Father Teaches Daughter Lesson About Facebook

[Hyena Dandy]

Last time it happened, he did ground her. From his comments, she was ungrounded for a grand total of three months before doing exactly what he told her not to and attempting to hide that she did it.

Honestly, I'd probably have done the same thing...

[Andara Bledin]

He literally punished her for saying something bad about him in private.

No, he "literally" didn't.

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[Greenday]

Citation needed.

LOL This is beyond ridiculous to ask for. I feel like I could state the sky is blue on this board and someone at some point would ask me for a citation. Though I'm sure someone will ask me for a citation on this statement.

It has happened on this board. That's proof enough.

[Boozy]

LOL This is beyond ridiculous to ask for.

It was also a ridiculous argument to make -- it was a sweeping statement that had no basis in this debate. As are most strawman arguments. That's why Gravekeeper asked for a citation.

It has happened on this board. That's proof enough.

If it's happened here, it's not exactly a ridiculous thing to ask for a citation. Just find the post and link to it.

[Ree]

Last time it happened, he did ground her. From his comments, she was ungrounded for a grand total of three months before doing exactly what he told her not to and attempting to hide that she did it.

Then he should have taken away the laptop, or removed her internet access. The punishment should have fit the crime.

He was repairing her laptop when he found the FB entry.
He could have added a password to her laptop so that he couldn't get on it.

He could have, oh, I don't know TALKED to her about it.

From what I'm reading on his own FB page, it sounds a bit like Daddy dictates and the children aren't supposed to question it.

There were better ways of handling it.

[KnitShoni]

He *did* take away her laptop. People are just upset about what he did with it afterwards.

He *did* talk to her about it. The last time it happened.

There were different ways to handle it. Not necessarily better. Some of those supposedly better ways were tried. They didn't work.

[Hyena Dandy]

I don't understand why complaining about your parents is a bad thing. I complain about my parents.

I don't see this as an unreasonable punishment if she'd done something really wrong. Taking the laptop and shooting it is just about the same as taking it normally. Posting it online is a dick move, but it makes sense. I just don't get how what she did was wrong.

[DrFaroohk]

I don't understand why complaining about your parents is a bad thing. I complain about my parents.

I don't see this as an unreasonable punishment if she'd done something really wrong. Taking the laptop and shooting it is just about the same as taking it normally. Posting it online is a dick move, but it makes sense. I just don't get how what she did was wrong.

Because "respect your parents" means, to some people, "never ever have a bad thought about them, and don't you dare ever even think about disobeying them". I dunno. World is fucked to hell in a handbasket.

[Andara Bledin]

I don't understand why complaining about your parents is a bad thing. I complain about my parents.

It wasn't that she was complaining about her parents.

It was that she posted a profanity laced (mild by most standards, but none of us know how strict that family is about profanities) rant on Facebook, which was something that she had been told, specifically, that she was not to do.

She could have texted everybody about it. She could have emailed her friends about it. If she was smart, she would have made it a private message and not a status update. However, she chose to rant in a way that she was told not to and just tried to hide it.

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[Rapscallion]

There is a general rule in maintaining respect in a managerial setting that has some correlation here. Praise in public, punish in private.

The daughter was attempting privacy. That she failed is irrelevant, but that's one thing.

The father posted the video to her facebook wall for her friends to view, if memory serves. He's old enough to know and do better. She's probably got a lot of maturing to go.

He failed at being a parent in that he handled this publicly and proved he wasn't worthy of the respect he thinks he's due.

Rapscallion

[mikoyan29]

There is a general rule in maintaining respect in a managerial setting that has some correlation here. Praise in public, punish in private.

The daughter was attempting privacy. That she failed is irrelevant, but that's one thing.

The father posted the video to her facebook wall for her friends to view, if memory serves. He's old enough to know and do better. She's probably got a lot of maturing to go.

He failed at being a parent in that he handled this publicly and proved he wasn't worthy of the respect he thinks he's due.

Rapscallion

I forget which movie this line was in but it was something to the effect of:
You have to respect a superior officer.
No, you're just a higher ranking one.

[crashhelmet]

I forget which movie this line was in but it was something to the effect of:
You have to respect a superior officer.
No, you're just a higher ranking one.

It's from Down Periscope
"You watch yourself, Dodge. You are addressing a superior officer!
No, merely a higher ranking one."

Great movie.

Now back on topic...

The problem here is the negative reaction to his "response."

His actions were the equivalent to spanking a child in public and the backlash is the same.

A child throws a tantrum in the grocery store because its parent won't buy it a toy or candy or whatever the hell it is it demands.

The parent stands there embarrassed while the onlookers get pissed off at this demon-child and starts thinking all of these bad thoughts about how horrible of a parent they are and how they need to discipline their kid.

Or the parent spanks the child and someone calls the police for "Child Abuse"

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

She's too old to be spanked. This was her equivalent punishment.

[Gravekeeper]

His actions were the equivalent to spanking a child in public and the backlash is the same.

....No, they weren't. Not even close. His actions are the equivalent of spanking his child in private, filming it, then posting it online for the world to see and to show the other children what you get for disobeying him. After a lengthy tantrum himself to get back at his child for throwing one to begin with.

[crashhelmet]

....No, they weren't. Not even close. His actions are the equivalent of spanking his child in private, filming it, then posting it online for the world to see and to show the other children what you get for disobeying him. After a lengthy tantrum himself to get back at his child for throwing one to begin with.

He punished her using the same forum that she used to warrant the punishment.

[Andara Bledin]

He punished her using the same forum that she used to warrant the punishment.

But don't you know, you can't do that with someone who is in high school because they're still far too immature to truly understand the consequences of their actions, so you have to let them be hellions in public and then make sure your punishment is private so they have to find out later on their own what the consequences end up really being.

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