I HATE being away from my family, I really miss them and shit is going down right now and no one will give me a straight story.
I HATE being told "don't worry you can't do anything anyway"
I HATE that I am put in the middle of arguments I don't even know are going on
I HATE that I get phone calls from some with them in tears and emails from others full of nasty accusations towards my other family members.
I HATE that my family airs their fucking dirty laundry in public for all to see
I HATE that where I am staying at Christmas when I fly home is being turned into a contest of who I love more, as is who I am seeing and for how long.... this from people who couldn't give a shit about making any time to see me when I was back for a 10 months a couple of years back
I HATE that access to me during my trip is being turned into emotional blackmail between family members and friends
I HATE that my family won't admit they need help to get over shit that has gone down in the past
I HATE that my family communicates by "whomever shouts the loudest is right" or "who ever has the nastiest insult wins"
I HATE that my family will tell me one week that they can't afford to buy food or pay rent and the next telling me about a shoppings spree making me swing between sadness and resentment
I HATE that people are hinting at illness, death, abandonment and loneliness.... they are so freaking dramatic it makes my head spin!
I HATE that their mind games are still affecting me. I swing between guilt and fear
I HATE that I purposely call in an upbeat mood and don't burden them with problems or frustrations because I don't want them to worry about me, but they don't afford me the same courtesy. Then I listen to their bitching and moaning for an entire hour every week because otherwise I would be a terrible daughter, sister, aunt etc
More than anything I HATE that I no longer want to even go home. K has really helped me work through my past and calm down. I'm a different person now to the one they knew, I don't want my life based on anger and melodramatic episodes that would make soap operas look tame.
I have a nice, quiet, and peaceful life now with no yelling or threats or anger. I'm dreading the 10 day trip thats more than 6 months away.
I HATE being told "don't worry you can't do anything anyway"
I HATE that I am put in the middle of arguments I don't even know are going on
I HATE that I get phone calls from some with them in tears and emails from others full of nasty accusations towards my other family members.
I HATE that my family airs their fucking dirty laundry in public for all to see
I HATE that where I am staying at Christmas when I fly home is being turned into a contest of who I love more, as is who I am seeing and for how long.... this from people who couldn't give a shit about making any time to see me when I was back for a 10 months a couple of years back
I HATE that access to me during my trip is being turned into emotional blackmail between family members and friends
I HATE that my family won't admit they need help to get over shit that has gone down in the past
I HATE that my family communicates by "whomever shouts the loudest is right" or "who ever has the nastiest insult wins"
I HATE that my family will tell me one week that they can't afford to buy food or pay rent and the next telling me about a shoppings spree making me swing between sadness and resentment
I HATE that people are hinting at illness, death, abandonment and loneliness.... they are so freaking dramatic it makes my head spin!
I HATE that their mind games are still affecting me. I swing between guilt and fear
I HATE that I purposely call in an upbeat mood and don't burden them with problems or frustrations because I don't want them to worry about me, but they don't afford me the same courtesy. Then I listen to their bitching and moaning for an entire hour every week because otherwise I would be a terrible daughter, sister, aunt etc
More than anything I HATE that I no longer want to even go home. K has really helped me work through my past and calm down. I'm a different person now to the one they knew, I don't want my life based on anger and melodramatic episodes that would make soap operas look tame.
I have a nice, quiet, and peaceful life now with no yelling or threats or anger. I'm dreading the 10 day trip thats more than 6 months away.
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