These types of posts on Facebook really bother me, and I refuse to share them
I understand why they happen.
People are outraged by the situation and they don't want the person to get away with it.
They figure by sharing the picture, if the person is at large, there is a greater chance people will see the pic and recognize the person and they will be caught faster.
The thing is, even the police do not want people sharing these types of pictures, because they really do not help their investigation all that much.
If the police want the public's help with finding a suspect, they will release their own notice.
They certainly will not release pictures of people charged with crimes just as a public service to the community.
Aside from encouraging vigilante justice, there is a risk to people from these types of posts that are strung together by well meaning members of the public.
If the person is dangerous and at large, and they are recognized, if they are aware that they have been spotted, that could put the eyewitness at risk.
If the full details of the case are not known, and all evidence has not been presented at trial, these posts have just tainted a jury pool, or has rendered the person guilty until proven innocent.
If the person creating the post is involved in the situation, they are obviously going to post from their point of view, and as we all know, there are 3 sides to a story. The first side, the second side, and the truth.
Another aspect not considered by people who share these things is that sometimes, people get it wrong!
There have been numerous cases of mistaken identity with either the wrong picture or the wrong name posted, and it has ruined lives. People have been attacked and even killed over these mistaken identity "public safety" warnings because someone decided to take the law into their own hands.
Recently, some woman made a man's life hell because she over-reacted and accused him of being a "creep" and pedophile who had been trying to hit on her children, when in fact, the guy was just minding his business, trying to take a selfie with a Star Wars sign.
It hit home recently for me.
While the father of one of my granddaughters is what can only be described as a dickhead most of the time, he has been a pretty good father to both of my granddaughters.
(He has actually been a better father to the oldest than her own father, teaching her all the things a father should be doing, such as riding a bike, skating, rollerblading, basketball, baseball, etc., and he never misses a single event at her school or church, while her own father never even shows up.)
Unfortunately, he has a problem with alcohol and substance abuse, and he will not get help. It has caused him to make some very poor choices in life.
He recently became the subject of this type of facebook public safety warnings, and the person who started the post put my granddaughter's safety at risk as a result.
The person who started the post included the address of his mother's home where he was staying, and my granddaughter was visiting there.
There were threats being made on his life, and comments about forming a lynch mob and stringing him up. There was even a comment about dragging him from his home and bashing his head with a concrete block.
I don't condone what he did, but there is a side to the story not being told, yet people don't know this. They just keep sharing his image all over facebook without even thinking about what they are doing, and the threats keep coming. Every time it's shared, my granddaughter is at even greater risk every time she visits her other grandmother.
The thing is, he is not there now, but the guy who started the post has not bothered to let anyone know that fact, so the threats continue.
First of all, the full case hasn't even gone before a judge.
It was a domestic dispute with his girlfriend. (The one he cheated with while still with my daughter. Yeah, I said he was a dickhead)
This woman also has an alcohol problem, except that she becomes a mean drunk and starts hitting.
As his her pattern, that night, it was the same thing again. Usually, he just takes it, but that night, he hit back. He was charged with assault because, as we all know, men cannot be the victims of domestic abuse. *sarcasm*
(I posted pics of my granddaughter's birthday party from last fall on my Facebook, and while the pics are a little blurry, you can just make out the huge shiner he has in two pictures. That was the result of one of her drunken rages. That was not the only time he showed up with bruises or marks on his face from her.
People question a woman who stays in that type of situation, but they have sympathy and understanding, but they seem to feel a man should be better able to get out of the situation and so, have no sympathy or understanding. Reverse sexism?)
She is being made out in the post to be an angel and a martyr just this side of sainthood, while he is being painted as this horrific monster.
Unfortunately, he has a history of choosing these types of women in the past, and over 20 years ago, there were 2 other incidents where a similar thing happened, and so, he is considered to have "a history with 2 priors".
Never mind that in one case, she was trying to run him over with her car. (Hell, he lived in my house for a year and I wanted to run him over with a car. LOL) Again, if a woman continues to get into abusive relationships, people tsk tsk and shake their heads, but they manage to understand her victim mentality because of something that went terribly wrong in her past, but a man is considered just an idiot to keep picking those kinds of women and staying with them.
Anyway, as I said, I do not condone what he did as I feel violence is never the answer, and he certainly is not one of my favourite people, but I am angered that someone created the post and publicly posted on the internet, the address of innocent people who weren't even involved in the situation, and has put them in danger as a result.
And people keep sharing because I keep hearing from friends and family who are seeing it for the first time and messaging me to ask about it.
I have never shared these types of posts and I never will.
I wish more people would think before hitting share.
I understand why they happen.
People are outraged by the situation and they don't want the person to get away with it.
They figure by sharing the picture, if the person is at large, there is a greater chance people will see the pic and recognize the person and they will be caught faster.
The thing is, even the police do not want people sharing these types of pictures, because they really do not help their investigation all that much.
If the police want the public's help with finding a suspect, they will release their own notice.
They certainly will not release pictures of people charged with crimes just as a public service to the community.
Aside from encouraging vigilante justice, there is a risk to people from these types of posts that are strung together by well meaning members of the public.
If the person is dangerous and at large, and they are recognized, if they are aware that they have been spotted, that could put the eyewitness at risk.
If the full details of the case are not known, and all evidence has not been presented at trial, these posts have just tainted a jury pool, or has rendered the person guilty until proven innocent.
If the person creating the post is involved in the situation, they are obviously going to post from their point of view, and as we all know, there are 3 sides to a story. The first side, the second side, and the truth.
Another aspect not considered by people who share these things is that sometimes, people get it wrong!
There have been numerous cases of mistaken identity with either the wrong picture or the wrong name posted, and it has ruined lives. People have been attacked and even killed over these mistaken identity "public safety" warnings because someone decided to take the law into their own hands.
Recently, some woman made a man's life hell because she over-reacted and accused him of being a "creep" and pedophile who had been trying to hit on her children, when in fact, the guy was just minding his business, trying to take a selfie with a Star Wars sign.
It hit home recently for me.
While the father of one of my granddaughters is what can only be described as a dickhead most of the time, he has been a pretty good father to both of my granddaughters.
(He has actually been a better father to the oldest than her own father, teaching her all the things a father should be doing, such as riding a bike, skating, rollerblading, basketball, baseball, etc., and he never misses a single event at her school or church, while her own father never even shows up.)
Unfortunately, he has a problem with alcohol and substance abuse, and he will not get help. It has caused him to make some very poor choices in life.
He recently became the subject of this type of facebook public safety warnings, and the person who started the post put my granddaughter's safety at risk as a result.
The person who started the post included the address of his mother's home where he was staying, and my granddaughter was visiting there.
There were threats being made on his life, and comments about forming a lynch mob and stringing him up. There was even a comment about dragging him from his home and bashing his head with a concrete block.
I don't condone what he did, but there is a side to the story not being told, yet people don't know this. They just keep sharing his image all over facebook without even thinking about what they are doing, and the threats keep coming. Every time it's shared, my granddaughter is at even greater risk every time she visits her other grandmother.
The thing is, he is not there now, but the guy who started the post has not bothered to let anyone know that fact, so the threats continue.
First of all, the full case hasn't even gone before a judge.
It was a domestic dispute with his girlfriend. (The one he cheated with while still with my daughter. Yeah, I said he was a dickhead)
This woman also has an alcohol problem, except that she becomes a mean drunk and starts hitting.
As his her pattern, that night, it was the same thing again. Usually, he just takes it, but that night, he hit back. He was charged with assault because, as we all know, men cannot be the victims of domestic abuse. *sarcasm*
(I posted pics of my granddaughter's birthday party from last fall on my Facebook, and while the pics are a little blurry, you can just make out the huge shiner he has in two pictures. That was the result of one of her drunken rages. That was not the only time he showed up with bruises or marks on his face from her.
People question a woman who stays in that type of situation, but they have sympathy and understanding, but they seem to feel a man should be better able to get out of the situation and so, have no sympathy or understanding. Reverse sexism?)
She is being made out in the post to be an angel and a martyr just this side of sainthood, while he is being painted as this horrific monster.
Unfortunately, he has a history of choosing these types of women in the past, and over 20 years ago, there were 2 other incidents where a similar thing happened, and so, he is considered to have "a history with 2 priors".
Never mind that in one case, she was trying to run him over with her car. (Hell, he lived in my house for a year and I wanted to run him over with a car. LOL) Again, if a woman continues to get into abusive relationships, people tsk tsk and shake their heads, but they manage to understand her victim mentality because of something that went terribly wrong in her past, but a man is considered just an idiot to keep picking those kinds of women and staying with them.
Anyway, as I said, I do not condone what he did as I feel violence is never the answer, and he certainly is not one of my favourite people, but I am angered that someone created the post and publicly posted on the internet, the address of innocent people who weren't even involved in the situation, and has put them in danger as a result.
And people keep sharing because I keep hearing from friends and family who are seeing it for the first time and messaging me to ask about it.
I have never shared these types of posts and I never will.
I wish more people would think before hitting share.
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