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  • Is my SIL over reacting?

    Okay, technically she's not my SIL (she's not the one I wrote a post about a couple months ago about how messed up my niece and nephew are.) She's my other brother's girlfriend and they've been together for about 6-7 years now, so I just call her my SIL for convenience sake.

    SIL has a daughter, D (not my brother's.) D is about 9 or 10 years old. SIL is very protective of her. They went through some rough times with her ex-husband being abusive before she was able to get out, so that's understandable.

    Note here: My bro was out of town on business when this incident happened so that's why he's not mentioned in this story.

    A couple nights ago, SIL and D were outside. SIL was reading and D was riding her bike around the apartment complex they live in. Apparently there was a guy and his two young sons walking by and they asked D if she had seen a dog, as they had been walking their dog and it somehow got away from them. D said she had and pointed them to a neighbor's yard. They all went to investigate and somehow or another, the next thing anyone knew, the dog was biting D on the ankle.

    D, of course, started crying and went back to her own yard where SIL was still reading. SIL completely freaked out. The guy who owned the dog went with D when she went home, and tried to give SIL his name/phone#/info, but SIL refused to take it. She was immediately on the phone with 911 and apparently she was acting like a complete lunatic. I say this because apparently the 911 dispatcher told her she was acting like a complete lunatic. She was screaming at the top of her lungs and wouldn't listen to anyone. Finally the guy left, without giving SIL any of his info because she wouldn't take it, because he had to go back to his kids and try to find his dog, which was still running around loose.

    The 911 dispatcher told SIL that they would send the police over, but SIL screamed, "The police, what are you sending the police for, I'm not going to be here, I have to take my daughter to the ER!" So the 911 dispatcher asked SIL what she wanted them to do. SIL didn't have an answer. Finally she took D to the ER. The first thing she did when they walked in the door was demand that D be given rabies shots.

    The kicker? The dog was a SMALL dog, and the bite didn't even break the skin. There was no blood whatsoever. Some bruising and a bit of dirt. That's it. The ER dr. told SIL she was WAY over-reacting and needed to calm down and that they weren't going to give D any rabies shots. SIL was not happy.

    After the ER visit, SIL and D went home and D told SIL that she recognized the kids who were with the guy because she goes to school with them. So SIL and D get out D's yearbook and are able to figure out who the kids are, and then figure out who the father is. So then SIL calls the cops back and they send a squad out to take her statement and look at D's "injuries." I say injuries in quotes because D was fine, she said it didn't even hurt and she wasn't really upset.

    When the cops got to their apartment, SIL started ranting again, this time about how she's going to sue the owner of the dog, and how the cops need to go find the dog and put it down because it's a danger to society. She also told the cops that they should charge the owner with animal abuse, because obviously the dog must be abused if it's going around attacking people unprovoked. She ALSO told the cops what a bad person the owner must be because earlier he left to go find his dog instead of staying with D to make sure she was all right. Nevermind the fact that by the time the guy left, he had already taken D back to SIL, AND he had tried to give SIL his info but she wouldn't take it.

    The cops said that they would go get the dog and quarantine it for a few days just to watch it, but that probably nothing else would come of it. The dog is up to date on its shots and the bite didn't break the skin anyway.

    I think SIL was way over-reacting to most of this...yeah, it's scary to be bitten by any animal not your own (or even if it is your own...) but the bite didn't break the skin and D was fine so I don't really see the issue here.

  • #2
    I could understand freaking out at first, but once the adrenaline stops pumping from her initial reaction, I don't get why she didn't calm down. If the bite didn't break the skin, I don't see what the huge deal is, especially if it's a small dog. I had a german shephard bite me that got loose from two small kids. Yea, it's scary, but I wasn't mauled by it and once the initial shock wore off (it bit onto my arm and I just stared at the dog, which I guess intimidated it because it immediately let go and started licking my hand), I just got control of the dog and held him until the kids caught up to him.

    But seriously, the dog was probably just nervous and bit D because it was scared. I don't see anything that signals to me that the dog is a danger to society.
    Violence has resolved more conflicts than anything else. The contrary opinion that violence doesn't solve anything is merely wishful thinking at its worst. - Starship Troopers

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    • #3
      Sounds like either a nervous or excited nip, any dog that wants to do damage with a bite can, if it didn't break the skin, it wasn't a serious bite.
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      • #4
        Your SIL has gone so far beyond simple overreacting that she's completely lapped it and is back with overreacting again.

        First: We have a dog with a biting problem. We have not abused it. It is simply a fearful dog that had a very rough start to life (basically, the first four months of its life were spent bouncing in and out of vets offices and animal shelters, not all of them kind. It didn't get a chance to form people skills). We've just recently recognized the severity of the problem, and gotten help, and have started training her. The point of this is that she's now throwing around an accusation that, if she said it in public, could get her sued for slander.

        Second: Dogs can get nervous and scared. When they do, their reactions are tough to predict, and can include all kinds of things, including biting. Hardly a surprise. What is wrong is what your SIL is doing to that dog, and to that family. All of them are uber stressed right now. The dog doesn't know what's going on, and the people are worried if the dog that they love is about to be destroyed because SIL went off the deep end.

        Third, and finally: The dog bit. This is bad, and shouldn't have happened. The bite, though, didn't break skin, and didn't produce any possible disease transmission (since it didn't break skin). Furthermore, the dog was up on all its shots, so again no disease transmission. With all of that in mind, D and SIL should look at this as a very fortunate learning experience for D. D didn't get anything other than a scare and a lesson about what can happen with strange dogs.

        SIL has overreacted. Hopefully, she'll get some sense into her before any lasting damage is done anywhere.

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        • #5
          What I totally don't get is the fact tha a woman who is this far over the top with her overreactions will allow her daughter to go off with a strange man in the frirst place.

          I mean, isn't the old "can you help me find my lost dog" a tried and true Old Chestnut that predators use to lure kids? I'm not saying that is what the dude was, but...well...damn. A guy shows up and says this and Crazy Broad never even looks up from her book while her kid goes off with him? WTF???

          And THEN she flips the fuck out when the kid gets nipped?

          Note to Crazy Broad: I just had a rabies scare myself. Odds of dog being rabid in this case is probably slim to none. I learned ALL ABOUT rabies while waiting to find out if I'd potentially been exposed. So, yeah. I think your kid is probably not going to start foaming at the mouth.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by RecoveringKinkoid View Post
            What I totally don't get is the fact tha a woman who is this far over the top with her overreactions will allow her daughter to go off with a strange man in the frirst place.

            I mean, isn't the old "can you help me find my lost dog" a tried and true Old Chestnut that predators use to lure kids? I'm not saying that is what the dude was, but...well...damn. A guy shows up and says this and Crazy Broad never even looks up from her book while her kid goes off with him? WTF???

            And THEN she flips the fuck out when the kid gets nipped?
            Well, from what I understand, D was far enough away that SIL didn't see her (which, yeah, we're (the rest of the family) surprised she allowed that to happen. SIL told D when they went out that D had to stay in sight, but D started doing laps around their building, so I think she was on the other side of the building at the time.)

            Originally posted by Pedersen
            Your SIL has gone so far beyond simple overreacting that she's completely lapped it and is back with overreacting again.
            LOL, that was basically my mom's reaction to this whole thing, too.

            I think the problem here is SIL and my bro being together. No, really. They both tended to over react and overdo stuff before they were together, and I think they've just been feeding off of each other and it's gotten worse in the last 6 or 7 years, since they've been together.

            For example, my bro used to be pretty over-weight. He didn't give it a second thought for years until he had a scare of some kind once, and then decided to drop some of the extra pounds. While we thought this was great, we also thought the way he went about it was not so great. He lost over 100lbs in something like 10 months, by eating nothing but slimfast and maybe a can of chicken or tuna a day, and exercising a lot every day. He didn't consult a physician or dietitian or anyone when he decided to do this. There was at least one time that I can remember that he actually passed out for about 10 seconds. We're not sure why (he didn't go to the hospital), we think it may have had to do with lack of food since he wasn't eating.

            They're both like this...they go to the extreme with everything. Also, they're social hermits. They don't go out with ANYONE or do anything with anyone else besides themselves. The only contact they have with people besides their immediate family is when D has a friend over/goes over to a friend's house, or when they go to parent/teacher conferences. And I wouldn't exactly call them friends with the other parents.

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            • #7
              Ok, I can see why the kid got bit.

              They probably backed the dog into a corner, and the kid got a little too close, and the dog freaked out that a stranger was coming at them. So it bit, out of fear... that's normal.

              There's a difference between being BIT by a dog, and being ATTACKED by one. I have two dogs of my own... believe me, I've been bit, one of em even drew blood once (from an actual wound, not just some scraped skin). I was wrestling with her, and accidentally rolled one of her knees back on itself. So she snapped at me, cause it hurt. Oops, my bad...

              Know what I did? Went and cleaned the wound, put a band-aid on it, and then gave the dog a biscuit



              So yeah, I don't think it was the dog's fault... hell it wasn't the kids fault either, it was just "wrong place, wrong time". That's it. Shit happens.

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