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    OK... This didn't used to bother me, but now it's starting to get really f*ing old. I finally got my mother to stop using that line (actually, she only used it once, when I countered that I could ask if she might really be lesbian and just hadn't found the right woman she stopped using it).
    But what brought this to a head was on wednesday I went out to see Harry Potter with some friends. Now, I know these friends don't really approve of homosexuality, but we're still friends (because they are that rare bread that can disapprove of what someone does in the bedroom but still think they are a good person). I know that they have that mindset that if I just meet the right girl, I will realize that there is a "better way" and that I don't have to live the life of sin, blah blah blah. Now, up until recently I had no problem with it because the extent of their efforts was to invite me to social events where there would be a lot of girls present that they could introduce me to. I have no problem with this, I can always use more friends, even if there is no romantic interest, and hey, if them introducing me to girls soothes their moral requirement to say they have done all they can to try to save me, so be it... as long as they aren't forcing me to accept the 'saving'
    This week was a bit different though, went out to the movies, I of course was not surprised to find that there was 2 girls that I had not met before that my friends were just so anxious for me to meet. Ok, no big deal, we've been here, done that, shake their hands, they may be friends later, on with the night. The next day though I get a text message, "hey, did you talk to that girl from last night again, she seemed to like you, you don't know, she might be the one."
    Gah... no, she is NOT the one, no girl ever has been nor ever will be the one. This is who I am, this is what God made me to be, that isn't going to be changed... if prayers to God, repentance, and even a second baptism didn't do it, what makes you think that a pretty girl is going to do it. It's so maddening sometimes this attitude that I need to find the girl who is going to save me (though I notice it is always a friend they try to introduce me to, never a sister... hmm, do they have so little confidence that they won't have their sister be the one...).
    "I'm Gar and I'm proud" -slytovhand

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    I think you just need to get the hell out of Salt Lake City and into a normal town.
    Violence has resolved more conflicts than anything else. The contrary opinion that violence doesn't solve anything is merely wishful thinking at its worst. - Starship Troopers

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    • #3
      I have the perfect guy for you. Do you like guys that are almost 7 feet tall that are (can you imagine) even better looking than my boyfriend and love to shop!?

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      • #4
        Crap like this are what some asexuals (like myself) hear all the time..."you just haven't met the right person!" Straight people don't wake up one day and just "decide" to be striaght, its not really any different to those of us who have different preferences. Hell, with divorce rates so high, one can just retort back that maybe THEY haven't met "the" person, even if they're already in a relationship!

        Thankfully only a few people I know pull this crap on me, most of them are cool cause we have the same extended circle of friends which include some gay and bisexual people, so they're pretty tolerant and understanding of sexual preference.

        You'll run into this with people no matter where you are. But I will concur you need to get the hell out of there!

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        • #5
          Right now I have to deal with a similar thing. Being straight but not interested in dating right now I have a coworker trying to get me with anyone so I can be "happy". I'm starting to regret even talking to her in the first place.
          "Human history becomes more and more a race between education and catastrophe" -H. G. Wells

          "Nature, to be commanded, must be obeyed" -Sir Francis Bacon

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          • #6
            I'm not gay, but I still hear this on occasion. When people find out I'm still single, they'll give me this patronizing pep talk like "Oh, don't worry, there's someone out there for everyone" or "You'll find the right person; you just need to keep looking."

            Why do they think I would appreciate hearing this stuff?

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            • #7
              Tell them to stop being so obnoxious about it or you'll no longer be friends with them. You shouldn't have to deal with that.

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              • #8
                Hey Smiley, I'll come over and take the girls off your hands if you want.


                "Oh, don't worry, there's someone out there for everyone" or "You'll find the right person; you just need to keep looking."
                I tend to want to punch people that say that.
                I am a sexy shoeless god of war!
                Minus the sexy and I'm wearing shoes.

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                • #9
                  Are you serious? Why is this behavior still tolerated? Why do you tolerate it? Why does society look at people being such assholes to their FRIENDS, and say "aww, they're just trying to help"?

                  They are NOT trying to help. They are trying to maintain their own illusion about "the gays" not being a real and permanent part of society, and continually try to "fix" them. For their OWN peace of mind. These people are NOT your friends!

                  I cannot understand how this is bullshit is so common. Please bring your friends to Australia for a "holiday" so I can lecture them about how you don't offer tacos to someone who only eats sausages, and then hit them all in the face. Then you can tell them you were just trying to find them a "better perspective".

                  As for parents who won't accept their children's sexuality (or any choices they make in their life), I don't really want to go there because I'm not sure I want to insult anyone's parents, but let's just say I'm extremely fucking glad I don't have parents like that.

                  ARRRRRGGGGHHHHHHH Nothing pisses me off more!!

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Greenday View Post
                    I think you just need to get the hell out of Salt Lake City and into a normal town.
                    Living in a normal city though I wouldn't do as much good as I do here... honestly, the most service I can do for the cause is to show those bigots in this city that gays are no different... that said, as soon as I have a means to get out I will, but I'll take comfort in the good I'll do while I'm here.

                    Originally posted by blas87 View Post
                    I have the perfect guy for you. Do you like guys that are almost 7 feet tall that are (can you imagine) even better looking than my boyfriend and love to shop!?
                    now I know you are making stuff up, tall, better looking than your boyfriend even, and loves to shop (which means he can do all the shopping for me and have one less chore for me to do )... surely this mythical creature cannot exist

                    Originally posted by guywithashovel View Post
                    Why do they think I would appreciate hearing this stuff?
                    I don't know why people think we appreciate hearing this... but at least with you they are pushing you towards the gender of your preference...

                    Originally posted by Kalli View Post
                    Are you serious? Why is this behavior still tolerated? Why do you tolerate it? Why does society look at people being such assholes to their FRIENDS, and say "aww, they're just trying to help"?
                    I tolerate it because I don't have much choice. People who are willing to call me 'friend' in this area are few and far between. If it isn't because they don't approve of my sexuality, it's because we have little in common (being a geek isn't that popular in Utah, believe it or not). So, my options are to have almost no social interaction whatsoever, or deal with the people who are occasionally going to "try to help".
                    "I'm Gar and I'm proud" -slytovhand

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                    • #11
                      Once again, we have reaffirmed that Smiley needs to move the fuck out of Utah.

                      Hang in there, you'll be free soon.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Nyoibo View Post
                        Hey Smiley, I'll come over and take the girls off your hands if you want.
                        Twice!!!

                        Twice in one night you beat me to it! Aaarrrgghhhhhh!





                        Originally posted by Quoth Kalli
                        Please bring your friends to Australia for a "holiday" so I can lecture them about how you don't offer tacos to someone who only eats sausages, and then hit them all in the face.
                        What??? Now you've just got me confused! You offer them tacos and tell them to stop being so damn insular and to try something different once in a while. I mean, sausages - how damn boring!!! (my father was like that... didn't want to try thai food because he didn't know if he'd like it or not... is it just me who thinks that's dumb???)


                        Don't worry Smiley, you'll find a nice girl soon enough


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                        ZOE: Preacher, don't the Bible got some pretty specific things to say about killing?

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                        • #13
                          I think you answered yourself on how to deal with it in your first post with your response to your mother.

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                          • #14
                            I'm not lying to you smiley, he does exist! But you gotta come to WI to meet him!

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by blas87 View Post
                              I'm not lying to you smiley, he does exist! But you gotta come to WI to meet him!

                              Can I meet him I need someone to shop with-husband hates shopping with me-and I'm already here in WI.
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