Helicopter Parents = Great Parents in Custody Cases

[IDrinkaRum]

I remember seeing that second one. My husband & I saw a little of it. We were astonished at the poor way the mother was raising her kids!

We just ... can't grasp the concept of it. However, my husband was raised by a mother who did everything for her kids. He just doesn't realize it. (When Mr. Rum & youngest bro rented their parents house in the city, the mother would come up once a week to clean house/do their laundry).

Makes me disgusted.

[EmiOfBrie]

My dad did the "coach the sports teams your kids are on" thing when my brother and I were in a mixed tee-ball league, and later when my brother moved on to Little League.

But in all fairness, my dad was also a better-than-average coach, coaching one of the tee-ball teams to 3 undefeated seasons, and giving the town their first local Little League championship in over a decade.

But that, and the fact that both my brother and I spent years working in the family business is about as "helicopter" as things got around my childhood

[tropicsgoddess]

I was bought up by strict parents that sheltered me A LOT (don't get me wrong I can cook, clean, budget my money and the like). Sheltering kids too much is not a good thing and helicopter parenting is just as bad...hell it's worse. Those kids will be tethered by the apron strings so much that when it comes time for them to get on their own they won't know what to do with themselves. There has to be a good balance with being involved in the child's life and giving the child some independence. Being involved in the child's life can help a lot in custody cases as long as it's not over done.

[jedimaster91]

My guess is the courts inturpret "independence" in a child as the other extreme of "I don't pay any attention to my kids, I have no clue where they are or what they're doing and I don't care." Sure, we all have seen those kind of parents, but why is the middle ground just as bad?