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I hate double standards and whatnot. I understand that life isn't fair, but I always took that to mean that random things happen. The non-smoker gets lung cancer, the guy who's never driven drunk gets killed in a crash, and the fat guy will never get laid. LIFE isn't fair. It doesn't need help from manipulative, dishonest people.
Currently a lot of my anger and frustration in life comes from these double standards. Even things that happened during my childhood. It got shoved down my throat so much that I became angry and bitter early on in life. Every situation I got in was always my fault. Take fighting, for instance. If I got into a fight, well, it was my fault because I instigated it! I called someone a name! Of course, when someone called me a name, no one said "Well he had it coming, he called you a name!" It became "You need to ignore such things." Even if it was 100% not my fault, it was decided that "Since you're bigger than he is, you should've not fought in the first place." Of course, when I tangled with someone bigger than me, "You should've known better than to do that."
It continues. All the damn time. In high school a lot of the staff were "rules nazis", enforcing things just because it was written in the rule book, even if it had no impact on day to day operations. Being smart, I used to read the rule book and find loopholes. All of a sudden the people spouting "RULES ARE EVERYTHING AND MUST BE OBEYED WITHOUT QUESTION!" Were suddenly saying "Oh, erm, well, that doesn't really apply in this situation..."
When I was having a house warming party in my new apartment (a quiet gathering of like 5 people) my new neighbor came over to hang out. Everything was cool for about 2 minutes, and then he flipped out and started assaulting people. After we sent him out, he vandalized my car. Well, that was MY fault too. I had it coming. After all, I moved into the crackhouse part of town and I INSTIGATED the fight because I think I'm better than him. Apparently dressing nice and keeping a clean apartment is a real antagonistic attitude. I should have known better. So no charges were pressed on him, despite the physical damage to my friend's face and the car. It was my fault.
So when I retaliated, everyone jumped down my throat. Where were the people saying "he should've known better than to come over and assault someone and then vandalize their car!" No one got all sad and sorry over my case like they did with him. I was just the bad guy all over again.
Even just a few months ago at my job. I got fired for nepotism, because my mother in law worked in the same store as me. But no one cared when my wife was working there, as the MANAGER. They're effectively saying that mother and daughter is no problem, yet mother-in-law and son-in-law is a definite problem. More double standards. Yet any time I was to get written up or get in trouble it was always "Well, the same rules have to apply to everyone, you know!" Yeah, when it's convenient.
I won't even go into the nasty details of my divorce, except to say that I think there's a definite flaw in the system that says I have to pay for half of everything my wife got to keep. Where is the fucking logic in that?
And then people say "Oh relax, that's not true, no one is against you!" Well maybe not, but when exactly do you call it when everything people do is designed to screw you over in some way?
Currently a lot of my anger and frustration in life comes from these double standards. Even things that happened during my childhood. It got shoved down my throat so much that I became angry and bitter early on in life. Every situation I got in was always my fault. Take fighting, for instance. If I got into a fight, well, it was my fault because I instigated it! I called someone a name! Of course, when someone called me a name, no one said "Well he had it coming, he called you a name!" It became "You need to ignore such things." Even if it was 100% not my fault, it was decided that "Since you're bigger than he is, you should've not fought in the first place." Of course, when I tangled with someone bigger than me, "You should've known better than to do that."
It continues. All the damn time. In high school a lot of the staff were "rules nazis", enforcing things just because it was written in the rule book, even if it had no impact on day to day operations. Being smart, I used to read the rule book and find loopholes. All of a sudden the people spouting "RULES ARE EVERYTHING AND MUST BE OBEYED WITHOUT QUESTION!" Were suddenly saying "Oh, erm, well, that doesn't really apply in this situation..."
When I was having a house warming party in my new apartment (a quiet gathering of like 5 people) my new neighbor came over to hang out. Everything was cool for about 2 minutes, and then he flipped out and started assaulting people. After we sent him out, he vandalized my car. Well, that was MY fault too. I had it coming. After all, I moved into the crackhouse part of town and I INSTIGATED the fight because I think I'm better than him. Apparently dressing nice and keeping a clean apartment is a real antagonistic attitude. I should have known better. So no charges were pressed on him, despite the physical damage to my friend's face and the car. It was my fault.
So when I retaliated, everyone jumped down my throat. Where were the people saying "he should've known better than to come over and assault someone and then vandalize their car!" No one got all sad and sorry over my case like they did with him. I was just the bad guy all over again.
Even just a few months ago at my job. I got fired for nepotism, because my mother in law worked in the same store as me. But no one cared when my wife was working there, as the MANAGER. They're effectively saying that mother and daughter is no problem, yet mother-in-law and son-in-law is a definite problem. More double standards. Yet any time I was to get written up or get in trouble it was always "Well, the same rules have to apply to everyone, you know!" Yeah, when it's convenient.
I won't even go into the nasty details of my divorce, except to say that I think there's a definite flaw in the system that says I have to pay for half of everything my wife got to keep. Where is the fucking logic in that?
And then people say "Oh relax, that's not true, no one is against you!" Well maybe not, but when exactly do you call it when everything people do is designed to screw you over in some way?
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