Relationship preferences

[BroomJockey]

I mean, I've heard girls say because if the guy isn't taller, then the difference in height doesn't allow for certain things. But isn't the difference in height the same if the woman is 5'8" and the guy is 5'5" than if the woman is 5'5" and the guy is 5'8"?

Except then the positions are reversed. Think about activities like putting your arm around someone's shoulder. If you're shorter, you need to reach up, and your entire body is dragging your arm down. You don't often see the woman with her arm around the guy's shoulder. They more often go for around the waist/hips. Which is also made more difficult by the woman being taller. Also, activities like spooning, since usually it goes "female on inside of curve" for lack of a better description, if they guy is shorter, the fit is wrong. So, height can have quite a bit to do with the physical intimacy side. It depends on how her tastes run. Since traditionally, women like to receive physical contact, building trust and bonds with their partner in such a fashion, having a taller partner facilitates that.

Yeah, it's all personal preference, with a hint of traditionalism and gender-based expectations.

[blas87]

The taller, the better for me.

I grew up around tall, big men. Not big as in fat, but men 6'0 or taller (one of my uncles is 6'7) and with a proportionate weight (except over the years most of them got fat).

I'm only 5'3, not a very tall girl. It should NOT be hard for a guy to be taller tha me. My biggest heels make me 5'7, and I should never, ever tower over a guy, but so very often, when I'm out and about on the weekends wearing my heels, I tower over a lot of guys.

I don't think it's such a bad thing. Of course I've always gotten dirty looks from taller girls because supposedly we short girls tend to steal the taller guys because supposedly taller guys like the shorter girls.....but whatever. I'm sure there are plenty of girls out there who dig shorter guys, just not me.

My weight requirement for a guy....if I can pick him up (as in just pick him up off the ground), he's too small. I weigh 120-125 lbs, I should not be able to pick my guy up. I want a guy who can pick me up, carry me, heck even better, if he can bench me.....but if he's overweight, that's a turn off. As shallow as it sounds, I exercise regularly and do my best to stay in shape, and I'd prefer a guy who did the same. I have my sloth moments and I won't judge a guy for being an occasional couch potato, but a dunlap is always a dealbreaker.

I don't get into the nitty gritty with hair/eye color or what shade their skin is.....I have my own little flaws (very oily skin, big German nose, sausage upper arms) and I don't nitpick as long as the guy is at least decent looking.

I am going to be honest, as much as a shock as it may come to some of you, there are a lot of average to below average looking people who are just as plain or ugly on the inside as they are on the outside....not just good looking people are shallow assholes. I know quite a few of overweight/underweight guys who demand Playmate girlfriends, and act surprised when they always end up going home alone.

[the_std]

I'm five feet tall and for a long time, I didn't date anyone under six feet tall. Not that I based my relationship choices solely on their height, but the men I found attractive overall were also a lot taller than me. That was just how it worked out. I liked them being so much taller than me because of a few things. One was a feeling of safety and comfort. Being able to be wrapped up in a guy's arms or have him cocoon you with a hug was a huge thing for me. Another was that, because I am constantly made fun of for my height, including people assuming that I am a weak and feeble woman just because I'm a shorty, it paid to have a big tall boyfriend with whom I could wrestle and mock-beat up on occasion, kind of proving that I wasn't just a weak little girl.

I've since dated shorter guys, and am currently with someone who is around 5'8", and everything is fine. So I don't exclusively date tall dudes, either.

[smileyeagle1021]

I know quite a few of overweight/underweight guys who demand Playmate girlfriends, and act surprised when they always end up going home alone.

which is why I've found the best way to go is to expect nothing more than the proper species and proper set of genitalia, and then everything above that is just great
(yeah, that's how to always be pleased, set your standards low )

[DesignFox]

I have to agree with the_std on the height thing.

There is something so comforting about a big guy wrapping his whole body around you.

As to spooning, yea the guy usually is outside or the one putting his arm on your shoulders. It's hard to do that when you're shorter... I know when I'm sleeping I like the feel of someone at my back...

But we spoon both ways. My SO likes to be the inside spoon, too. Fortunately, he's in really good shape, 'cause if he was heavy I wouldn't be able to get my arm around him.

I also agree with blas, while physical appearence isn't the end all, I wouldn't be attracted to someone grossly overweight. I take care of myself and I want a partner who takes care of himself as well.

Plus, being with someone who keeps their body in good shape sort of encourages the same behavior in me. I tend to be influenced by those around me, so I purposely surround myself with people with good habits.

[Greenday]

My SO likes to be the inside spoon, too.

I like to call it the little spoon. The one thing I hate about being the big spoon, is where the hell do you put the arm you are laying on?

[BroomJockey]

where the hell do you put the arm you are laying on?

This is where being a fair bit taller helps. You have them lie with their head at about your shoulder height, then they get to use it as a pillow.
Most of the time, it doesn't end up cutting off circulation.

[Giggle Goose]

Preferences are just that. Preferences. It doesn't mean they're "requirements."

I've dated lots of great (and not-so-great) guys, with all sorts of different appearances and personalities. I gave them all a fair chance. I used to be a member of a few online dating sites, and I don't remember putting anything shallow. As long as they were honest and laid-back, I would at least talk to them!

But oooooh man, I do love being with a guy who is taller than me. I love that he can carry me, spoon me, and make me feel nice and safe in his arms. *sigh* (Sorry)!!!

[Greenday]

This is where being a fair bit taller helps. You have them lie with their head at about your shoulder height, then they get to use it as a pillow.
Most of the time, it doesn't end up cutting off circulation.

Hm, my ex used to not like it with my arm under her head. She didn't think it was comfy.

[BroomJockey]

Hm, my ex used to not like it with my arm under her head. She didn't think it was comfy.

Pfft, with tiny string arms like yours, no wonder! All bone!

[Greenday]

Lol, I wish I were skinny.

[DesignFox]

I lay on my right side, pillow my head on my right arm, and put my left arm around the boy.

[Flyndaran]

Bummer. We can't spoon. She actually produces too much body heat for me to hold her for long. Once, she caused me physical pain. I may be a polar bear, but she just wastes all her energy heating up the room.
Darn me and my love of endothermic mammals.

I know that I simply could not fall for someone without a sense of humor and love of silliness. Humor is a deeper more important aspect to my sense of self than anything else about me.

[AFPheonix]

I'm not too picky, just wanted someone fun without too much body hair. Yay for half-vietnamese guys!

[DesignFox]

Bummer. We can't spoon. She actually produces too much body heat for me to hold her for long. Once, she caused me physical pain. I may be a polar bear, but she just wastes all her energy heating up the room.
Darn me and my love of endothermic mammals.

<snip>.

*laughs* This is what my SO loves about me! I get sleepy and the temperature in the room increases by a few degrees. Yes. The whole room. I got up from the couch one night and my hunny said to me, "Whoa. You MUST be tired! You got up to use the bathroom and the temperature in the room just dropped. How are you still awake???"

(it's easy to tell when I'm sleepy)

He's also always cold...I'm his little space heater.