Women who are afraid to age

[guywithashovel]

It seems crazy, but I worry about that kinda thing. I'm almost 28, and I'm getting antsy. I'm basically happy with everything in life, but I just sorta expected to be settled a bit more. It doesn't help that I just signed up on facebook...seeing my HS and college friends with pictures of their husbands and kids...houses and apartments. I feel like I'm the only one sorta stagnating I guess. I mean, I'm not really. I have my job, I pay my bills, I have my savings, I do well with my horseback riding...I have a wonderful boyfriend... I dunno really what I'm so impatient about or afraid of. I mean,

I guess I'm afraid that if things don't work out again it will be another X number of years wasted. I'll be X number of years older. And it will be that much harder to find someone and start over again...*shrug*

I'm kind of in the same position, and I'm about your age, I thnk (27, will be 28 in January). Ever since I finished high school, I have felt like I'm climbing a Mt. Everest of obstacles towards achieving a comfortable adult life. I graduated from college when I was 23, and I spent all of my college years working nearly full time in retail. By that time, I was so sick of the job I'd had for five years that I was willing to do anything to get on another path. So, I quit that job and took a part-time job as a tutor/teacher's aide, and I also took some more college classes. After that, I went to graduate school.

I finished graduate school in August of 2008, and I had high hopes of landing a job soon thereafter, but then the financial crisis set in. Since then, I have completed an internship and I've been doing some independent contract work that pays fairly well, but nothing career-like has come up for me.

I've been staying with an elderly relative and helping her out with things, but I pretty much feel like I'm still living with my parents, even though I'm not. And it doesn't help that my younger sister is married and planning on building a new house together with her husband. I always thought I would be farther along by this point in my life. So, I'm at least one other person on the planet in the same boat as you.

[blas87]

Call me a sheep or vain, whatever you like. I won't apologize for who I am.

I am petrified to age.

I already have "creeper" wrinkles underneath my eyes. In MY opinion, I think my breasts are already starting to sag because they are a little large for how small framed I am. Looking at my mother, her breasts are down to her belly button (albeit her breasts are twice *if not larger* my size).......

I have considered Botox in the future and you bet your bottom dollar I WILL be getting a breast lift before I'm 30 or by the time I am 30. Or if it's cheaper, I will just get a breast reduction.

[RavenStarr]

Call me a sheep or vain, whatever you like. I won't apologize for who I am.

I am petrified to age.

Yep same here. I even color my grey hair. I think another reason I'm afraid of aging is knowing the older I get, the closer to dying I get.

I just don't like to think about it.

[protege]

Thought I'd throw this little tidbit out there... to those of us saying that our hair is graying. It could always be worse! My youngest brother turns 28 in April. His hair is thinning and receding. As if that wasn't enough, one of my college friends...was nearly bald at 22

[AdminAssistant]

As much as I don't want to get wrinkly, I think women who get botox look....odd. But between weight gain and getting a little older...I'm already struggling to defy gravity up top. If I don't lose some weight (which I need to do), I might have to consider reduction later.

[Teysa]

I'm not too worried about the whole wrinkles thing. The women in my family tend to have young looking faces anyways. I've been graying since before I graduated high school so I'm used to it by now.

I refuse to get botox simply because the whole having someone stick a needle in my face does not appeal to me. *shudders*

I admit I wouldn't mind getting breast surgery at some point, but I have other things to spend my money on right now. Maybe after I win that new powerball lottery they just introduced to my state

[Cat]

I hate to admit, since I am usually so proud of my dirty hippie hiker style, but yes, I too dislike aging.

I actually bought make up today, and just some lotions and skin masks to help me too better.

And the lovely kitty bag I boasted about on CS, and I order kitty ear hats to give a more youthful look. I turn 32 in June...le sigh (yes, I know it is not "old," but still....)

[Giggle Goose]

AA- I wouldn't worry too much about a 'lil weight gain. I think a little meat on a woman's bones tends to make her look younger. Especially where the face is concerned. I've lost almost 40 pounds within the past year and I'm still happy with the fat on my cheeks and my facial roundness.

Blas- I'm only 23 and I'm planning on getting a breast lift and augmentation sometime this year. I just have small breasts that sag more than I would like for my age and larger-than average frame. *shrug* I'm open about it because I firmly believe that people shouldn't be called shallow just because they would like to fix something that has been digging at them for a while (since I was 15, in my case). I've researched the risks and the consequences, so I just brush off what people say.

I'm not too scared of aging (yet), but I'm starting to see some wrinkles in my forehead that I REALLY don't like I feel the same as FL about that, I think they're ugly. On me, anyway.

EDIT--I do NOT think all people with forehead wrinkles are ugly! My mom has them and she still looks younger than her age, I just don't like to see them on me.

[XCashier]

I think another reason I'm afraid of aging is knowing the older I get, the closer to dying I get.

I understand that. I'm not afraid of dying, but I'm in no big hurry either!

Me, I'm 41, with more than a little grey hair (which I do color) and some lines on my face that are deeper than I'd like. I hate the idea of Botox, so I'm using moisurizer instead.

Thing is, in the last few years, I've had people thinking I am much older than I actually am. People offering me senior discounts, AARP sending me "join us" letters, offers from funeral homes (!). It's getting a little creepy, honestly. And it's always addressed to me, not to my husband who is 4½ years older than me. Are they targeting me just because I'm a woman, or is the universe trying to tell me something?