Your thoughts on porn - bad or not?

[Gravekeeper]

Isn't there a direct link between the availability of porn and the rate of sex crimes? AKA the more porn available, the less sex crimes in a given country? Because of having less...unsatisfied impulses around? -.-

[Racket_Man]

You may find this silly, but I liked it because I ran out of my own ideas to.....imagine. Sorry for the over-share, but that's really my take on it.

actually I do not find this silly at all. sometimes you need to "liven things up" or " get out of a rut (pun not intended)" or find new things to try or spark up the imagination.

My Ex and I rented porn movies every now and then when we needed some "insperation" after a few of her major surgeries. as in "What things can we do now that <whatever> is not really possible anymore. and in the fact that every now and then it was a a hella of a turn on for us as, if you will, (sort of) voyuers (not that we got into watching others "do it" in person or live).

and realisticly speaking porn teamed with things like Laura Corn's series 100 GReat Nights of Sex, Great Quiickies, etc. (Google Laura Corn for the whole series of books she has authored over the last 15 years) a little more spark in your sex life is not a bad thing.

Yes I agree that moderation is a good thing. the renting of or buying movies was always discussed well before hand and the night (usually some special occasion like an annivercery or B-day) out was planned esp when our daughter was younger (babysitter for a good part of the night was a must ).

[Ginger Tea]

Overshare enabled.
I prefer pictorals over movies and any video's to be solo girls or girl on girl as I have found way too many camera men focusing on guy's arses for my liking.
The only cock I wan't to see when it comes to porn is my own and even then it's not as if I keep an eye on him anyway.

I haven't bought a magazine in years, I would say well over a decade, but I got one magazine with a DVD, but as the DVD had to follow BBFC guidlines, well it was rather lackluster and when I did buy magazines, I tended to keep to the tamer ones like Parade and girls in uniform as the 'stronger' ones seemed to be purely for gynacologists, but parades 'lesbian' shoots were more "two girls next to each other" and five photo's spread over 3 pages.

Most samples you can stumble upon have over a dozzen photos for free, so why printed porn still exists is beyond me.

[Nekojin]

Isn't there a direct link between the availability of porn and the rate of sex crimes? AKA the more porn available, the less sex crimes in a given country? Because of having less...unsatisfied impulses around? -.-

Theorized, based on the principle of sublimation (a genuine psychological principle), but I don't think it's ever been conclusively proven.

The contrasting idea of increasing porn consumption causing increased rapes* has never been proven at all, just hand-waved by moralists.

*And, similarly, the idea of virtual violence causing real violence.

[Mongo Skruddgemire]

As with everything, moderation is the key.

Porn is like so many other addictive things. Computer Games, Certain Junk Foods, Alcohol...

All of these things in moderation can have no impact on you. In some cases can even be good for you. Computer games are helping tomorrow's UAV pilots rule the skies, Chocolate has chemicals that are good for you, even a glass of wine a day has benefits what with stress relief and antioxidants.

But all of these things when abused can cause problems. World of Warcraft and other immersion MMORPGS can cause social interaction issues, junk food can make you fat (Curse you and your sudden but inevitable betrayal Oreo Cookies), and getting drunk off your ass can get you killed through degraded health, or through accidents.

Porn has its place. In moderation it helps me when the wife is away and I need some stress relief. When she is there we use it for ideas to spice things up.

But when it gets out of hand, it can become a problem.

So in short, it's not the porn that is the problem. It is the underlying behavior behind it. If used in moderation it is fine and healthy. If overused, it's a problem.

[jackfaire]

I am single. I am not in a relationship and I refuse to have sexual relations outside of a committed relationship, IE Boyfriend/Girlfriend doesn't have to be engaged or marriage just monogamous. That being said I still have sexual urges and I can't just ignore them. After awhile my desires back up on me and I can't think straight.

So I watch porn to help me alleviate and deal with my sexual needs as a human being and then I go back to the other things I need to do. It's like eating. I need to eat to live I have to do it to live comfortably so I eat. I just don't obsess about it.

[tropicsgoddess]

I don't watch porn so I could care less. Porn in relationships? I don't care so long as it doesn't get to the point that it completely takes away the sex in the relationship and doesn't become an addictive habit.

[Evandril]

It hasn't been easy to stay porn-free, especially with how easy it is to access these days on smartphones, Ipads, laptops and so forth.

This is the main part that really got me...Since while I enjoy porn, and will watch it when reasonable to do so...I've never had a problem NOT looking at porn, even when I was deployed in the desert...So we're talking four months without Wife *or* porn, and a network that's relatively easy to work around it's security...And it just wasn't that tempting *shrugs*

[Andara Bledin]

This is the main part that really got me...Since while I enjoy porn, and will watch it when reasonable to do so...I've never had a problem NOT looking at porn, even when I was deployed in the desert...So we're talking four months without Wife *or* porn, and a network that's relatively easy to work around it's security...And it just wasn't that tempting *shrugs*

Different people have different drives.

Some are almost entirely a-sexual, and some are hyper-sexual to the point of it interfering with other parts of their lives, and a lot are somewhere in the middle ground of what is commonly referred to as "normal." Most people will drift depending on their age, interest, attachment, hormonal cycle, etc, and some can go from one end of the spectrum to the other over a period of time as their situation changes.

I suspect that a high solo use of porn from a person who is in a relationship may be a sign of either mismatched drives, or perhaps one side lacking fulfillment in some way.

^-.-^

[Salesmonkey]

I love porn because it has taught me a lot of techniques that make my wife very happy! The important thing is that it's all about HER and not a solitary fap. Also, wheras watching porn is fun, MAKING personal porn is a blast! Digtal cameras and camcorders are cheap. Get to work, people!

[Crazedclerkthe2nd]

So I watch porn to help me alleviate and deal with my sexual needs as a human being and then I go back to the other things I need to do. It's like eating. I need to eat to live I have to do it to live comfortably so I eat. I just don't obsess about it.

A lot of the "moralists" as they were described above feel that the need for sexual release is a NOT a biological necessity on the same level as eating, drinking, breathing and going to the bathroom.

They argue that a man can go a long, long time without ejaculating and still lead a normal, healthy, productive life. Therefore, sexual release isn't a necessary biological need, just a perceived necessary biological need.

[Jaden]

A lot of the "moralists" as they were described above feel that the need for sexual release is a NOT a biological necessity on the same level as eating, drinking, breathing and going to the bathroom.

They argue that a man can go a long, long time without ejaculating and still lead a normal, healthy, productive life. Therefore, sexual release isn't a necessary biological need, just a perceived necessary biological need.

I mentioned in the "some guy's attitudes about sex" thread that one of the side effects of my anti-depressants was an inability to achieve orgasm, but there was no decreased libido as a side effect. It only lasted four days, but I basically thought that I was going to die over those four days.

The moralists can shove it

[HYHYBT]

I love porn because it has taught me a lot of techniques that make my wife very happy! The important thing is that it's all about HER and not a solitary fap. Also, wheras watching porn is fun, MAKING personal porn is a blast! Digtal cameras and camcorders are cheap. Get to work, people!

Depends. Some of us nobody, including ourselves, would want to watch the result.

[jackfaire]

They argue that a man can go a long, long time without ejaculating and still lead a normal, healthy, productive life. Therefore, sexual release isn't a necessary biological need, just a perceived necessary biological need.

And that may be true for a lot of them but I highly doubt the ones that say that are really going without ejaculating as they tend to also be the married because you have to be married type of people.

For some people regular ejaculation might not be a necessity for me it is.

[Canarr]

A lot of the "moralists" as they were described above feel that the need for sexual release is a NOT a biological necessity on the same level as eating, drinking, breathing and going to the bathroom.

Are those the same people who say that homosexuality is just a habit that can be "unlearned"?

As to porn in itself: this strip and the rest of the storyline:

http://leasticoulddo.com/comic/20120418