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  • Negativity and cheapness

    I absolutely hate it when someone's mind automatically jumps to the worst possible option in any given situation. It drives me insane when someone cannot be pleased.

    My boyfriend's mother is like this. For example, no matter where you take her to eat she never ever says anything better than "it was okay" we almost make a game of waiting for her to say she doesn't like something, and god forbid you take her somewhere a little more expensive (and I don't mean fine dining, I mean like Olive Garden) or even suggest it, it's pretty much out of the question. She assumes the worst in every situation, and my boyfriend is starting to do that as well.

    I can't think like that, not that I'm always optimistic, but I can't be pessimistic all the time. It's draining mentally.

    As for people being cheap, it annoys me. I fully understand that some people can't afford expensive things, I for one can't, but there is being careful with your money and squeezing every penny until it screams.

    People that complain over an item being 1 cent more than the sign need to shut up. I know someone who says that she won't pay more than $7 for a pair of pants, and was shocked when I said I'd be willing to pay $20, up to $30 if they were a great fit. Not all pants come from wal-mart. This same person buys every "deal" she finds, her house is crammed with stuff she got on sale. Whole sets of dishes that have never been used. You know what saves money? not buying stuff you don't need. Try not going to wal-mart for a couple days hey?

    Sure I love getting a great deal on things, but I won't buy the shirt that's 5 sizes too big just because it's $1. Admittedly, I've purchased items of clothing that fit, but that I wasn't particularly excited about owning, I've tried to stop that habit. I've decided on only buying items of clothing I absolutely love, since I'm in the process of trimming down my wardrobe.

    It also bothers me when people go on about how buying in bulk is so much cheaper. It can be, yes, but not when more than half goes to waste. My boyfriend loves costco, I do too, but for different reasons. He likes to buy food like it's for a family of 6 instead of just us two. I have to convince him every time, if it's something we're only going to use a couple times, it's cheaper to buy a smaller package.

    Okay, maybe it's not necessarily cheapness, but pseudo cheapness that bothers me. Those people that go on about how expensive things are, but will spend tons of money on things they don't need, or even really want.

  • #2
    Your boyfriend's mom and my mom are related. I can't tell you how many times, I've tried to treat my mother to a nice sit down lunch at a nice restaurant (Olive Garden, Red Lobster, etc.) and she sits there like a bump on a log and complains about everything. And she wonders why I no longer invite her out.
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    • #3
      I have a coworker like that. She loves to argue, mostly, but she will find something negative about ANYTHING.

      I couldn't even tell her about receiving government bonds from my Nanna without her belly aching "Ahh but you're going to be paying taxes out the wazoo for those!"

      Thanks for raining on my parade. Most of the time, she isn't even right when she argues and gets negative.

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      • #4
        A friend of the family's husband is so cheap that he makes Mr. Krabs look like a big spender. I mean, you would have to seriously do some coaxing for him to even spend 99 cents without flinching.
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        • #5
          I hate that. Life is WAAAY too short for those people in my life.

          Maybe you should point out to the BF that he is developing her nasty habit. He might not realize he's doing it.

          As for spending, I have a rule about buying things, particularly things to wear. The price doesn't matter much (well, within reason, I'm not made of money,either). It can be cheap or maybe a little more. But buy things you love. Don't buy things just cuz they are cheap, even for a dollar. Buy it because you love it and it looks fabulous on you. The more fabulous it looks, the more you are allowed to spend. Never buy clothes that "look okay" on you.

          Toss up for favorite pairs of shoes: one pair cost about 70 bucks. The other pair cost 5 bucks. Both are fabulous. (and interestingly, the five dollar pair seems to be holding up better than the more expensive designer ones. )

          Same goes for most things. I think you should not get the cheapest thing in most cases. You should get the best thing that you can afford. Not the most expensive. The highest quality that will get the job done for the money you have to spend on it.

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          • #6
            I work with someone that is not negative a whole lot but he's a debater and whiner. When he whines he will become negative about how bad his life is. As far as I'm concern life could be a lot worst then what it is.

            I will spend good money on my nice clothe. I have no argument for spending money on something that looks really good on you. My favorite summer shoes cost me $10. I also shop sales at my favorite stores and use coupons to save me money. Now if I'm buying work clothes then cheaper is better. I work in a very dirty environment and spending a lot of money on work clothes that might not last more then a month is not justifiable to me. As for Cost Co, I love it. I buy my meat in bulk, seal it, and freeze it. I live alone but if I need one piece of meat I can pull it out. I also buy my drink mixes and bottled drinks there.
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