The games people play when they're pissed off at you

[JuniorMintz]

It could have been anything I used for an example, and this is a perfect example of people going the wrong way with a thread. You're debating about rape, and that clearly wasn't the point. "Oh but that's what you said derrrrrrr!" Shut up. You know what I meant.

First off, I've been lurking for a while, I've read many of your posts, and I think it's hilarious that you of all people have the nerve to tell someone ELSE they should shut up about *anything*-especially so on a discussion/debate board like Fratching.

Second, YOU chose to use "unwanted anal sex" to try and make your point. There are literally hundreds of annoying everyday behaviors you could have given as an example, but you chose unwanted anal sex. How did you not realize that such a comment would at the very least raise a few eyebrows around these parts? If you're mad that someone brought up the "rape" word due to a bizarre statement that *you* said, too fucking bad. They're your words, man up and own them. If you're not prepared to deal with the fall out and are unable to clarify the point you were trying to make in an adult manner, maybe *you're* the one who should STFU and get a grip.

[DrFaroohk]

Please.

Anyone who was dumb enough to focus more on my example than the point I was making was doing so intentionally just so they could act all offended and then take the high road and feel better about themselves for pointing out how sensitive and compassionate and liberal they are, much like anyone who took my "shut up" to be anything other than a "shut up" directed at those very same people.

[Lace Neil Singer]

My example would be the fact that my boyf knows that burping loudly and rudely annoys me and I've asked him countless times not to do it. He doesn't have to ask why I'm glaring at him after he's done a huge belch that Barny Gumble would be proud to produce; he knows why and apologises.

Whereas someone who didn't give a damn might do the whole, "What? What? Why are you looking at me like that?" routine.

Far better example.

[BroomJockey]

much like anyone who took my "shut up" to be anything other than a "shut up" directed at those very same people.

*mod note*
Guess what? You don't get to tell people to shut up, in any way, shape, or form, no matter how they "misinterpret" your post. Don't do it again.

[protege]

When I'm annoyed or pissed at someone, I try to take a deep breath and think about it before I say something. So, I suppose that during this time, my actions could *probably* be construed as a 'silent treatment'.

But, like others have said, it's to everyone's benefit if I *don't* speak up at the exact time I'm annoyed, because I'll blow it up out of proportion.

LOL I thought I was the only one who did that Seriously though, I do try to relax a bit before I say anything. Usually, when someone pisses me off...my first instinct is to either ream out or throttle (or even strangle) the offender In other words, I might appear calm and rational...but inside, I'm about to detach your head from your body.

Because of that, I have to keep my emotions in check...lest I do or say something I regret. Of course, that's also why I choose my words very carefully, lest I have to eat them.

[JuniorMintz]

Please.

Anyone who was dumb enough to focus more on my example than the point I was making was doing so intentionally just so they could act all offended and then take the high road and feel better about themselves for pointing out how sensitive and compassionate and liberal they are, much like anyone who took my "shut up" to be anything other than a "shut up" directed at those very same people.

Wah, wah. So post yet another thread in 'Things I Hate' and cry about us there, if we bother you that much.

[Boozy]

MOD NOTE:

The tangent caused by DrFaroohk's unfortunate example and the ensuing bickering has already been addressed by a moderator. Let's drop the subject and get back to the OP please.

[blas87]

My absolute favorite game in the world (sarcasm, just so you know) is from gossip or word of mouth (like the game "telephone") and someone hears something that you supposedly said or did, takes it to heart, and just instantly ignores you or refuses to talk to you.....and then when you ask what's up, they say "You know what you did!"

A couple of times of that happening at work, and I was about ready to backhand somebody. I thought we were over that in junior high. Apparently not.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Well, again, if someone wants to believe gossip enough to act on it, but not enough to talk to you about it, fuck 'em.

"You know what you did." Ha. I know quite a few things that I did. I'd have to ask them which particular "thing" just to piss them off.

[Slytovhand]

"You know what you did!!!"

"Yep, and I'm damn proud of it "

Well, that's what you get for that sort of line!

Anyway, I've been doing the silent treatment to this board for over a month now, it's time to let loose..

ok, really, my parents were crap with this sort of stuff. They could never intelligently discuss things that were upsetting them. My mother would just all of a sudden break out (usually after something relatively minor occured.. usually the milk falling down, or something similar). And the way it came out meant that it seemed pretty... crap. Made not a lot of sense at all. Now, top that with telling my father all the time to "Grow up, stop acting like a child", and I've since internalised all my crap!

So, occasionally I'll do a silent treatment, but like a few of you have said, it's usually a way to process stuff...

Or, it's stuff that's been gone over before, and there's really not a lot of point going over it again... which really only leads to one end.. goodbye!

Being the sarcastic and occasionally rude bastard that I can be, if I'm getting a silent treatment, I'd be more likely to hand them a throat lozenge and tell them I hope they get better soon

[gremcint]

Silent treatment or "you should know" both of these say one of a couple things to me:
1. you don't respect me enough to actually talk to me
or
2. the problem is too small to be worth being angry about
or
3. you aren't willing to act like an adult and talk to me
or
4. you still need time to process

1-3 I don't really care about the opinion of someone who doesn't respect me and 4 usually only lasts for a little while before becoming 1-3.

If you can't be bothered to talk about the problems then forget about them but don't expect me to play a game that only you know the rules too, don't expect me to play games at all.

[Boozy]

#2 on your list doesn't really bother me. People get pissed off about dumb shit every single day. Sometimes the only mature thing to do is to bite your tongue, and bite hard, until that momentary surge of rage passes.

If my husband and I shared our thoughts with each other every single time we were angry, we'd have been divorced long ago.