What? just.....what?

[Parrothead]

http://elitedaily.com/news/world/wom...ng-ever-spent/

Man proposes to woman he wasn't in a relationship with; she says no; he's billing her for all the gifts, dinners, etc he paid for.

[TheHuckster]

The real scary part of all this are the comments, who are calling the would-be fiance a gold digger and some other not-so-nice words.

I'm glad I didn't have any drink in my mouth when I read this:

Dusting says the rejection has rendered him unable to dance ever again

The absurdity of this line would have rendered my monitor a bit messy.

[HYHYBT]

So, did she have to pay?

[Greenday]

I don't know about Australian law, but in America, she'd owe the $25,000 she says she borrowed from him and that's it. You can't bill someone or sue them for gifts you've given.

[s_stabeler]

I'll grant that from the sounds of it the woman in question may have been taking advantage of the dude ( dental appointments? birthday parties for her kids? I'd have thought those should have been paid for by her- or for her to specifically agree to pay him back for them. I'm leaving the question of the cosmetic surgery, since that is disputed- if she did as him to pay, it's definitely taking advantage, unless that was what the $25,000 loan was about- which is itself quite a big ask.) HOWEVER none of it obliges her to accept a marriage proposal or repay what's spent on her.

not to mention that you don't spend money on somebody with the aim of marrying them- even if they were dating, the point is to get to know somebody- NOT either to get into their pants or marry them. (it's why it isn't exactly a failure if the relationship eventually ends- you turned out to be incompatible.)

[Gravekeeper]

Who the fuck tracks every dollar they spent on someone for 4 years? >.>

[ChynaRose]

I'll grant that from the sounds of it the woman in question may have been taking advantage of the dude ( dental appointments? birthday parties for her kids? I'd have thought those should have been paid for by her- or for her to specifically agree to pay him back for them.

I'm not entirely convinced that she was knowingly taking advantage of him since I can easily see of a way for him to gift her the money for things like dental appointments and birthday parties. In the course of an ordinary conversation the subject comes up (perhaps since she was volunteering for him, she was letting him know that she wouldn't be in on a particular day because of an appointment at the dentist, or she shared what plans she was making for the party since they're friends and all), he offers to pay, and then they go through a couple of rounds of 'oh I couldn't/I insist' before she finally gives in.

[Andara Bledin]

Who the fuck tracks every dollar they spent on someone for 4 years? >.>

An asshole attempting to buy his way into a relationship who knows that there's a chance the woman he's trying to woo with money instead of personality might say "no."

I bet if you asked, he'd tell you he's a "nice guy" and that she "owes him" for being so nice to her.

[Gravekeeper]

I bet if you asked, he'd tell you he's a "nice guy" and that she "owes him" for being so nice to her.

I was getting that vibe, yeah.

"I keep putting in tokens, but sex won't fall out!"

[Jetfire]

Sadly, this is very common, at least according to the court shows on TV. It's a rare week that you don't have at least one, and usually multiples of these types of cases; where someone breaks up and wants the money and/or gifts returned. Usually the amounts and "relationship time" are lower but the basics are all the same.

[s_stabeler]

I'm not entirely convinced that she was knowingly taking advantage of him since I can easily see of a way for him to gift her the money for things like dental appointments and birthday parties. In the course of an ordinary conversation the subject comes up (perhaps since she was volunteering for him, she was letting him know that she wouldn't be in on a particular day because of an appointment at the dentist, or she shared what plans she was making for the party since they're friends and all), he offers to pay, and then they go through a couple of rounds of 'oh I couldn't/I insist' before she finally gives in.

oh, I wasn't saying she was doing it deliberately- and again, even if she was, it doesn't require her to marry the guy- I was just saying that neither side exactly smell like roses.

but yeah, I get a "nice guy" vibe off of the guy- except most "nice guys" stick to complaining about not getting laid, not actually suing.

[cewfa]

I was getting that vibe, yeah.

"I keep putting in tokens, but sex won't fall out!"

Haha, I had a good chuckle. Thanks.

[Panacea]

Who the fuck tracks every dollar they spent on someone for 4 years? >.>

Judge Judy would ask the same question sans the "fuck."

Normally, I'd say he wouldn't win. But he has the money to file in district court instead of small claims court. If she can't afford to fight it, she might actually end up paying him something.

And that's really fucked up.

[AccountingDrone]

Judge Judy would ask the same question sans the "fuck."

Normally, I'd say he wouldn't win. But he has the money to file in district court instead of small claims court. If she can't afford to fight it, she might actually end up paying him something.

And that's really fucked up.

Anybody who was raised reconciling a checkbook old school style - did I mention I reconcile *all* my receipts so I can pull up a record of every cent paid to any single entity for a minimum of 7 years? Only real difference is now I do it on computer instead of a paper booklet in my checkbook.

[protege]

Only real difference is now I do it on computer instead of a paper booklet in my checkbook.

Very easy to pull up every transaction for the car, the mortgage, gifts...