Women Raping Men

[Lace Neil Singer]

I don't like that at all. What about those times where you aren't feeling it, but have sex anyway to please your partner? That yes you give probably isn't an enthusiastic yes.

I've never been in that position; if I don't feel like having sex, I say no, and mean it. My fiance loves me enough to not force the issue. I'd never want to have sex when I didn't feel like it, just for his sake and he wouldn't want me to be in that position anyway.

As I said before, men can get an erection when they're executed. Are they thinking erotic thoughts then?

[Mytical]

Men can most definitely be raped. Not only in the statutory way (ie underage guy/older female). Despite what some think guys are not always after, thinking about, or wanting sex. I know some people have a hard time comprehending that, but it is true. There are drugs that can alter personalities, levels of consciousness, etc. Also, as mentioned it can be a physical response instead of a 'desire'.

[Boozy]

I've never been in that position; if I don't feel like having sex, I say no, and mean it. My fiance loves me enough to not force the issue. I'd never want to have sex when I didn't feel like it, just for his sake and he wouldn't want me to be in that position anyway.

I think you and your boyfriend are blessed with extremely compatible sex drives. However often you feel like sex is obviously fine with him.

Most people find themselves in relationships where one partner wants sex more often than the other, so they compromise to make it work. It's not as if people have to say "yes" every time their partner asks. It's just that sometimes it becomes clear that one partner wants sex far more than the other partner doesn't want sex.

If I had to be "enthusiastic" every single time I said yes, I'd have had about a third less sex in my marriage than I actually have. I'm willing to bet my husband feels the same. We don't generally don't say no unless we're sick or completely exhausted. It's not always our best performance, but it makes the other person happy anyway.

[PepperElf]

In all honesty it's not even "morning wood" as Greenday suggested, although that may be possible if you're sleeping next to someone and have a morning hard on.

Women can rape men in several ways.

1) Some women CAN physically overpower the man ... i.e. a large or strong woman and a smaller man

2) A man who's unconscious or physically unable to shove her off. say, a patient in a hospital for example. Or a man who's paralyzed

3) Someone who cannot legally say "yes" due to age or mental state. I.e. a child or someone who's severely mentally handicapped... cos even if they do say yes it doesn't count cos they lack the capacity to decide for themselves

4) Men who are afraid of hurting her.
This is the big one really. many men are afraid that if they fight back they'll really hurt her, or they believe that men should never hit women.... OR they'll get arrested for hitting her.

That's also why there are male victims of domestic violence. They feel they shouldn't defend themselves because they'll hurt her... or because they'll be the ones who get arrested for "spouse beating"

[Seshat]

I don't like that at all. What about those times where you aren't feeling it, but have sex anyway to please your partner? That yes you give probably isn't an enthusiastic yes.

What if we modify it to 'enthusiastic or loving/willing'? The idea is there, even if it's not a perfect phrasing.

[Greenday]

What if we modify it to 'enthusiastic or loving/willing'? The idea is there, even if it's not a perfect phrasing.

Ideally, people should just back off if the person just doesn't want it, but some people are too stupid to use common sense.