People Who Think Everything's About Them

[Pedersen]

We've all seen them, both on this board and CS, and we all know who does it, so no need to name names.

That doesn't change the fact that the people who manage to change every thread into being about them are extremely annoying. Doesn't matter the original topic. "Mean people hurt my feelings the other day" gets followed up with "You don't even know what mean people are like! You should see what I had to go through as a kid! I got beat up three times every day just on the way home from school!"

Or "Man, seeing all of my friends reaching their life goals around me, while I'm not hitting mine? Yeah, I'm happy for them, but it leaves me depressed" gets followed up with "Ya know, that's not very nice of you not to be happy for them. I know how I'd feel if I found out my supposed friend wasn't happy for me when I managed to get something to happen that I'd been working on for a while."

All in all, this sort of person drives me absolutely insane. People who do this need to get over themselves. The world does not revolve around you. Learn this little fact, and live by it, and you will actually have a much happier life, since people will actually want to be around you.

Alternately, continue doing what you're doing, and then complain when everybody despises hearing your name.

[DesignFox]

That or people who, rather than sympathizing or offering constructive ideas to help you feel better, invalidate your feelings or tell you you are being immature, etc. etc.

Feelings don't have to be rational or logical. They just are. Sometimes sharing them helps you get over the irrational part and feel better. Being told your feelings aren't valid or that you are a horrible person for venting is pretty upsetting, especially if you create a topic or thread simply to feel better and all you get is criticism!

[Boozy]

All in all, this sort of person drives me absolutely insane.

That's nothing. You know what drives ME insane? People that don't listen to me! I have important things to say, and no one cares! Rabble rabble rabble...

What? What? Why are you all looking at me like that?

[Lace Neil Singer]

What do you mean? Everything IS about me.

...

Isn't it? O_O

[guywithashovel]

I used to get this a lot when I first found the CS site. Given how excited I was to find a site dedicated to people like me who had to deal with the thankless and irritating task of serving customers, I was pretty irked on the several occasions when I posted stories about nerve-wracking things that had happened to me at work only to have people pick everything apart and make me look and feel petty.

One time, I posted this story about a pushy truck driver I had dealt with. Basically, what had happened was that I went back into the stockroom and saw this driver waiting back there. He started berating me over the fact that no one had come back to unload his truck. After telling him I would call someone back there, since I wasn't trained on the equipment used to unload trucks, he says, "I don't have all night, hate to tell ya!"

Well, after I posted that story, I got this reply from someone who proceeded to tell me all about his dad who had been a truck driver for many years and often got jacked around on the job and frequently had to meet impossible deadlines. This poster told me that this driver was probably working under the same circumstances, and that was probably why he was the way he was. For that reason, I should have overlooked his attitude. Also, acccording to this poster, the driver had a good reason to be upset with me for not knowing how to work the equipment.

I guess I should just let the whole world walk all over me, since everyone else has stressful jobs and they're all probably having bad days.

[JuniorMintz]

This thread is made of win.

[DrFaroohk]

I guess I should just let the whole world walk all over me, since everyone else has stressful jobs and they're all probably having bad days.

I get that from a lot of different places too. It's like everyone else in the world has special circumstances but me. Everyone else deserves loads of understanding and sympathy.

[lupo pazzesco]

I think I'm guilty of this from time to time, though I'm usually telling a story to illustrate how I can empathize/see where the OP is coming from, if that makes sense. I don't think I get too over the top, and hope that if I do, someone can smack some sense into me. My ex-roomie was like that and I dread turning out anything like her. Everytime I'd say something, she had 4 different stories about how she had something almost exactly similar like that happen to her, and OMG, this is how she felt this is what she did, this is how I have to fix it if I want to be happy in life.

Still amazed I never bitch-slapped the hell out of her because people like that annoy me too.

[Rageaholic]

That or people who, rather than sympathizing or offering constructive ideas to help you feel better, invalidate your feelings or tell you you are being immature, etc. etc.

Feelings don't have to be rational or logical. They just are. Sometimes sharing them helps you get over the irrational part and feel better. Being told your feelings aren't valid or that you are a horrible person for venting is pretty upsetting, especially if you create a topic or thread simply to feel better and all you get is criticism!

Yup, other rant sites I've been to have had people get flamed to high hell for actually using the site for the purpose it was created, ranting. A lot of the regulars are assholes who just want to discredit other rants as "whinning" when the whole purpose of the site is to rant! Ironically, it's people like them who keep me coming to those rant sites.

[LeChatNoir]

I had a manager who was like this. I would hate having any conversation with her, because no matter what it was, she would somehow turn it back to herself. She wouldn't even do it "gracefully" either. You might mention something that happened with your day, and instead of replying to that, she would just be like "Oh, my sciatica is acting up, I am in SO MUCH pain today!" or something else completed unrelated to what you were actually talking about. She was quite a loon and a total attention whore.

I think I'm guilty of this from time to time, though I'm usually telling a story to illustrate how I can empathize/see where the OP is coming from, if that makes sense. I don't think I get too over the top, and hope that if I do, someone can smack some sense into me.

I'm the same way. I sometimes have to say to myself when replying to a post, "does this have any bearing on the topic, or am I bringing it up for the right reasons?" I think usually I manage to tone it down. I think the things I might say about myself in a thread are usually anecdotes that relate to the topic at hand, instead of me just fishing for attention. I hope so anyway