still single and without children and while I'm still looking and feeling good, it's about damn time I came first all the time in my own life.
Eventually, I tired of excuses, lies, and working around other people's stupid hangups and quirks. Do you really think anyone works hard around mine? No way. And I'm not typing all of this for sympathy, or to sound like one of those whiney martyr drama whores. I am saying this in all seriousness. I started to feel like such an idiot when I realized that for too long, with so many people, I was willing to work around so much bullshit just in the sake of trying to make things work with friends and guys. HOW STUPID IS THAT? I mean, I wasted nearly a year of my life with a guy who was inappropriate with his ex wife and I was dumb enough to work around all of his excuses and the bullshit around that. I was dumb enough to try to work around a guy with a severe personality issue involving beyond normal passive aggressive behavior and a hatred of social things and people. Not until things ever became such a problem did I realize that no one had worked around me at all.
I'm important to me. And I'm all about me now.
If you think it's selfish that I nip idiot behavior in the bud, call something off because you act like an ass, or if you want to end a friendship because I'm no longer working around guilt trips and passive aggressive behavior on Facebook on Halloween..........you better fucking mean it when you say you aren't talking to me anymore or when you delete me or when you say I'm too selfish to deal with!
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