old =/= creepy

[BlaqueKatt]

Particularly as I am wearing a uniform consisting of a long sleeved shirt and sensible trousers; hardly sexy wear so I have the right to not be hit on.

Yes because people are only attracted to bodies and never their personality


as an aside I found this article about "TWITS" or "Teenage Women In Their 30's"-I'd say that's a fitting acronym.....

"Ms Johns keeps her age a secret but admits she is in her 30s.

"People have a perception of me as being young and fun and when I tell them my age it changes the way they see me," she said. "

Social researcher Mark McCrindle said "Society values youth. We don't look up to older people the way we did last century," he said.

[anriana]

I totally liked the points of that article:

* Women putting relationships, babies on hold
* Continuing to party and enjoy their freedoms
* Nightclubs seeing more Gen X women


I mean, like, oh my god, enjoying themselves instead of, like, having a baby? What freaking immature little bitches. How can they, like, not want a boyfriend?

[Flyndaran]

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I mean, like, oh my god, enjoying themselves instead of, like, having a baby? What freaking immature little bitches. How can they, like, not want a boyfriend?

Isn't that the truth. Choosing to remain childless is rarely a selfish act. Determining that one will either make a poor parent, or does not have the resources available, mental as well as financial, is a very adult selfless act.

[BroomJockey]

Determining that one will either make a poor parent,

That's me. I'd be a damned horrible parent. I'm still relatively young, so I might mature, but frankly, I doubt it.

[Flyndaran]

That's me. I'd be a damned horrible parent. I'm still relatively young, so I might mature, but frankly, I doubt it.

I am so horribly non-confrontational and wishy washy, that my love muffin calls me p*ssy whipped as in ruled by our cats. I couldn't keep the only job I've ever really had in a dog kennel because I wasn't assertive enough.
I would make a very subpar parent.

[Lace Neil Singer]

Yes because people are only attracted to bodies and never their personality

Well done, you managed to COMPLETELY MISS THE POINT I was trying to make. Please reread my post before replying again.

[IDrinkaRum]

As said before in another post: Creepy is as creepy does no matter the age.

Trust me.

I think I look my age of almost 37. I have grey hair at my temples and around my forehead (not much in the back, but there are a few strands).

I also talk alot. Flirting. Being nice. Whatever.

Yes, I've had "gentlemen" ask me to have an affair with them. (2 regular customers from The Gaming Store - 1 is serious, the other one, not so serious).

I'm married. I'm safe. And in that, I'm safe to flirt, and the guys, if they want to, can flirt back with me. They can try their flirting skills with me. (I don't mind, and I will tell them if that is good or not).

But again, don't forget: Creepy is as creepy does, no matter the age of the creepy person or the person they're creeping on.

[Lace Neil Singer]

Exactly. I'm not a paranoid person who assumes that every guy who is nice and friendly to me is chatting me up; however, asking for sex and/or innappropiate touching is NOT right and the guy doing it is a creep, regardless of age.

The reason why I mentioned a comparison between work and going out is that if I go out wearing a short skirt and a top that emphasises my boobs, I'm going to expect that guys stare or comment. I don't care about that; if I wanted no men to do that, I'd sling on a bin bag. However, if I'm at work and wearing a uniform, I'm in no way inviting it, plus I can't exactly react the way I would in my free time.

I've had a couple of creepy guys hit on me while at work; both incidents left me shaken and tearful. Whereas the same happening while I was out wouldn't even phase me. I'm trying to explain this the best way I can; I hope that it's clear to everyone the point I'm making. -.-

[Boozy]

However, if I'm at work and wearing a uniform, I'm in no way inviting it, plus I can't exactly react the way I would in my free time.

I think the important part of your point here is that you are at work.

I despise being hit on when I'm at work. My job is customer service, and if the person coming on to me is a customer, my options for dealing with the exchange are very limited. I'm not generally the type to tell a guy to "fuck off" unless they're being very crass, but I resent not being given the option. I resent not being able to say "no" and then walking away. I'm trapped until the guy leaves. And if he's persistent, it gets awkward.

I have told all my friends never to ask a restaurant server or customer service person out on a date while they are at work. Don't ask for their number. Quietly give them yours, and walk away. Putting people on the spot at their workplace is rude.

[Flyndaran]

If you are an attractive woman, then you will get hit on. That's just a sometimes sad fact of man dominated cultures. Attractive men most likely don't have that problem with women. I guess, since I'm rather avererage in appearance and have little self-confidence. I never had nice women hit on me, but also never had creeps leering.

[BlaqueKatt]

What freaking immature little bitches.

no the immature part is: "People have a perception of me as being young and fun and when I tell them my age it changes the way they see me,"


Soo she's sooo wrapped up in what other people think that she's willing to lie about something so trivial as age-what else is she willing to lie about? Most people grow out of that in high school or soon after.

And telling someone your age does not change who you are-I would not want to hang out with anyone that damn shallow, that their perception of me changes when I tell the truth.

[Lace Neil Singer]

If you are an attractive woman, then you will get hit on. That's just a sometimes sad fact of man dominated cultures.

I don't consider myself attractive, but I have big boobs. Same thing? O_o

I think the important part of your point here is that you are at work.

I despise being hit on when I'm at work. My job is customer service, and if the person coming on to me is a customer, my options for dealing with the exchange are very limited. I'm not generally the type to tell a guy to "fuck off" unless they're being very crass, but I resent not being given the option. I resent not being able to say "no" and then walking away. I'm trapped until the guy leaves. And if he's persistent, it gets awkward.

That's exactly it. Tho at least in the petrol station I do have the option to get up and walk away; on checkouts I had no chance to do that at all so was effectively trapped at the mercy of the creep.

[Boozy]

I don't consider myself attractive, but I have big boobs. Same thing? O_o

Actually.... yes. Large breasts are considered attractive by many men, so if you have them, you'd be considered attractive to at least some extent. Besides, you're probably selling yourself short in general. I'm sure your boyfriend thinks you're pretty cute.

I've often wondered why it's okay for men to say "I fell in love with her because of her beautiful eyes" or "I just couldn't resist her smile" but it's NOT okay for them to say "How could I say no to that incredible rack?" It's the same thing, really. Eyes, smiles, and boobs are just lucky rolls of the genetic dice (barring plastic surgery). It says nothing about who you are as a person.

[DesignFox]

Old does not immediately mean creepy. There are certain types of people who are just naturally flirtatious.

I don't have any problem with an older gentleman complimenting me or being charming or "smooth".

I DO however have a problem with guys old enough to be my dad hitting on me or being inappropriate (i.e. touching, ogling, harrassing, digging for info.).

Seriously, if you're hitting on someone young enough to be your daughter (or son), I think it's weird. Now, if the girl seems to be receptive or expressing interest, I'm not going to immediately call "creep!" But I still think it's WEIRD. If I see a couple with ages that obviously disparate it kind of makes me wonder what is wrong with either of them- like, why aren't you with someone your own age and maturity level?

*shrug* If the couple are both of legal age, they can do whatever they please. I won't SAY anything. But I will *think* its weird.

And when guys who are more than 10 or 15 years older than me shamelessly *hit* on me, I think it's creepy.

I have had it happen in my previous job and in this job. In my former job the guy was not exactly harassing, but just a weirdo (um, you're in your 40's, divorced with 2 kids, what on earth makes you think a 21 year old working in a children's store wants anything to do with you?)

As for the second guy- Thankfully, I don't work for that location anymore, so I never have to deal with him. He was at least in his 50's, married, with 2 sons that were just about my age. Again, what makes you think a young woman with no kids wants anything to do with you? On top of it all, this guy had poor hygeine and was not in the least bit attractive (heavy, slovenly, un-shaven, not well dressed, etc.). I mean, the first guy I'll at least give credit for being hygeinic and fairly attractive (clean cut, well dressed, well spoken, etc.)...

But both of them gave me the "weird" vibe. I didn't dig it.

[kibbles]

And when guys who are more than 10 or 15 years older than me shamelessly *hit* on me, I think it's creepy.

I have had it happen in my previous job and in this job. In my former job the guy was not exactly harassing, but just a weirdo (um, you're in your 40's, divorced with 2 kids, what on earth makes you think a 21 year old working in a children's store wants anything to do with you?)
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However, unless the guy doesn't take no for an answer, just because you find something creepy (older and flirting) doesn't mean that makes the guy a creep at all. JMO of course.