How does this even make sense?

[Zaiida]

Men/Fathers often get screwed with visitation and child support here. A guy friend of mine didn't even know he had a kid, the mother kept it from him deliberately and got another guy to sign the birth certificate, both of them knowing it was a lie. She only went after my friend when the other guy didn't want anything to do with her and the kid anymore. My friend had to pay for 2 years child support + court costs for both of them and he isn't allowed to see his kid because he wasn't there for the first 2 years of the kids life and the Mother is the one with the criminal record.

There are many more stories like this, including mine and people I know. The court system here varies wildly in all it's applications. It's definatley WTF inducing. BTDT.

(And I know I can't spell indefinatley, it's one of my dyslexic words :P)

A psychic should have no bearing on a custody ruling, it is not a proven science. Those poor kids - if anything it shows that the mother is unstable and the father should get precedence and that judge should be haulted andhauled before the ethics committee and review board for some serious headsmacking. Idiot.

[Shangri-laschild]

I suspect that this is one of those cases where if the custody HAD been awarded to the father, the mother would've most likely gone to the media, started slandering him and then "coaching" the children to say that daddy abused them so that she would get them.
The judges decision seemed to at least shut her up. That's my take on it.

It was good to see that the judge at least gave the letters to the children to read.

It didn't have to be only one parent or the other. A trial period of supervised visitation would have still been unfair to the dad, but at least he could see his kids. The judge isn't supposed to rule a certain way to get someone to shut up, he's supposed to determine who's in the right. And by the time the kids read that letter, I don't know that it's going to make a huge difference after years of her filling their heads with things. IF mom says "he abused you" and the letter says "sure he did nothing wrong but screw him" what message are they getting?