Reaons to stay with a cheating spouse....

[Lace Neil Singer]

Not always.

Kindly read the rest of my post before replying, thank you.

[tropicsgoddess]

I can understand if somebody went astray, is contrite about it and is more than willing to stay faithful, I would say to work it out and stay with them. But if it was somebody that would always sleep around and not give a rat's ass, then I'd say it's time to drop them like a bad habit.

[Peppergirl]

I can understand if somebody went astray, is contrite about it and is more than willing to stay faithful, I would say to work it out and stay with them. But if it was somebody that would always sleep around and not give a rat's ass, then I'd say it's time to drop them like a bad habit.

Good point. I also think alot of it depends on the personal beliefs of the cheated-upon spouse. Some people can forgive and move on, some people cant.

[Rapscallion]

So, is there any way I can get away with saying that she's a high class escort and he's a John?

It disturbes me more than money is seen as more important in love, or as a factor in a how a relationship should be. Love is blind, but she has deep pockets?

Rapscallion

[blas87]

I'm sorry I cannot help you, Raps.

The other day, my mom got on my ass because she thinks I'm only dating my boyfriend because he's good looking, and that's a NO NO.

But apparently, it's totally ok in her book to go after a guy just because he has lots of money.

[protege]

But apparently, it's totally ok in her book to go after a guy just because he has lots of money.

I know someone who has done both, and lived to regret it. One of my former neighbors, in fact. When she married husband #1, whose family owned a few funeral parlors, she thought she loved him, but after her divorce (and some serious counseling), she realized that she really was loving his money...the sports cars, boats, and other expensive crap that it allowed him to enjoy.

Husband #2 was someone that she met in her sports league. Again, another nice guy, not bad looking, etc. This time though, he was about half her age. Eventually, they got married, had child #3. Didn't last long. From what I understand, she got tired with his lack of direction, no long-term goals, etc., and divorced his ass.


Now she's in her 50s, alone, and her looks are fading. Too bad, really.

[Peppergirl]

Now she's in her 50s, alone, and her looks are fading. Too bad, really.

I'm shallow enough for this to be my worst nightmare.

I like being alone now (at 40), but I doubt I'll feel the same way at 50.

I guess she's stuck raising a kid by herself now too, right?

[Greenday]

Just ironic that yesterday on the bus to South Campus, I overheard some girls behind me talking and one said, "I want to marry a rich guy, cause then if you get divorced...". Another said, "I want to marry a rich guy because I'm lazy and I don't want to work." You stay classy...

[Slytovhand]

Raps - no, it's not sad that you see that as a bit depressing.

My post was just to say, if you have a time period involved (in this case, only a couple of years) and the person has hurt you, I could see the benefit as outweighing the cons... for this situation! Most others - probably not! Not worth spending the rest of your life with... I hope you see the difference.

Love over money in general... usually - there may be the occasional extenuating circumstances! Like severe poverty etc, but even then, that would also imply lack of honesty anyway...

[Rapscallion]

Raps - no, it's not sad that you see that as a bit depressing.

Well, by depressing, I should have meant "worth giggling over". As a non-romantic, I find quite a bit of vindication of my preferences in this saga.

Rapscallion