Emotional Blackmail

[Slytovhand]

Granted, I'm not really one to be affected by it, cos if someone tries it on me, I'll just shrug it off and let them suffer

But, tonight, I did a Facebook post of stuff about me.

Cos I didn't name someone as one of my 'best friends', I cop a comment of "What about me? What am I then - chopped liver? Not happy, Jan!" (and no, I don't suspect it's sarcasm...)

Sheesh!

I'm wondering if I should point out, I moved down here 5 years ago, but have been back to Bris about half a dozen times, and always caught up with her. OTOH, my 'best friends' have only bothered to visit me once...

[Fenrus]

The way I see it, if someone has to have validation that they are your "best friend", they usually aren't...

My best friends know, not because I tell them, but because we can go for weeks without talking, then just strike up a conversation or meet for lunch, and it's like no time has passed between us.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I don't really have a best friend. I have a collection of folks that I consider "family that chose each other." They already know who they are, they don't need any labels from me or anyone else to tell them where they rank in my affections.

[powerboy]

My whole group is my best friends. We are all a family. We all go out and do things besides ghost hunt. We go to movies, or just hang out.

[TheOmen]

this happened a few times to me in the past, and I naively fell for it - now I have a healthy dose of misanthropy and cynicism

[Flyndaran]

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My best friends know, not because I tell them, but because we can go for weeks without talking, then just strike up a conversation or meet for lunch, and it's like no time has passed between us.

That's exactly how I am with my friend. Since I have severe social phobia and anxiety I have trouble meeting with her or just about anyone.
She's a great friend, so we meet every other month or so. It is just like no time had passed.

[lovlybones]

I think some people just get jealous if they see you as their "best Friend" when in turn you do'nt feel the same.

its kind of like a relationship of sorts lol if you can make it through the stupid fights like this, then its always worth it.

and if they are gonna be that jealous about it then why bother? there is a reason why there are friends, and then best friends!