Pet Peeves!

[Giggle Goose]

Working with a bunch of whiners who have NEVER experienced an SC in their life and are complaining about working a job with a steady schedule; along with excellent pay and benefits.

Also; the same people who give me shit about having a second job. If these people ever had to work with the public as opposed to a place where you have to have your bags checked to enter; I guarantee you they wouldn't last a second. Some of us like to have extra cash in our pockets; and it's not interfering with my performance, so mind your OWN FUCKING BUSINESS. I think that's what I was getting at. People who don't mind their own business in general. "Ooooh, you're insane. I don't know how you do that." It's called diversity. What's good for you isn't the same for other people, you ignorant turds.

Sorry about that rant. It's been a rough couple weeks.

[Boozy]

People who don't mind their own business in general. "Ooooh, you're insane. I don't know how you do that."

I have a co-worker who's working for us as a second job, and I've said almost this very thing to her. I was trying to express my admiration over how hard she works and how energetic she must be. It never crossed my mind that it could be considered rude.

Could I ask what it is specifically that bothers you about these comments? It has to be more than just people not minding their own business. You must see some sort of insult in them.

[MystyGlyttyr]

People who throw snide remarks about people who have different belief systems than they do...political, religious, what type of wrestling is best, whatever. While I might privately question the intelligence of a person who believes "A", since I believe "B" after doing a shitload of research on it, I'm not going to be so rude as to insult them over it. Just because you have a thought does not mean you have to give it voice.

Along the same lines...people who think me simply asking you WHY you believe what you believe is my way of insulting you. I base my beliefs on what information I've been able to drag up, and I'm curious to see if you've had access to some information I haven't. That's ALL. If you tell me you believe that way because your mama told you to, fine, cool, whatever. QUIT PRETENDING YOU'RE INSULTED. IT IS NOT "COOL" TO BE OFFENDED.

Speaking of how frickin' awesome it apparently is to be offended, people who tell me I SHOULD be offended by something when I'm not. If my best bud male calls me a bitch, it's probably because I just called him a nutless wonder...and you know what, we're both okay with that. If you're offended, well, sorry, but I'm not. I laugh at white jokes, woman jokes, Catholic jokes, handicap jokes, dumb wrestler jokes (You know you're a wrestling fan when you get fired from work then show up the next day wearing a mask...tee hee )., etc. Deal.

So much more I could go into, but won't.

[Giggle Goose]

Could I ask what it is specifically that bothers you about these comments? It has to be more than just people not minding their own business. You must see some sort of insult in them.

Well, it's people not minding their own business, of course, but it's all about the tone of voice. There are people who have expressed surprise in a tasteful manner, which I'm sure you probably have to your co-worker, Boozy. I don't mind that; and I'm more than happy to explain to people why I hold down another job. (Even though I shouldn't have to).

However, there are people that have asked with a puzzled expression on their face; and keep going on and on about how crazy it is. One girl said: "More work?" as if I had spoken to her in Sanskrit or something. I don't think it's so crazy that I have bills to pay and I'm trying to bank money to move out on my own. There are many reasons for someone to want to supplement their income.

In sum, what bothers me is the ignorance and rude tone. I realize now, though, that maybe some people didn't intend it that way. It just sucks to have to explain yourself to people.

[Difdi]

Not even close to an exhaustive list, but...

- People who hand you change with the coins on top of the bills (bonus points if they can clearly see your other hand is holding your wallet).

- Thieves (bonus points if they do so in such a way that they make their victim look crooked).

- People who forget what was already said in an argument, then "refute" your points by making the same points from the same viewpoint (you've actually convinced them, but their ego won't allow them to let it go, and all they're left with is the memory of disagreeing with you...so they regurgitate your own opinions to "prove" you wrong).

- People with no honor (Bonus points for people who treat you as dishonorable, because they know that they themselves would be if nobody was watching, and project that lack of honor onto everyone around them).

- People who sincerely believe that they have rights that override you having the same rights ("you shut up and listen to me! you have no right to tell me not to scream in your face!").

- People who demand levels respect they refuse to show to others (Bonus points if they become physically violent if you mirror their respect level back at them).

- People who are incompetent, but spend all their time putting down anything they don't understand as being stupid (the ability to accurately judge competence in oneself or others is part of the spectrum of traits collectively called competence).

- Hypocrites in general (for example, politicians who publicly want to ban all handguns on the grounds that they have no legitimate use whatsoever, but own one for personal protection).

- People who helpfully rearrange other people's houses (Yes, I get that you think you're doing me a favor by "helping" me unload my dishwasher, but it's not very helpful to put dirty dishes away in the cupboard; And even most idiots can figure out the silverware doesn't go in the drawer under the oven!)

- People who have a greater animosity for someone who reports an injustice than the one who perpetrated it (usually expressed as a disdain for "whining" or "crying"; But if everybody is too afraid of being labeled a whiner to ever complain, nothing will ever get fixed, scumbags will be rewarded for their antisocial behavior, etc).

[IDrinkaRum]

-- People who think I'm crazy for wanting to play board/card games with other people instead of mushing my brain with one played on the computer.

-- People who think that because I play D&D and that my husband plays D&D, we're psychotic weirdos who will go on a killing rampage if everyone isn't nice to us.

-- People who are so out of tune with everything but video games who have to ask us what a board game is.

-- Gamers who assume I play Magic 'cos I'm a girl. (You can't play D&D!!! You have to know tactics and numbers and stuff!)

[Xanthina]

When(on anther forum) I have been told in the past to put certain posts in a certain thread. So I do... and every post I have put there has been ignored, talked around, etc.

Maybe snotty, but my comments, questions, and thoughts are important to me. And it PISSES ME OFF to be ignored over and over in this one topic.

[Sylvia727]

People who park their normal sized car in compact sized spots. As I have to swerve into the oncoming lane to get around them, even at 10 miles an hour in a parking lot, it's a serious accident risk. I hope you lose your back bumper, jackass! Even if it's only to bumper-stealing gremlins.

[Flyndaran]

People that can't understand how my anxiety is not some excuse to be lazy. It keeps me from so much as going outside to talk to anyone, even good friends. I wish I could get even a minimum wage job that didn't induce horrific anxiety attacks.
I once had a 9 day long hell attack that made me lose 13 pounds, and that's AFTER regaining water weight.

[Boozy]

People that can't understand how my anxiety is not some excuse to be lazy.

I know exactly what you mean.

I suffered from a panic disorder for several years in my early twenties, and struggled to hold down a job. My dad was completely unable to comprehend it.

It was very hurtful to me to be thought of as lazy, because I have always prided myself on my work ethic. There is no job I've ever held where the boss wouldn't have said "Boozy's the hardest working employee here, hands down."

[Estil]

Work Related:

*People who try to abuse our 1-15 express lane. One or two over I can let slide, but if you have like 20 or more, please for both our sakes go to a standard checklane.
*People who leave shopping carts out in the middle of the floor and can't take a few seconds to put them back in the lobby. This creates a FIRE HAZARD people.
*People who leave handbaskets on the floor and in the middle of aisles where someone can trip over them.
*Parents who let their kids stand up and rock inside the shopping cart (and even worse, the child seat!!); I once saw a little girl fall inside one and I'm sure it hurt like hell.
*People who swing long key chains around and around. I once saw a little girl come within INCHES of being smacked in the face with one.
*People who think our wheelchairs and electric scooters are toys. Those who play in them or pop wheelies in them I think makes a mockery of the disabled (my wife happens to be on disablity)

Non-work related:
*Whenever I chat with someone online for the first time to say hi and the first thing they say is "asl plz".
*People who smoke right in front of the front doors where all the smoke can get blown in my face. Personally, I liked it better when they had their own enclosed smoking rooms for this reason.
*Those annoying graphics on TV!! Especially on ABC Family and Fox FX. Do we really need the bottom third of the screen filled with annoying little running brides (from Joe Millionare at the time) while I'm trying to watch a program? It's bad enough that reruns will be chopped up to fit more commercials; do we even more advertising in the form of annoying graphics? Is it any wonder some people have said screw cable/sattelite and just get DVDs/Netflix instead?
*People who claim to be all about tolerance and diversity for all but are about as intolerant and hostile as you'll ever find if they happen to run into someone who's a conservative, pro-lifer, pro-Bush, et al?

I think that should cover my list.