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I'm sure we've all experienced this at some stage in our lives.
Someone wants us to 'help' with something - be it big or small, immediate or long term - and for whatever reason, you choose not to.
And you get labelled (either verbally or merely mentally) as an 'arsehole'.. or 'asshole' if in US or Canada
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Guess what planet Earth, I'm under no obligation to give someone a hand - ever.
Current situations - a) selling stuff on eBay, such as an electronic keyboard. It clearly says (in capitals) PICK UP ONLY in the description, and in the postage instructions (aaannndddd... you all know where this is going...). Buyer decides to bid, and then wins the auction, and then asks about postage interstate! "Will pay $50 plus real postage costs". WTF??? Firstly you are a moron for not even asking about postage prior to bidding, secondly, 'real postage costs' aren't going to be the same amount that you had in mind! Mostly because, a) you were a moron, b) I've got to do more work than I intended to, mostly due to the fact that c) the package is oversized for regular mail! So, I'm not 'helping them out', guess who's an arsehole?? (and the only reason I'm even contemplating doing the courier is because I'm running out of time to do another auction that just might fail!)
b) Co-worker likes a table I've got on sale. I'm also leaving work. I put a 'fair' price on ebay (I consider it fair, it's probably actually better than fair), but she wants me to drop the price because she's a bit tight this week.... and can't afford both the table and my going away present. Ah, sorry, no, you don't get to use my present as leverage! Not to me you don't!!! Sure, it may be a problem for you, but you don't make it mine!!
And no, I'm still not an arsehole just because I won't go down on a fair price... strength =/= arsehole!
And how about helping someone to move? If it doesn't work for you, and thus you don't (for whatever reason) it still doesn't make you an arsehole!
'Help' is not an obligation!
Someone wants us to 'help' with something - be it big or small, immediate or long term - and for whatever reason, you choose not to.
And you get labelled (either verbally or merely mentally) as an 'arsehole'.. or 'asshole' if in US or Canada
)Guess what planet Earth, I'm under no obligation to give someone a hand - ever.
Current situations - a) selling stuff on eBay, such as an electronic keyboard. It clearly says (in capitals) PICK UP ONLY in the description, and in the postage instructions (aaannndddd... you all know where this is going...). Buyer decides to bid, and then wins the auction, and then asks about postage interstate! "Will pay $50 plus real postage costs". WTF??? Firstly you are a moron for not even asking about postage prior to bidding, secondly, 'real postage costs' aren't going to be the same amount that you had in mind! Mostly because, a) you were a moron, b) I've got to do more work than I intended to, mostly due to the fact that c) the package is oversized for regular mail! So, I'm not 'helping them out', guess who's an arsehole?? (and the only reason I'm even contemplating doing the courier is because I'm running out of time to do another auction that just might fail!)
b) Co-worker likes a table I've got on sale. I'm also leaving work. I put a 'fair' price on ebay (I consider it fair, it's probably actually better than fair), but she wants me to drop the price because she's a bit tight this week.... and can't afford both the table and my going away present. Ah, sorry, no, you don't get to use my present as leverage! Not to me you don't!!! Sure, it may be a problem for you, but you don't make it mine!!
And no, I'm still not an arsehole just because I won't go down on a fair price... strength =/= arsehole!
And how about helping someone to move? If it doesn't work for you, and thus you don't (for whatever reason) it still doesn't make you an arsehole!
'Help' is not an obligation!
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