old =/= creepy

[BroomJockey]

My dad once explained this to me, the way he put it is his brain refuses to believe that he's too old, his brain still thinks of himself as a young buck of 20-something,

Oooo, excellent point. Age difference tends to mean less to people when they age, simply because they have more years, so they have a longer perspective, too. It might just be that they don't think to themselves "Hey, I'm 40, and 20 years older than this girl."

[Lace Neil Singer]

Off course, but that has not a darn thing to do with age.

Cept that I'm saying that age doesn't matter to me. Do you have to jump on every single thing I say?

My best friend's boyf is an older guy as in, in his mid forties; but he looks around thirty. Would anyone mind if an "older but looks younger" guy was hitting on them, and would they then feel creeped out after finding out how old he was?

For the record, I once had a forty year old guy hit on me when I was eighteen. What put me off him was the fact that he was wearing a wedding ring. -.-

[Flyndaran]

Cept that I'm saying that age doesn't matter to me. Do you have to jump on every single thing I say?
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The topic was about old people being creepy. When you write something that could be taken as pertaining to the thread titel, I will assume that is the case.

[Lace Neil Singer]

I was disagreeing that age automatically meant creepy. In any case, you're not a mod last time I checked; it's not your job to jump on someone cuz you think they're being off topic.

[DesignFox]

<snip> on a sheer practical level I can see why a young woman wouldn't want to get involved with an older bloke who's body is going to deteriorate to the extent where he'll need near round-the-clock care when she's in her prime years, then leaving her alone after death when she's not going to have as good a chance of finding another mate.

Rapscallion

Hence, the ewww response. My examples were extreme, but THAT'S what squicks me out. If I'm in my 20's, I don't want to be dating the guy that's falling apart at the seams.

As a woman especially, I'm dealing with an age bias in finding a potential life-mate. (but I think that's a separate societal rant)

Now, life is a big bowl of suck, and something could very well happen to my similarly aged partner, but the general assumption is that he's not going to be lying in a hospital bed, wearing depends, or dealing with various ailments any time soon.

And by the time I get to that point (well, honestly I want to be that little old lady full of piss and vinegar out riding her horses- that's MY dream- I don't want to be that old person that slowly falls apart), I'd really like to be with someone who cares for me and loves me- no matter that I've reached that stage.

If it's only a ten or maybe fifteen year age difference, it's maybe not that big a deal once you get into the retirement zone. I just don't want to be with a guy that's going to hit that stage two decades before me. I'd really have to fall for a guy hard to consider someone that much older than me for a potential partner, and I just don't see it happening for the multitude of reasons I gave.

I'm a very active girl. The guy I'm with has to be able to keep up, because, short of death intervening, I'm not stopping.

So, DF, wanna go for a coffee sometime??

Ewwwww.

*laugh* Just kidding Slyt!

[Slytovhand]

Foxy, I had this window open so that the last line I saw was your 'Ewwwww' after my quote... I laughed even before I saw the 'just kidding'!


And, you're a little old for me anyway...






Someday I might get over to that part of the world... but I don't know when. I keep saying "Should be this year"... but I've said that for a couple of years now..

(I've got a standing coffee date with someone in OH... that's been there for, oh, what...7 years or more now...)

[DesignFox]

Foxy, I had this window open so that the last line I saw was your 'Ewwwww' after my quote... I laughed even before I saw the 'just kidding'!


And, you're a little old for me anyway...
<snip>

Old?! Who you callin' old?!

Oh my god, my neighbor's kid is such a little stinker. Today she was complaining that she doesn't have a cell phone. (she's 12) I told her not to worry that I didn't get one until I was 17. Her reply, "well, yea...that's 'cause that was when they came out!"

Stinker. *laugh*

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I'm 27, if you're older than 40 are you robbin' cradles there, Slyt?