This one is a bit creepy

[Racket_Man]

a woman begins planning her wedding 10 years before even meeting her future husband. she even booked a band she liked.

I find this both "nice to know what you want for your fairy tail Pricess Dianne wedding" and creepy. I hope she was NOT a Bridezilla and she can now move past all that planning and expectation to live a "normal life".

[Greenday]

Apparently, the only thing the groom was allowed to choose about the wedding was his tux and what the groomsmen wore. But he wasn't allowed to pick colors.

Fuck that. She's crazy.

[Andara Bledin]

This wedding fetish that some women have is disturbing.

There is zero chance that a marriage can live up to the hype that is built up over the course of decades obsessing over this "perfect day."

^-.-^

[Greenday]

This wedding fetish that some women have is disturbing.

There is zero chance that a marriage can live up to the hype that is built up over the course of decades obsessing over this "perfect day."

^-.-^

They also seem to forget that a wedding isn't just the bride's day. She has to SHARE it with her spouse.

[Bright Star]

Far too many people work hard at getting married but they don't put in the same amount of work & energy in staying that way.

[Ginger Tea]

I think the movie was called Really bad things (iir Christian Slater and Cameron Diaz) she seemed to be the obsessed about the perfect wedding etc and the whole being married just to get married, I had a falling out with her around that movie, don't recall why, so when the character got her comupance at the end, I was really happy for her (and Diaz herself don't ask I don't remember how anti her I got it might just be miffed over something stupid that someone I will never meet did).

Or they bankcrupt themselves and their now partner (partner incase grooms do this kinda shenanigans, although do males get much say in bridzilla weddings?) that the finances or lack there of bring up resentment etc.

[anakhouri]

Unfirtunately the wedding industry hypes up 'the big day' so much that poor fools fall for it and spend egregious amounts of money for what amounts to a party.

Sadly these same people seem unaware that while the wedding is one day, the marriage is (supposed to be) forever, and often they seem unwilling to put as much work into keeping their marriage alive as they put into planning a big party.

[Racket_Man]

This does remind me of the infamous Titanic Wedding detailed over at Etiquette Hell or some of the bad wedding days over at MotherInLswStories.

[fireheart17]

Unfirtunately the wedding industry hypes up 'the big day' so much that poor fools fall for it and spend egregious amounts of money for what amounts to a party.

Sadly these same people seem unaware that while the wedding is one day, the marriage is (supposed to be) forever, and often they seem unwilling to put as much work into keeping their marriage alive as they put into planning a big party.

I think this is why a number of my friends who have gotten married lived with their partners for a while before popping the question (or having the question popped to them). There's a

Although you could apply the same thing to high school formals/proms. Down here, the "formal"prices were:

Dress: $200+
Suit: If you hired it out, around $50, if you bought it, obviously more.
Shoes: $70+
Hair/makeup: Hair: maybe around $50, makeup $70 (although most girls who did do it got it done at Napoleon Perdis which allows you to redeem the cost on cosmetics to that price so they got something out of it)
Limo: between 8-10 people, around $180 per hour.
Alcohol: No frakking idea.
Ticket: Ours was around $30.
Photos: I think around $50.

My formal costs however were:

Dress: $20 (I bought it from an outlet store which sold women's clothing in general. It was a maxi style dress which dropped from the bust, although my boobs were in danger of "popping" since I was a DD by Year 12!)
Accessories: $20 (we bought a shawl to cover up the potential "popping")
Shoes: $30 (I detest wearing heels because I'm 5'8" and didn't want to tower over everyone. In the end mum turned me around to buying a low heel which is what we went with)
Hair/makeup: done for free, my sister did both.
Limo: my dad took us down in his ute.
Alcohol: none. (I was sixteen at the time of my formal and my parents refused to take me to an afterparty even though I'd been invited!)
Photos: we paid for 2 in the end: a group shot of me and my best friends and an individual one of me. The group one of me was not particularly flattering.

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[Greenday]

My sister's getting married in September. They aren't even doing anything extravagant and it's expensive as hell.

My mom's paying for her dress and that's around $1500 or more.

I'm paying for the DJ. That's about $1500.

Still gotta pay for the flowers. That's a fair amount.

My dad's paying for the photographer which is around $1800.

It's like $100 a person and they are inviting about 170 people (Which seems like a lot of people to me). Plus extra for open bar.

Limo, tux, decorations. It's ridiculous.

[BlaqueKatt]

My sister's getting married in September. They aren't even doing anything extravagant and it's expensive as hell.

The "average" american wedding costs $25,631. However, the majority of couples spend between $19,223 and $32,039. This does not include cost for a honeymoon. *

Yup the price of a nice car, a down payment on a house, 2-4 years college tuition, my annual income for a $13/hour job, for ONE FREAKIN' DAY!
It's Obscene! As is the entire "wedding industry"-sorry the terms weddng industry and funeral industry make me vaguely ill, and don't even get me started on the diamond industry(this article from 1982 sums that up, long read but well worth it)

Even worse when the average american income** is $63,091 per year, and half that is spent on a single day. No wonder most americans have an average debt of $47,000***(with around $15,000 being credit card debt)



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***Source this source lists average income at 41,673.83 from social security figures.

[Andara Bledin]

My first wedding cost under $1000. My next wedding will be a bit more simply because we'll be able to afford something nicer by the time we get around to being married.

All of that fairy-tale wedding stuff you see in the movies and all that is just too much. And, quite honestly, totally not what either of us is about, so it would be totally fake, too.

^-.-^

[Sarah Valentine]

The only thing I'd obsess over is the dress, everything else is up to him. However that might mean that I'll get married on a boat then go to KFC for the reception with decorations from the dollar store. However the only other thing I would get really bitchy over is the ring I don't want a diamond I hate them, I would want a saphire they're prettier.

[Racket_Man]

When I got married to my now Ex the cost was WAAAYYY low

My suit and the Best Man's suit (rented) $50
My Ex's dress like $30 at a second hand store
Her Wedding Ring - a NICE set bought from a local pawn shop $90
My Wedding Ring - simple gold band also from a local pawn shop $50
Church and Pastor $200
"Reception" - my parents paid for my family and a few of our friends at a local Mexican place $400
after reception "party for local friends that could not make the wedding $50 in food (a 3 foot sub, chips, dips,, some booze, etc.)