is being gay a choice?

[Cats]

@ Smiley, I probably should have worded that differently, so I can see where you are comming from (and I wasn't the least bit offended by what you said). I mean to make no such assumptions that sex isn't important to (most) people, because I know it is. The fact that I am asexual is merely a 'coincidence' in this case

What I mean is that is no one is forced to have sex with someone (obvious exceptption being rape, but as boozy said, the exception, not the rule). You CHOOSE who to have sex with, and when and where. I'm not by any means saying people SHOULDN'T choose to have sex if that is what they desire (so long as it's consenual and parties know what they're getting into). If it's important to you, then by all means, take a ride as often as you want.

Getting it in with someone, for whatever your reasons, if you feel like doing so, may seem like an obvious choice for most people, but it is still a choice nonetheless. Sex is not required for basic human survivial, and no person or law is putting a gun to your head and MAKING you do it.

Your choice is "yes please", and mine is "no thanks". Both of us have the option to say the other, but we have the choice not to as well. That's perfectly fine, that's just how we roll.

[Nyoibo]

Not to sound overly offensive (which I know everyone says right before they say something really offensive, which what I say probably will be), but that sounds very stereotypical of something an asexual person would say.

Not asexual, I still say the same thing.


Mysty, what don't you get about bi's?

[Slytovhand]

That still is insulting. Regardless of how it may seem normal to you and others, it still is calling my problems partly my own fault.

Also, that partly assumes that souls can predict the future. My anxiety didn't really start full force until my early teens.

NO, not true at all... it's totally your 'fault'. We are 100% responsible for all of our actions - thoughts, words, deeds.

I'll go backwards first - what's to say that a 'soul' doesn't have some indication of time? Or at least, isn't in a position to calculate probability? "Here's a set of circumstances and situations, here's what is most likely to occur from them... let's see how they go". We can see such things in our own lives... being 4th dimensional beings, we can take a look at lines (2 dimensional) and see that they intersect with other lines further up the track. A creature moving along that line can't see it intersect, so would be amazed at our 'precognitive abilities'.

Going to the first bit now. Let's set up a hypothesis. By some freak of nature (or, apparently, the entity inhabiting the TARDIS), you become immortal. You simply can not stay dead! Your body can die and get ripped apart and all... but will regenerate within a couple of days. Normal injuries heal themselves within minutes. Decapitation may take an hour or 2. Pain?? The system suppresses it to the point that things may ache a bit, or hurt a bit - no matter what happens - but there is never any lasting damage....

So, given that - what would you choose to do? Well, how long is it going to take you to start 'experimenting'? Cutting off body bits and all just for the 'fun' of it? Later, you'll start injesting poisons and acids. Jumping off cliffs and out of airplanes without any form of gear.... How long does that last? 5 million years from now, you've done virtually everything you can think off just to keep the days going.

Now, let's add another element.... you can shapeshift. Now we're talking!!! Birds, fish, koalas, rocks, trees, telephone poles... spending a few years disguised as a light bulb in a library... you name it, you'll try it. But, eventually, the 'norm' just doesn't cut it...

End result.. yeah, you'll try being a child in a third world country.

Now... this isn't likely to happen. BUT... if you're a soul, with a completely different set of priorities and you've got a purpose by doing all of this.... So, yes, you'd even give a shot at having anxiety... and schizophrenia, and being gay or bi or lesbian or asexual or deaf or... yeah.. you get what I'm saying...


And thanks Smiley for explaining earlier...

[smileyeagle1021]

Now... this isn't likely to happen. BUT... if you're a soul, with a completely different set of priorities and you've got a purpose by doing all of this.... So, yes, you'd even give a shot at having anxiety... and schizophrenia, and being gay or bi or lesbian or asexual or deaf or... yeah.. you get what I'm saying...


And thanks Smiley for explaining earlier...

you are welcome Slyt...

and I pray my soul doesn't become straight next time around... vagina scares me

[Nyoibo]

and I pray my soul doesn't become straight next time around... vagina scares me

Well in your next incarnation they may very well not scare you anymore.

[Caveat Emptor]

I've sometimes thought "Could I be homosexual?" then I look at a picture of a woman and then a man and said "No, I have never had any sexual attraction towards men." What makes a person hetero vs. homosexual? Like it was said I didn't wake up one day and say "I am going to be *eeny meeny miney...* hetero!"

[Cat]

vagina scares me

Me too....and I have one

(I remember talking to a gay buddy of mine, whilst we were both checking out the same hot waiter....I had mentioned going to a strip joint...to the juice bar {the all nude side} I was NOT a fan, lol. Just proved to me..I like the boys. {unless I am REALLY drunk.....wait....tmi?)

[BroomJockey]

Just proved to me..I like the boys. {unless I am REALLY drunk.....wait....tmi?)

I could stand to hear a little more. </Jayne>

[Nyoibo]

It's amazing the number of people who become bi when drunk.

[Rapscallion]

In vino veritas?

Rapscallion

[Cat]

I could stand to hear a little more. </Jayne>

LOL, I love making things sounds far more interesting then the are. I just kissed some of my female friends whist drunk. Nuttin' exciting.

[Nyoibo]

In vino veritas?

Rapscallion

But they swear up and down and black and blue that they like boys and only boys, half a bottle of rum later and they're going down on each other and getting their freak on.

[AdminAssistant]

It's amazing the number of people who become bi when drunk.

Ah, the social lesbian. "I know how to get that guy's attention! I'll make out with this girl!"

Lame. And annoying.

[Rapscallion]

Ah, the social lesbian. "I know how to get that guy's attention! I'll make out with this girl!"

Lame. And annoying.

Also remarkably successful...

Rapscallion

[smileyeagle1021]

It's amazing the number of people who become bi when drunk.

I'm not bi when drunk, I only get gayer