having male/female friends over when you are married/in a relationship

[BlaqueKatt]

I personally don't care if I had a girlfriend and she wanted to hang out with a guy. If she wanted him, she would be with him and not me.

that's pretty much my husband's take on it-I hang out with a few of my ex-bfs, and they're exes for a reason...

My take, I trust him... and I trust if he does go looking somewhere else it's just as much my fault as his for not recognizing whatever need it was that he would have that I couldn't provide.

partially correct-you're not a mind reader-if a partner has a need not being met ideally they should be mature enough to sit down with the other partner and discuss it-not just arbitrarily decide to get that need met elsewhere-maybe there was a reason for it to go unnoticed, you have to give the other person a chance-not just assume they can't/won't meet that need-or assume they know it exists unless they have been made explicitly aware of it.

My husband is pretty much clueless/oblivious-yup I have to tell him when I need/don't need something-he was raised differently than I was, not his fault, and I'm not going to assume he's ignoring my needs, as chances are he's just not aware of them, not his fault really.