How DARE you have a difference that causes me a slight inconvenience!

[guywithashovel]

I almost didn't want to respond again, because I realize that you (violetyoshi) are pretty much standing alone, but I think this needs to be emphasized.

Parents have responsibilities, and they often have to fulfill those responsibilities in spite of unruly children. I'll freely admit to getting annoyed at children in the grocery store. However, I also realize that the parents of those kids need to have food/diapers/toilet paper/cleaning supplies/etc. in lieu of the fact that their kids are acting out. If they just up and left because the kid is in a snit or bout of hyperactivity, then they probably won't have many of the things they need to keep their houses going.

Now, like you, I'm not a parent, so I probably don't have much business talking about parenting issues, but I have held jobs that required me to work around kids (not the same as raising kids, I know), and that alone has taught me that "calming kids down" or "shutting them up" isn't quite as easy as you seem to think it is. I can't be for certain, but you seem to think that all Mom has to do is say "Be quiet, Billy!" really sternly and little Billy will just sit down, shut up, and act like a perfect gentleman.

You keep saying that people need to be more understanding of your problems, and to some extent, you're right. People should be sensitive to your problems. However, that kind of sensitivity is a two-way street. It seems to me like you could stand to show some sensitivity to other people's issues as well, particularly parents.

[BlaqueKatt]

Well actual pacifiers are much more affordable, however it seems parents are unable to afford those these days.

and if you're breastfeeding pacifiers can be a very bad thing-and some babies like my son(who also had colic*) are allergic to anything other than breastmilk. Pacifier use can break the milk production cycle and result in chronically low milk production.

plus there's that whole ear infection thing-which ear infections make babies cry more

Colicwhich 10 to 30% of babies have-and trust me having a baby that cries, loudly for 3-4 hours every day for almost a month no matter what-yeah try being stuck in a house with that-All babies cry, but sometimes a baby will cry for hours at a time, no matter what you do. This extreme type of crying in a baby between 3 weeks and 3 months of age is called colic. Although it is upsetting for parents and caregivers, colic is normal for some babies.

Doctors usually diagnose colic when a healthy baby cries harder than expected in a "3" pattern: more than 3 hours a day at least 3 days a week for at least 3 weeks in a row.

Doctors are not sure what causes colic, but it may be the result of a baby's sensitive temperament and an immature nervous system. These things may make a baby cry easily and have trouble stopping.

Colic is not related to health conditions, such as digestion problems.
Colic is not caused by pain or illness.
Colic is not your fault or your baby’s fault. It doesn't mean that you are a bad parent or that anything is wrong with your baby.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

I'm not, it seems everyone is thinking that I do.

And every single one of us has absolutely no reason to think that, right?

I don't have kids. If I did however, I'd teach them to be tolerant of people's differences, rather than derride them for not being the same.

Oh, got it. Much like you're tolerant of the screaming kid's difference, right?

I'm sorry that happened to you. To be honest, I'd simply leave with my child, or take them home where they can play and have fun instead of being made to sit still. I know, it's so much to ask for parents to make such a sacrifice on behalf of their child.

I think it's quite interesting that you are a veritable font of parental wisdom. It really is quite amazing how easy you find parenting. Especially since you have NO KIDS. The arrogance I'm seeing here is just stupifying.

Actually, I'm done here. I'm pretty sure anything I say here is troll feeding.

[Ree]

Well actual pacifiers are much more affordable, however it seems parents are unable to afford those these days.

My daughter wouldn't take a pacifier, and neither would my granddaughter.

Not only that, but using a pacifier after a certain age can cause harm to the developing teeth.

I was very lucky, because my daughter was a really content baby and didn't fuss much at all. People would actually comment on how well behaved she was...in public! LOL...(My granddaughter is the same.)

Mind you, once she hit the terrible two's and started developing a stubborn streak, she had more than one meltdown in a store, at church or some other public place. (My granddaughter is just hitting that stage now.)
If it was possible, I did remove her from the situation until she calmed down, but it wasn't always feasible to do that, especially if it was an important errand.
If my husband was with me, usually one of us would take her to the car until she calmed down.

We were responsible parents, and we tried to be considerate of others.
Sometimes, though, it just was not possible to calm our daughter, nor was it possible to remove her from the situation.
Certainly, if her hissy fit was because she wanted me to buy something, or she wanted to do something else, I was not about to cave and let her have her way just so I didn't annoy somebody with her tantrum.