Fatties and their Haters

[Lace Neil Singer]

Personally, I would have told her to mind her own business and stop being such a spiteful bitch. After all, you can lose weight, but she'll always be a nasty bitch. Then again, I'd also be crying, cuz I always cry when I'm angry.

[Rapscallion]

There are claims that fructose - the type of sugar found in fruit - is more likely to be deposited as fat.

Fruit's not bad for you, but gorillas get sodding huge!

Rapscallion

[AFPheonix]

the thing that gets me... is the way people are treated as a whole. Which I think is the original point of this post. Back a few years ago, I was very careful in my dieting and had lost almost 40 lbs, leaving me only 15 lbs over weight. I'd been very good, and in my lunch I had packed myself a cookie. A normal sized, homemade cookie. I also had fruit, a nice sandwich and water. While I was eating my lunch, my coworker started making nasty, P/A comments about my cookie and how I should only eat fruit.

Why is it that people think it's ok to say harmful things about others? She said these things in front of coworkers and customers. When my manager confronted her, she said that she was trying to help me. It's not helpful... it made me what to run away so that I could cry.

And that I can agree with. Treating people badly because of the way they look is wrong. It's not a random stranger's place, or even a coworker's place to give you health advice. I guess you're coworker was too stupid to notice how much smaller you'd gotten.

However, people like Kate Harding can be ridiculed on sight for all I care. Anyone who spreads deliberate misinformation on health like she does can go rot in hell.

[blas87]

On the same note, I would like to mention something that really bothers me.

I've always been into exercising religiously, this is no secret. However, once I started dieting and chugging water and eating simple sandwiches for lunch at work, some of the things and comments people have said are really rude.

"It really won't kill you to have a pop."

"You could eat whatever you wanted and won't get fat."

"Do you have an eating disorder? You're NOT fat. So eat some more!"

"You do NOT need to exercise that much."

I DO have pop. ONE a day. No, it wouldn't kill me to have 10 a day. But would I still be at the weight I am now? No...I'd be back at where I was 6 months ago. I want to keep the weight off.

I DO eat. And I eat well. Most of these rude comments are made by my coworkers, which pisses me of because they of all people should understand that with our odd schedule, my eating schedule is obviously backwards. I eat a large supper when I first wake up in the evening. Then I eat a sandwich or something small and sensible at lunch (3:00 am). Then I eat a sensible "breakfast" after work. I did not work this hard to lose all the "stress weight" just to gain it all back. I need to be careful.

Most doctors recommend at least 30 minutes of exercise a day. Some days I'm lazy and cut it short a few minutes, but most days I do 30 or more. Then again, this is coming from people whose most physical activities include driving to and from work.

I do not have an eating disorder. I weigh 121 lbs, which is perfect for someone who is 5'3 and has a small frame. Plus, I have very muscular arms and legs and very large breasts and an ample behind...if you took that ALL away, then I would have an eating disorder and would probably be 90 pounds, then they'd have reason to worry.

What is wrong with wanting to be healthy and watch your weight and take care of your body? I do enough bad things to myself by smoking and tanning and drinking too much alcohol on the weekends. I would like to grow old and still be a healthy weight. I don't want to have a massive heart attack or have high cholesterol at any age.

Sorry, I just really had to let that out.

[Amethyst Hunter]

"It really won't kill you to have a pop."

"You could eat whatever you wanted and won't get fat."

"Do you have an eating disorder? You're NOT fat. So eat some more!"

"You do NOT need to exercise that much."

They say that misery loves company and I think it's very apt. There've been studies done showing that in families (or other cohabitation situations) where someone is dieting (or otherwise trying to improve themselves in some way), it's quite common for people to 'sabotage' one another by pushing food or conveniently leaving 'temptations' in plain access. I can see this pattern in my own family, because my parents will buy stuff that they should lay off or cut out entirely, despite knowing better. (My dad has Type II diabetes, which came about from - you guessed it - his own habits) I don't diet myself (never have, never will) but I do try to lower the amount of crap (sodas, candies, cookies, etc.) I eat, but if it's there and I'm feeling a particular craving for it, nine times out of ten I'll go for it. Not having it so easily available makes it less likely that I'll gank it.

And here's another thing that pisses me off about the whole weight deal. (May have mentioned this before, but I forget now) Women are FAR more likely to get crap for it than men are; girls are brought up on purpose to worry about weight. Too fat (whether in reality or by other people's standards), you're a face-stuffing pig. Too skinny (same thing), you're anorexic or on drugs or something. There's just no way to win this kind of sick game!

[Greenday]

"It really won't kill you to have a pop."

Hahahahahaha...You guys call it pop lol.

In all seriousness, guys deal with the whole being too skinny thing too. I have skinny friends and they get teased a lil bit about it by close friends. It's definitely not just women who deal with it.

As for Amethyst's reply, it seems true that people do that kind of sabotage to each other. My mom and sister will go on a diet, then my step-dad will go out and by certain ice creams or crackers and cheese that my mom likes, then my mom gets pissed at him for it, and since she has no will power, she eats it. He always does it too. Even when I tell my parents not to buy junk, because if it's not there, I can't eat it, they still always buy crap when they go food shopping. Hypocrite...

[Boozy]

I have skinny friends and they get teased a lil bit about it by close friends. It's definitely not just women who deal with it.

I'll bet guys are teased worse if they're skinny than if they're a little bit overweight. That's just a guess; guys, let me know if my hunch is correct.

[Greenday]

I'll bet guys are teased worse if they're skinny than if they're a little bit overweight. That's just a guess; guys, let me know if my hunch is correct.

I honestly don't know too many overweight guys, but the few I do, I don't see get teased.

[blas87]

A lot of guys get picked on for being really skinny. Bonus points if they are shorter than average.

Unfortunately, I will admit to teasing one of my male coworkers for weighing less than I do. And I also admit that I don't find overly skinny males attractive, but on the same note, I don't find overweight males attractive either.

[Giggle Goose]

This is another thing that's kinda sexist, but I'll throw it out there: I think guys lose weight waaaay easier than gals.

My brother lost about 50 pounds by just lifting weights and running a bit. He still eats the same crap he was eating; fast food, etc. Maybe a bit less, bit still way more than I eat. I've also had exes/male friends that lived off of fast food and were still thin.

Maybe a woman's body probably WANTS to hold onto weight due to childbearing, etc?

[Rapscallion]

A woman's body is - at the generally accepted view of normal - going to have a higher percentage of fat than a man's. Other than that, I'd have to seek a medical opinion before venturing further into the idea that women don't burn it as fast.

Actually, the figures for calorific intake recommendation for women are usually a bit less than a man's. May be something there.

Rapscallion

[AFPheonix]

We tend to have less lean muscle mass compared to males, so unless females take up some weight training to compensate, they have fewer body tissues that burn more calories per pound like muscle can.

Although just cutting one easy thing out makes a big difference. In this last week I've stopped drinking pop, I've already lost a pound.

[blas87]

And although you shouldn't buy into everything you see on commercials, there is some truth to the SlimQuick diet pill commercials. Every commercial, a woman says "My husband stopped drinking pop and lost 20 lbs. I've been drinking water for a year and haven't lost a pound!"

Men lose weight much easier than women, I truly believe that. I think women are more prone to Cortisol and stress related weight gain, as I experienced. Women also have a very hard time losing weight because of our hormones, birth control we may be on, stress (again), and all kinds of other things.

[Giggle Goose]

Cutting out pop, soda, and whatever you wanna call it is good for any gender trying to lose weight. That includes diet soda for me; even though there aren't any calories. The carbonation just makes me feel bloated and gross.

[AFPheonix]

And although you shouldn't buy into everything you see on commercials, there is some truth to the SlimQuick diet pill commercials. Every commercial, a woman says "My husband stopped drinking pop and lost 20 lbs. I've been drinking water for a year and haven't lost a pound!"

Men lose weight much easier than women, I truly believe that. I think women are more prone to Cortisol and stress related weight gain, as I experienced. Women also have a very hard time losing weight because of our hormones, birth control we may be on, stress (again), and all kinds of other things.

Even with those things, we still aren't above the laws of physics. We still cannot create or destroy matter or energy. It may make a difference by a pound or two, but not much more than that.