Possibly the most annoying thing ever....

[DesignFox]

Blas and Dreidel, you both sound like my kind of people, too.

[blas87]

Aw hell, all of us who are sick of being blown off should all get together!

[McDreidel09]

At the very least, I'd be there on time and if something got in my way, I'd call you. I wouldn't just leave you hanging there.

Oh and what else is annoying? When you DO get a hold of the person who ditched you and they act like it's nothing. Even moreso if they utter the words "It's no big deal", because that fixes everything, right?

Oh my stars I hate that! I have a friend who does that at times. He used to be really bad about it, until I told him that I wouldn't hang out with him anymore if he kept up with that and if he wants to hang out, HE has to call ME when he is available.

Worked like a charm. The only times he has to ditch is when his baby mama needs to him to take his kid.

[Peppergirl]

What about people like me () who constantly run late, but always call or text to advise that I'm running late?

Also, when I have to cancel on people, I give as much notice as possible.

Do I suck?

[blas87]

No PepperGirl, you certainly do not suck. You do more than what most of our friends and family do....you actually call/text and update us.

I think this thread is more of ranting about people who ditch, just flat out ditch, and then when I added the part about how some of those people think it's absolutely no big deal......those people suck.

[Boozy]

What about people like me () who constantly run late, but always call or text to advise that I'm running late?

You asked, so I'll answer.

If you are constantly running late, as you state, then you need to work on your time management. If the necessary demands of your family and job are such that you have trouble making social engagements on time, you need to acknowledge that and cut back on your optional activities.

If the issue isn't that you're trying to do too much, then you need to build an extra hour or so into your time estimates. Some people aren't good at estimating how much time things take. I have a friend who believes she can make a 5:30 appointment a half-hour drive away from her workplace when she gets off at 5. That's not realistic. Only one or two very normal disruptions need occur (a five minute conversation with her boss before leaving, her need to stop and get gas on the way, traffic, etc) and she's 15 minutes late to that appointment.

You're halfway there: You acknowledge that you have a pattern of running late. The next step is to do something about that. It's not fair to others to be making promises you can't keep, regardless of your good intentions to keep them. You're not being self-centred about it, which is probably why everyone in your life has been understanding. But put yourself in their shoes: How many time does someone have to say, "Sorry I'm late, there was traffic" before you start to question why they don't realize there will be traffic and just leave earlier?

[Peppergirl]

You're absolutely right, Boozy! My time management skills have always been horrible, and it's something I've actually improved on over the years....but I have a long way to go!

[McDreidel09]

Peppergirl, even though your time management isn't the best, you still give notice without being asked "Where are you?"

I hate having to be the one to call/text to see where people are.