Single People

[blas87]

The reverse of the "People in Relationships" thread.

Not single people in general, I'm talking about single people who cannot be happy for their friends or family members or whomever have you who are currently in relationships.

My bf's friends are a good example. One of them constantly asks him "Don't you wish you were still single?" anytime that we see him out in public and a group of skankily clad girls walk by. Wow, in the 5 seconds you wasted flapping your gums insulting me, you could have just chased after them. Now they've gotten away.

Oh, it's not because he doesn't like me or approve of me. It's because now that he's single, he thinks all guys in relationships are "trapped" by their girlfriends. Yeah, like I tell my boyfriend what to do and I refuse to allow him to go out.

It doesn't work that way. He gets his chances to go out, and I have my girls' nights with my friends. We do prefer to spend time together, mostly because neither of us have the extra cash to go out drinking or partying, and we find that our money goes by further by going out to eat and renting movies. Add to it that most of our friends refuse to do anything that doesn't involve alcohol, so it's not like they jump on the chance to hang out with US.

Just had to rant. Not everyone in a relationship is "Trapped". Some people are actually pretty happy.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

You think it's annoying now, Blas? Wait till the time, should you ever decide to marry, that you announce your engagement.

Geeze, every bitter victim of a failed relationship will be queing up to tell you what a horrible mistake you're making, how much marriage sucks, how all men are unfaithful pigs, how all women are gold digging whores, etc.

It must be all true, you know. It couldn't possibly be that maybe they chose the wrong type of partner. And it sure couldn't be possible that they maybe don't learn from previous mistakes and just keep choosing the same kind of wrong partner every time.

Your bf's friend doesn't think all his friends who are in relationships are trapped and miserable. He's the one who is miserable, and misery loves company. And probably his thinking "gee I wish I was single" all the time while he WAS in a relationship is why he isn't in one now.

[Greenday]

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I know a lot of single people get jealous over friends who are in relationships. I've done it before. I know what it's like. But I don't get why they try to make their friends miserable by telling them to break up with their boyfriend/girlfriend. Unless they are in a very bad relationship, that's not right.

[BroomJockey]

blas, you're 100% right. The guy's a tool, and probably people like that are either mostly jealous, or just can't understand the attachment between a boyfriend and girlfriend. In this specific case, it's probably jealousy, since he was in a relationship, but isn't now.

[blas87]

You guys are definetly right.....and on to something here.......

I don't hear my girlfriends taunting me with "Aww blas, dontcha wish you were still single?" when a group of frat boys go swaggering by. My guy friends don't even bug me about it, the most they do is ask how my boyfriend is doing.

I mean, I've been the single girl when all of my friends were in relationships. Sure I had my moments where I felt like a 3rd (or 5th) wheel, I felt like a loser, I felt even worse when time after time, bad date after bad date, nothing changed. But I would never say such awful things to my friends. Part of being friends is that you are there for one another and support one another. I WANT to see my friends happy. I want to know that my friends are being treated well and feeling in love, and experiencing how great it can be to share life with someone.

[Slytovhand]

Perhaps, what said 'friend' meant was: "Gee, I'm such a loser I can't pick up on my own, I could really do with you playing wingman... or even doing all the work, and I'll just tag along and hope they notice me - but since you've got a girlfriend, I'm SOL "...

[blas87]

Haha on the wingman theory. That's a whole other topic for a different thread.

Girls around here are so slutty, they'd just think my bf wanted them......or they wouldn't even care if he told them he was with me. I don't like the wingman or wingwoman aspect of dating. Not only that, but there are people who read between the lines and will think you're a total coward if you are an adult and still need a friend to "hook you up". Grow a pair and do it yourself. That's what I did, and look what I got!

[Greenday]

Nah, that can't be it. Friend's with girlfriends are perfect for wingmen. I won't post why because I don't know if any of you are part of the secret underground organization of women against men in which case you'd spread the secret out and it won't work. But trust me, it works.

[blas87]

I don't need to be in on your little club, Greenday. I know how girls work.

Well, ok. I know how drunk, promiscuous girls work.

Maybe if his friends were willing to meet girls in a more appropriate setting where girls weren't throwing up or falling over or not realizing that their nipples were falling out of their swim suits.....or if they were willing to meet some of my single friends, who may not be willing to "put out" on the first date or first 5 minutes, but can actually start, hold, and keep a conversation going and have better things to talk about than blowing stuff up and being drunk....

[BroomJockey]

have better things to talk about than blowing stuff up

you take that back! There is nothing better than talking about blowing stuff up, except actually doing so!!!!!!

[blas87]

Yeah ok, maybe if it's something remotely impressive, like a spud gun :P

[BroomJockey]

Yeah ok, maybe if it's something remotely impressive, like a spud gun :P

How about thermite? That's fun stuff.

[blas87]

I don't think the young males around here would even know where to begin with that one. Last I heard, they were still thinking they were smart with ketchup bombs.

[Flyndaran]

I don't think the young males around here would even know where to begin with that one. Last I heard, they were still thinking they were smart with ketchup bombs.

I feel the urge to say that the REAL smart guys, like me, avoid explosives.
I like having all my fingers.

[BroomJockey]

I feel the urge to say that the REAL smart guys, like me, avoid explosives.

I'm a pyro, I admit, but I practice safety above all other things, so no, I wouldn't say that you're a "REAL smart guy," just intelligent for knowing what you are and are not capable of.