*Part one.*
Since the other thread on this subject is nearly 4 months old, I figured I would start a new one. My apologies if this is long, but I want to be detailed here....
What got me incensed – and finally made my post this - is someone saying in the other thread, “Yeah call CPS” in response to me saying how a parent should be able to procure an alternate method of treatment for their child other than what a doctor prescribed. As if that person thinks it’s fun to possibly tear a family apart.
Now, I am not the biggest fan of CPS, as you can probably guess. People see me post links to stories on how CPS destroyed families on Facebook and ask me, “why the hell do you hate CPS so much?”
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Well let me tell you why.
It has to do with what happened to some close family friends of mine who I have known for a long time. They are more like family than friends. I merely touched on it last time, now I will go into greater detail.
Their daughter was 7 when it happened. Her elementary school for some reason housed an on-site CPS social worker in an office. The parents – including my friends – never knew about this, the school never told them. Probably because they knew parents would object.
One day, the teachers held a class to discuss “appropriate touching Vs inappropriate touching.” They laid out a mat and had all the children sit on it, one of which was our friend’s daughter.
What happened next turned their lives upside down for the next 6 months. The girl said some things that to any objective normal people standards would be perfectly innocent. But not to the teacher, who called in the social worker who yanked the girl out of class and into her office.
The girl (Who is now a woman in her late 20’s) has told us that she doesn’t remember what she said in the classroom, but she does remember being told “you’re going to a foster home.” When she asked about her mommy and daddy, the social worker told her “you’re going to have a new mommy and daddy.” Totally uncalled for on the social worker’s part.
What happened next was downright horrible. There was no due process, no judge, nothing. CPS wrote up a bunch of blatantly slanderous stuff about the girl’s father in their “report” to justify taking her from her parents and putting her into foster care without going to court or anything. They literally yanked her from school and took her right to a foster home. The mother begged CPS to let her daughter stay with relatives but they refused saying “too much risk that they’ll let the father have access to her.”
So for 6 months the girl was in foster care. Where she was belittled and verbally abused, not to mention put on meds “because she was hyper.” She remembers the only good thing about the foster home was their dog which reminded her of her biological parents’ house. One day, the dog was staring out the back door at a squirrel and licking its lips. The foster mother told the girl “don’t open the door he’ll chase the squirrel.” But the girl figured, “she’s not my real mom why should I listen to her?” So she opened the door and let the dog out. The foster mom responded by calling her “dumb” “stupid” and other insults.
At the end of the 6 months, according to the mother the only CPS agent who was actually helpful told her, “we have 5 prospective adoptive couples looking to adopt her. If you want your daughter back you have to act fast.” The solution? The father had to move away for a certain amount of time until CPS deemed it was “safe” for him to return home. He stayed with roommates for the time being.
The parents, unhappy but willing to do anything at this point, complied. Of course, CPS being, well…. CPS, would have a social worker drop by unannounced to make sure the mother was “complying” with the order that the father not be there. The only time the girl saw her father at this point was during “supervised” visits.
It took a little over a year after that, but the father did return home. They were now free to resume their lives before CPS tried to tear it apart. One of the first things they did was take her off her meds. The girl as previously mentioned is now a woman in her late 20’s and has two kids of her own and is doing pretty well, BTW.
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After hearing this story and after researching the stories of other families being ripped apart, I figured out why this woman as a 7 year old was taken when her father actually did nothing wrong. She was cute, had pale skin with blonde hair and green eyes. She would be a prime adoption candidate for a prospective couple. Simply put, she looked very much “adoptable.” The only reason I could think of the school housing an on-site social worker is because CPS was using the school as a “hunting ground” to look for adoptable kids.
As for CPS refusing to place the girl with relatives? I found out that CPS gets more federal funding dollars when a child is placed into foster care instead of relatives. Same reason why they drugged her in foster care – for some sick reason, when a child is placed on meds CPS again makes more money than a kid that is not given meds. It is literally a case of them just looking to get paid at the expense of children.
Finally, when the girl was returned home, why did the father have to move out, even if it was for a short time? I researched and found out that once CPS thinks a parent is guilty of something, it’s very difficult to change their minds.
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Now for one thing, while I think CPS is evil, they sadly are a necessary evil. There are *legit* cases where CPS does indeed need to get involved.
The problem I see is that due to them having to handle some tough cases, they are probably assuming that once a complaint or report is filed, that every parent they are called to investigate must be guilty of something. Which is a pretty shitty way of looking at things if you ask me. Or they will remove kids from homes for the dumbest of reasons…. Especially if they look adoptable.
Here are two that caught my eye:
CPS didn't like that a teenage girl had sex. - Short version: While the parents were glued to the weather report on TV during a tornado warning, their then-14 year old daughter wandered off to a different room of the house and went into the arms of her boyfriend. Well, I guess it was more than cuddling as she got pregnant. CPS accused the parents of “neglect by way of inadequate supervisor” and put the girl into foster care. I didn’t know it’s now a crime if you don’t watch over your kid like a hawk, apparently. Anyway, the girl had the baby and today she’s doing pretty well for herself but CPS refuses to release her from their custody even though she’s 20 years old and has her own place and the CPS commissioner (who’s a real piece of shit) told her if she even contacts her biological parents in any way they’ll take her son away from her. All this because her parents didn’t hover over her at all times, apparently.
Apparently "short" is a problem. - I wish this was an Onion article, but sadly it’s real. Short stature runs in the woman’s family. The daughter is short, but otherwise healthy. During a regular checkup, the doctor diagnosed the girl with “failure to thrive” and reported the mother to CPS. CPS took one look at her, more than likely saw she was “adoptable” and put her in foster care. Yep, that’s right. For being “too short.” The article does say she eventually got her kids back, but they should have never been taken in the first place. Before this, she had a previous run-in with CPS because cold medication caused a false positive for meth. By the way…. One of these days a doctor is going to report a parent to CPS for something stupid and that mother or father is going to snap and knock him into next week. Let’s hope I’m on the resulting jury because I would recommend they give that parent a medal for their service!
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Now before you say, “you’re still on that ‘adoptable’ crap give it up,” I have a relatively new friend who used to work for CPS, so he gave me some inside info. He confirmed to me that if they manage to find a foster kid a permanent home within 1 year via adoption, that branch of CPS gets extra federal funding. So because of that they tend to look for kids that will be desirable to a prospective adoptive couple so they don’t stay in foster care forever. Hence why my friends nearly lost their daughter to adoption via CPS, but a little black child in my area recently was taken away from his mother for various reasons then returned to her 1 year later who killed him shortly after. - simply put, he didn’t look “adoptable” enough. And no, it isn’t because of his ethnicity.
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BTW, the person above? I told him about how my high school shrink recommended to my mother that with my ADD and forgetfulness I should not learn how to drive “because I might pose a danger to myself and others on the road.” He said my mother should have sought a second opinion instead of essentially telling my shrink to “fuck off I’m teaching my son to drive.” I told him my mom would rather see for herself if I can drive safely instead of some shrink. He said “Before you ask me, yes if your shrink was an asshole she could have reported your mother to CPS.” Why, so she can be bullied by some asshat social worker into forcing my mother to not teach me how to drive? It’s been over 20 years and I have never been in an accident… well one, but that was caused by an idiot rear-ending me due to him not paying attention. Good thing my mother didn’t listen to the shrink!
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Since the other thread on this subject is nearly 4 months old, I figured I would start a new one. My apologies if this is long, but I want to be detailed here....
What got me incensed – and finally made my post this - is someone saying in the other thread, “Yeah call CPS” in response to me saying how a parent should be able to procure an alternate method of treatment for their child other than what a doctor prescribed. As if that person thinks it’s fun to possibly tear a family apart.
Now, I am not the biggest fan of CPS, as you can probably guess. People see me post links to stories on how CPS destroyed families on Facebook and ask me, “why the hell do you hate CPS so much?”
---
Well let me tell you why.
It has to do with what happened to some close family friends of mine who I have known for a long time. They are more like family than friends. I merely touched on it last time, now I will go into greater detail.
Their daughter was 7 when it happened. Her elementary school for some reason housed an on-site CPS social worker in an office. The parents – including my friends – never knew about this, the school never told them. Probably because they knew parents would object.
One day, the teachers held a class to discuss “appropriate touching Vs inappropriate touching.” They laid out a mat and had all the children sit on it, one of which was our friend’s daughter.
What happened next turned their lives upside down for the next 6 months. The girl said some things that to any objective normal people standards would be perfectly innocent. But not to the teacher, who called in the social worker who yanked the girl out of class and into her office.
The girl (Who is now a woman in her late 20’s) has told us that she doesn’t remember what she said in the classroom, but she does remember being told “you’re going to a foster home.” When she asked about her mommy and daddy, the social worker told her “you’re going to have a new mommy and daddy.” Totally uncalled for on the social worker’s part.
What happened next was downright horrible. There was no due process, no judge, nothing. CPS wrote up a bunch of blatantly slanderous stuff about the girl’s father in their “report” to justify taking her from her parents and putting her into foster care without going to court or anything. They literally yanked her from school and took her right to a foster home. The mother begged CPS to let her daughter stay with relatives but they refused saying “too much risk that they’ll let the father have access to her.”
So for 6 months the girl was in foster care. Where she was belittled and verbally abused, not to mention put on meds “because she was hyper.” She remembers the only good thing about the foster home was their dog which reminded her of her biological parents’ house. One day, the dog was staring out the back door at a squirrel and licking its lips. The foster mother told the girl “don’t open the door he’ll chase the squirrel.” But the girl figured, “she’s not my real mom why should I listen to her?” So she opened the door and let the dog out. The foster mom responded by calling her “dumb” “stupid” and other insults.
At the end of the 6 months, according to the mother the only CPS agent who was actually helpful told her, “we have 5 prospective adoptive couples looking to adopt her. If you want your daughter back you have to act fast.” The solution? The father had to move away for a certain amount of time until CPS deemed it was “safe” for him to return home. He stayed with roommates for the time being.
The parents, unhappy but willing to do anything at this point, complied. Of course, CPS being, well…. CPS, would have a social worker drop by unannounced to make sure the mother was “complying” with the order that the father not be there. The only time the girl saw her father at this point was during “supervised” visits.
It took a little over a year after that, but the father did return home. They were now free to resume their lives before CPS tried to tear it apart. One of the first things they did was take her off her meds. The girl as previously mentioned is now a woman in her late 20’s and has two kids of her own and is doing pretty well, BTW.
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After hearing this story and after researching the stories of other families being ripped apart, I figured out why this woman as a 7 year old was taken when her father actually did nothing wrong. She was cute, had pale skin with blonde hair and green eyes. She would be a prime adoption candidate for a prospective couple. Simply put, she looked very much “adoptable.” The only reason I could think of the school housing an on-site social worker is because CPS was using the school as a “hunting ground” to look for adoptable kids.
As for CPS refusing to place the girl with relatives? I found out that CPS gets more federal funding dollars when a child is placed into foster care instead of relatives. Same reason why they drugged her in foster care – for some sick reason, when a child is placed on meds CPS again makes more money than a kid that is not given meds. It is literally a case of them just looking to get paid at the expense of children.
Finally, when the girl was returned home, why did the father have to move out, even if it was for a short time? I researched and found out that once CPS thinks a parent is guilty of something, it’s very difficult to change their minds.
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Now for one thing, while I think CPS is evil, they sadly are a necessary evil. There are *legit* cases where CPS does indeed need to get involved.
The problem I see is that due to them having to handle some tough cases, they are probably assuming that once a complaint or report is filed, that every parent they are called to investigate must be guilty of something. Which is a pretty shitty way of looking at things if you ask me. Or they will remove kids from homes for the dumbest of reasons…. Especially if they look adoptable.
Here are two that caught my eye:
CPS didn't like that a teenage girl had sex. - Short version: While the parents were glued to the weather report on TV during a tornado warning, their then-14 year old daughter wandered off to a different room of the house and went into the arms of her boyfriend. Well, I guess it was more than cuddling as she got pregnant. CPS accused the parents of “neglect by way of inadequate supervisor” and put the girl into foster care. I didn’t know it’s now a crime if you don’t watch over your kid like a hawk, apparently. Anyway, the girl had the baby and today she’s doing pretty well for herself but CPS refuses to release her from their custody even though she’s 20 years old and has her own place and the CPS commissioner (who’s a real piece of shit) told her if she even contacts her biological parents in any way they’ll take her son away from her. All this because her parents didn’t hover over her at all times, apparently.
Apparently "short" is a problem. - I wish this was an Onion article, but sadly it’s real. Short stature runs in the woman’s family. The daughter is short, but otherwise healthy. During a regular checkup, the doctor diagnosed the girl with “failure to thrive” and reported the mother to CPS. CPS took one look at her, more than likely saw she was “adoptable” and put her in foster care. Yep, that’s right. For being “too short.” The article does say she eventually got her kids back, but they should have never been taken in the first place. Before this, she had a previous run-in with CPS because cold medication caused a false positive for meth. By the way…. One of these days a doctor is going to report a parent to CPS for something stupid and that mother or father is going to snap and knock him into next week. Let’s hope I’m on the resulting jury because I would recommend they give that parent a medal for their service!
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Now before you say, “you’re still on that ‘adoptable’ crap give it up,” I have a relatively new friend who used to work for CPS, so he gave me some inside info. He confirmed to me that if they manage to find a foster kid a permanent home within 1 year via adoption, that branch of CPS gets extra federal funding. So because of that they tend to look for kids that will be desirable to a prospective adoptive couple so they don’t stay in foster care forever. Hence why my friends nearly lost their daughter to adoption via CPS, but a little black child in my area recently was taken away from his mother for various reasons then returned to her 1 year later who killed him shortly after. - simply put, he didn’t look “adoptable” enough. And no, it isn’t because of his ethnicity.
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BTW, the person above? I told him about how my high school shrink recommended to my mother that with my ADD and forgetfulness I should not learn how to drive “because I might pose a danger to myself and others on the road.” He said my mother should have sought a second opinion instead of essentially telling my shrink to “fuck off I’m teaching my son to drive.” I told him my mom would rather see for herself if I can drive safely instead of some shrink. He said “Before you ask me, yes if your shrink was an asshole she could have reported your mother to CPS.” Why, so she can be bullied by some asshat social worker into forcing my mother to not teach me how to drive? It’s been over 20 years and I have never been in an accident… well one, but that was caused by an idiot rear-ending me due to him not paying attention. Good thing my mother didn’t listen to the shrink!
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