12 year old boy has sex swap over holidays

[Lace Neil Singer]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...-holidays.html

Basically, this boy turned up on the first day of school dressed as a girl and the other kids and parents were only informed of this on that day. Would you have chosen a better way of handling this delicate situation? Can someone truly know how they're meant to be at the age of twelve? Was the parents' reaction correct or prejudiced?

[Boozy]

The parents are completely prejudiced, and this kind of thing really ticks me off.

Since when is another person's gender identity anyone's business other their own? These parents should all shut up, sit down, and mind their own damned business.

So they weren't "prepared" to explain this to their kids. So what? That's the life of a parent -- rolling with the punches. The transgendered child's parents were in no way obligated to contact a bnunch of near-strangers and discuss what was a private family decision with them.

The "I wasn't prepared" line is just bullshit to disguise their prejudice. They could have simply said to their kids when they got home from school, "Sometimes someone who is really a boy is born as a girl, or vice versa, and nowadays we fix that. It's no big deal." Kids take things in stride. It's adults who don't.

This child is now being threatened seriously enough that she is being kept out of school. She's being denied an education because of these assholes.

[Lace Neil Singer]

It's the threatening that really gets on my nerves. I mean, who on earth has such a sad, pathetic life that they have to send threats to a family just cuz there's something there that they don't agree with? -.-

Homeschooling might be best for now, then at least the child can have an education and not be denied one cuz of ignorami.

[MaggieTheCat]

So they weren't "prepared" to explain this to their kids. So what? That's the life of a parent -- rolling with the punches.

I got my first menstrual cycle when I was 9 years old. Long before any of that was taught to us in school. My mom wasn't prepared to explain it to me -- I'm the only girl and she had no idea I would get my period so young, so at first she was a little speechless. Did she freak out? Or refuse to explain what was going on? No, she rolled with it, explained it as best she could, and told me it'd be okay. That's what parents DO.

Anyway, I agree that these parents are being ridiculous. A lot of people in the comments are saying that this girl is too young to decide if she wants to switch genders. Seriously? What business is it of anyone's except hers and her parents and her doctors? It's not like she woke up one day and decided she wanted to be a girl, it sounds like she's been acting like a girl, and trying to be treated like one, for years.

Also, I despise how the article continually refers to her as "him."

[AdminAssistant]

I took a look at the comments, and found a bunch referring to her as "it". Disgusting. That poor child, I hope she's getting all the help and support she needs.

[Cats]

So they weren't "prepared" to explain this to their kids. So what? That's the life of a parent -- rolling with the punches.

Amen to that.

I do agree the school maybe shouldn't have pulled an assembly like that without contacting parents (since at that point, you've already made a big deal of it and parents will get themselves involed anyway, so might as well just handle it better if you're going to do so). That being said however, why the hell an assembly was needed is beyond me. Yes, there are things that make us different from one another, but why can't, for once, PEOPLE just be PEOPLE without being assholes about it?


Not everyone is going to agree with what everyone's lifestyle choices are. IT'S CALLED FUCKING LIFE. Disagreeing with someone's choices is fine; threatening them over it (as long as no one is getting hurt) is where the intolerance line begins.

[Greenday]

Ironic, we were just talking about this kind of issue in my Love and Marriage class Wednesday night.

First off, this goes under my category of: If it doesn't affect you or harm anyone, keep your damn mouth shut. She was a boy, but she was a girl on the inside, so the doctors were able to change her on the outside to reflect how she really felt. There's no reason why the family should have to tell anyone. Just deal with it.

[Nyoibo]

I took a look at the comments, and found a bunch referring to her as "it". Disgusting. That poor child, I hope she's getting all the help and support she needs.

I haven't read the comments, but I frequently refer to children as its.

[Gravekeeper]

What the hell......

Yeah, whomever thought an assembly was in order should be punched upside the head. The "unprepared" parents should likewise be smacked. Christ, its like they had a meeting to decide what the worst possible way they could handle it would be. ><

Poor kid.

[LewisLegion]

It's my understanding that people who feel they are the opposite gender than they really are feel this from a very young age. A friend of mine told me she distinctly remembered a moment when she was six years old, sitting in her living room and thinking, ' this is all wrong, I'm supposed to be a boy, I was supposed to be a boy'. What six year old makes that kind of a gender connection if its based on nothing more than choice? So yes, I find it very easy to believe this girl, despite her age, knows quite clearly what's supposed to be right and thank god she has loving and understanding enough parents that listen to her and support her.

[Lace Neil Singer]

The assembly was unnecessary; all it did was simply make this poor girl a target for bullying. -.- That would be like calling an assembly to tell kids "So and so is fat" or "So and so is gay." And I bet it wasn't handled with anything like sensitivity.

[tabbyblack13]

In the article it states that she was wearing pink ribbons in her hair and riding a pink bike/scooter. I think she has been dealing with this a long time and finally to take a very large step to being what she truly is.

As for the rest of the people in the school, they need to realize that this is what the girl needs. Just because she is young doesn't me she won't know what she needs. Everyone that isn't apart of her family needs to butt out.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

My main concern is that evidently the sex change is a done deal, so I wonder if that will be okay health wise. I mean, 16 year olds are really done developing, so I'm a little worried if that will be a problem or not.

I don't think an assembly was in order, nor was the family obligated broadcast their business. However, the family had to know the girl would be an ENORMOUS target for bullies...but then, I suppose she probably already was.

I think the smart thing would have been to switch schools, so no one would know her back when she was a boy. Then they'd only see her as a girl, and would be less of a target. And it wouldnt' even be an issue.

[Nyoibo]

She's not yet had the surgery and won't for a while, she hasn't even started hormone treatment because she's too young, what has happened is she's made the transition from living as a male to a female.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

From the caption, I'm reading that she's already had it and is now the youngest person to every have gender reassignment. Unless I'm misunderstanding.