Another kid dead - this time in Michigan.

[Peppergirl]

http://www.freep.com/article/2009060...+learned+today



Granted, they haven't charged anyone yet, but the so-called 'mother' of this girl spent more time defending her sex-offender boyfriend to the media than she did talking about her missing child.

I am sick and fucking tired of these women who put the men in their lives before the welfare of their children.

Here's a tip, ladies: If you meet your mate at the parole office, you may wanna THINK TWICE about it, especially if he's BANNED FROM HAVING CONTACT with children.

Even if it turns out that one of her sex-offender buddies didn't harm Nevaeh, the fact is she put her daughter at risk by allowing these men to be in contact with her, knowing damned well their parole forbids it. Guess what? It FORBIDS IT FOR A REASON!!!

God, I'm fired up about this. Thoughts?

[blas87]

I hear you loud and clear.

On the one hand, you've got people who are convinced every single male of a certain age/race/appearance is a sex offender and let's go get em!

And then on the other hand, you have the bleeding hearts who think that once these men are out of jail/prison, we shouldn't be monitoring them so heavily and that the reason they keep reoffending and the reason that they stay criminals is because we treat them so poorly.

Well, when you commit dirty crimes, you are now dirt. You will be treated like dirt from here on. Don't want that kind of rep and humiliation the rest of your life, then don't rape girls, don't touch children inappropriately, and DO NOT VIOLATE YOUR FUCKING PAROLE AND YOUR TERMS OF RELEASE! AND FOLLOW THE FUCKING LAW!

[Greenday]

Do we even know what the boyfriend did? For all we know, it was just urinating in public.

[Peppergirl]

Yeah - he was convicted of raping a 15 year old girl. There was also a second person she was 'friends' with who is a sex offender as well, but I'm not sure what his charge was.

My point being, as a parent - why would you even take the risk of exposing your child if someone has that label?

Sorry, my kids come first. I'm not gonna take the chance that maybe someone didn't deserve the label...I'm just not going to allow them around my kids. It's very simple. When you become a parent, the welfare of your children takes prescedence over your personal beliefs and choices.

[blas87]

Why would you want to date a man on parole for raping a 15 year old girl?

[Peppergirl]

Why would you want to date a man on parole for raping a 15 year old girl?

And if you did date that person, as long as you're CHILDESS, that's on you.

While I think someone would be an absolute IDIOT for dating someone who was convicted of rape, as long as you don't have a kid exposed to that person, that's your personal choice. A fucked-up choice, but as an adult, you have the RIGHT to choose who you're exposed to. You lose that right when you have kids to think about.

Listen, I know the system is flawed. I know that there are cases where innocent people are convicted of sex crimes and I know there are people who have the 'sex offender' label for doing something as minor as urinating in public. And as an adult, if I chose to befriend or be in a relationship with one of those people, that's my choice.

But until these laws are changed, no mother should take the chance and expose their child to ANYONE who has been convicted of a sex crime.

[BlaqueKatt]

But until these laws are changed, no mother should take the chance and expose their child to ANYONE who has been convicted of a sex crime.

or maybe not go with the "knee-jerk reaction" of sex offender=child molester and find out what they were convicted of-most states have a searchable database of court records online. Nice article on sex offenders here

"Clinicians say the odds of an individual re-offending can be predicted with reasonable confidence by assessments that take into account age, offense, history and other variables. In the entire population of sex offenders, clinicians say, about 15 percent bear close watch."


And from reading the articles-yes all of them the mother said he was not her boyfriend-(I didn't see her defending him in any of them either-they didn't have many statements from her period-understandable sinc if my child was missing I'd rather not talk to the press)-the reporters kept calling him one though. From the first article-"Nevaeh's mother denied a love interest in Kennedy, describing him as a friend who calls her every morning"

[kibbles]

Yeah - he was convicted of raping a 15 year old girl.

Was it really rape though, or was it a charge of statutory?

[Peppergirl]

And from reading the articles-yes all of them the mother said he was not her boyfriend-(I didn't see her defending him in any of them either-they didn't have many statements from her period-understandable sinc if my child was missing I'd rather not talk to the press)-the reporters kept calling him one though. From the first article-"Nevaeh's mother denied a love interest in Kennedy, describing him as a friend who calls her every morning"

Her own brother and several of her own relatives have been quoted as saying he was her 'boyfriend', at least at one time. She has admitted in at least one interview that he was a former boyfriend.

"My relationship with George was just friends," Jennifer Buchanan told MyFOXDetroit. "I haven't dated him for a year and a half now. I am not a judgmental person so I looked over (his sex offenses), but at the same time I still kept my guards up on that."

She has also gone on record as saying he was a 'father figure' to Nevaeh. This was during an interview with a Detroit radio show.

"Kennedy, a former prison inmate and registered sex offender is said to have been a “father figure” to the young girl”
"George had a good relationship upon my daughter as a father figure, always there for her. "

If he came around she'd see him she'd run up to him and hug him," Jennifer Buchanan told MyFOXDetroit during an interview this morning."

As for a 'knee-jerk' reaction...when it comes to my kids, I'd rather be safe than sorry. If that makes me a hard-ass, so be it.

[Flyndaran]

So a guy has has sex with / rapes a 15 year old, so that autmatically makes him a danger to infants?
Interesting, how no one mentions the woman's violent criminal history.

[Peppergirl]

So a guy has has sex with / rapes a 15 year old, so that autmatically makes him a danger to infants?
Interesting, how no one mentions the woman's violent criminal history.

Oh wait, you were SERIOUS with that first question?

First off, she wasn't an infant. She was five. Secondly, yes - a man who has sex with or rapes a 15 year old is not going around my child, regardless of the childs age. How would that even be a question?

As to her violent criminal history - oh yes, she's a prize alright. Served time for home invasion. She apparently met her boyfriend/friend/booty-call/kids 'father figure' at the parole office.

[Flyndaran]

Oh wait, you were SERIOUS with that first question?

First off, she wasn't an infant. She was five. Secondly, yes - a man who has sex with or rapes a 15 year old is not going around my child, regardless of the childs age. How would that even be a question?
...:

I never said that parents must fraternize with anyone they don't want to.
I just don't like how all those that can be described in a single word or phrase are considered identical.
Most people that rape have a very very specific target group.
It's a linguistic argument more than a sex one.

[Slytovhand]

I'm not specifically commenting on this particular case, as we don't have all the facts... (this guy could actually be a really nice guy, and totally innocent... but then again... maybe not).


But, I'll throw in a few cents worth of personal experience.

I have an 'ex'. She is an ex for a very good reason. She was married to a guy who 'liked' her 12/13 year old daughter (to a different father). When this became apparent (after said child woke up in places she shouldn't, with no memories of how she got there... and also him actually admitting his interest in her), she left him... reluctantly!

That's not long before her and I hooked up. He was then stalking her (and later, me )

What blows, is after a couple of months together (and of absolute crap!), she decided to go back to him! This, after her other daughter had let her know in no uncertain ways that if she had anything to do with him, she'd leave and take little sis with her. And her sisters also said pretty much the same thing - you have anything more to do with him, you lose all contact with us. (I, of course, was a write-off anyway! )

So, last I saw of her was in a mental hospital after her psych rang me after an appointment, after she decided to admit herself (and I, being fairly rational, was the logical person to call, as I don't panic!)

Yep, she decided to go back to him... because "he loves me, and makes me feel good"....

'He' is not only stalker material, but had previously been done for assualt of a police officer... and had that sort of control freak mentality ("Where are you going, when are you going to be back, who's going to be there... well, no, you can't go"). Which is why her kids were very wary of me at first (til I had a sit down and relaxed chat with the elder daughter... we got along fabulously after that )

I (like many people) have a nickname for certain ex's. Her's is SFB. (Unintelligent, copulating, she-dog).

(FTR, last I heard.... the 2 kids had left mum and were living together elsewhere. Also, so I heard some years later, she had once again left him and shacked up with some other guy. Daughter had not been touched or anything since! 'He' is, somehow, still alive )

[Rubyred]

Here's a better idea: Don't let your 5 year old out of your apartment unsupervised no matter how trustworthy you think they are. No matter who you're friends with.

If you read the other articles, the mother let the little girl go upstairs unsupervised to play with the neighbors child...yeah that was dumb.

[IDrinkaRum]

Buried body confirmed to be Nevaeh

I didn't realize this, but she looks so much like my little girl (brown hair/eyes, sweet smile). It's just so, so sad.