How Dare You Be Responsible!

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Well, you know, one of the guys that used to hang out with us got banned from our parties because he couldn't handle his drinking.

He thought he was a happy, charming drunk.

What he was was a belligerent, aggressive, defensive, borderline abusive drunk who wanted to argue with us about the issue of his driving drunk. He'd gotten a couple warnings, but one of his other lovely charms was his thick skull. Eventually, he got told he wasn't welcome to party with us.

It wasn't a fun or happy or easy decision. Not suprisingly, however, it was a popular one. We take that shit pretty seriously. You drink responsibly or you don't drink with us. And no amount of impairment absolves anyone of the expectation that they will act like a civil adult.

[LadyMage]

Well, you know, one of the guys that used to hang out with us got banned from our parties because he couldn't handle his drinking.

He thought he was a happy, charming drunk.

What he was was a belligerent, aggressive, defensive, borderline abusive drunk who wanted to argue with us about the issue of his driving drunk. He'd gotten a couple warnings, but one of his other lovely charms was his thick skull. Eventually, he got told he wasn't welcome to party with us.

It wasn't a fun or happy or easy decision. Not suprisingly, however, it was a popular one. We take that shit pretty seriously. You drink responsibly or you don't drink with us. And no amount of impairment absolves anyone of the expectation that they will act like a civil adult.

thankfully we haven't had that problem yet kinkoid, the one drunkard I did deal with was a silly drunk and knew he was messed up, and stopped after three (and let us force food down his throat to help a bit) but yeah anyone like the guy you mentioned would have just been kicked out after one time. I am a sweet and nice hostess, until you abuse my guests, then buh bye so I am not shocked he was banned from parties.

[MergedLoki]

Alright someone's gotta step in and defend the 'other side' lol

I dont think anyone NEEDS to drink to have fun (ok some people do but we call those people 'acoholics' and they need help :P).

I drink fairly often (with friends, never alone except for the occasional beer or something on a hot day etc.). not because i NEED to but because I WANT to.

and no i never EVER drive drunk or anything idiotic like that. I cab or walk anywhere I need to get to if i'm heading out to a bar.

sorry that's just my biggest annoyance with people who either don't drink or have like.. 1 drink or whatever. the classic line of 'well i dont NEED to drink to have fun' well i don't either. It's not like i sit at home and cry gin soaked tears because when I dont have a drink in my hand im' depressed and bored lol, but I'm an adult living my own life and I CHOOSE to drink and have fun WHILE drinking.

[Lace Neil Singer]

I already posted something along those lines, but guess it got swallowed up. XD

I don't need to go out and get drunk to have fun; however, sometimes I like to do so. I'm a happy, fun, joke telling drunk... and yes, I have had this verified by close friends and my boyf so I'm not thinking I am when I'm not. XD

[BroomJockey]

I'm an adult living my own life and I CHOOSE to drink and have fun WHILE drinking.

I'm not sure that anyone's actually condemned that. The whole point of what everyone saying "I don't need to drink to have fun" is back in blas's original post when you get the militant fucking assholes going "drink you damned pansy."

[Lace Neil Singer]

There's millitant fucking arseholes on the other side too, sadly.

Personally, I'm against arseholes of every description. XD

[BroomJockey]

There's millitant fucking arseholes on the other side too, sadly.

Personally, I'm against arseholes of every description. XD

Well, yes, but since the original post featured one of those arses, it made sense for people to be speaking up against it

And personally, *I'm* not against one type of arsehole. It's very useful. Otherwise, your digestive tract would have to work slightly differently... O-O

[blas87]

I do apologize if my OP had anyone thinking I was against drinking in general. Absolutely not, as I used to go out quite often and would often rip it up. And nowadays, anytime my boyfriend isn't around, I take the opportunity to go out with the girls and paint the town red, without getting arrested.

I have been drunk before. Many times. I've been falling down drunk. I've been the idiot running into people, hooting and hollering, dancing like an idiot, spilling all over people.....and dealing with the embarrassment and the next day's consequences, I've learned from that. It's much more fun when alcohol is just for ambience and part of the fun, NOT the only reason to be there or do anything.

I don't even have an issue with people who feel a need to catch a buzz to get comfortable. So long as they aren't driving, cool with me. Do what you gotta do.

I guess in general I really hate people who pressure others and don't have any respect for boundaries like that.

[LadyMage]

There's millitant fucking arseholes on the other side too, sadly.

Personally, I'm against arseholes of every description. XD

I am not of either myself, at most parties I don't care if you drink or not, unless someone is either real bad under the influence or tries to get me to drink. I only ban booze at mine because I didn't like someone running around getting drunk in my house, it actually scared me a bit

If you want to drink where its allowed that is fine, heck I'll even help you out, although I'll be a panicky, nervous, scared overbearing mother type to you (my husband knows this on the super rare moments he gets drunk, he knows I hate it, even though he is a cuddly drunk) but just don't expect me to touch booze, I hate the taste and what it does to people personally and would rather not do that to myself

[linguist]

Yeah, thinking more of it, it probably would look cheap and rude to make guests pay for their drinks.....but I could also imagine myself as a bridezilla who would probably beat the living hell out of anyone who got so drunk at my reception that they were falling down or spilling things or breaking stuff.
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a friend of mine came up with an idea for her wedding that i thought was pretty awesome. neither she nor her husband drink, and so didn't feel that they should be required to provide alcohol at their reception. instead, both being big fans of jones soda, they got in touch with jones soda company and ordered many cases in assorted flavors, and sent them their engagement pictures, which jones then used to create custom labels for each bottle. that way, they got beverages they enjoyed (at a much lower cost than if they'd provided alcoholic beverages), and every guest (not to mention the bride & groom) got keepsakes of the day in the form of bottles with pretty awesome artwork featuring the stars of the occasion.

[LadyMage]

a friend of mine came up with an idea for her wedding that i thought was pretty awesome. neither she nor her husband drink, and so didn't feel that they should be required to provide alcohol at their reception. instead, both being big fans of jones soda, they got in touch with jones soda company and ordered many cases in assorted flavors, and sent them their engagement pictures, which jones then used to create custom labels for each bottle. that way, they got beverages they enjoyed (at a much lower cost than if they'd provided alcoholic beverages), and every guest (not to mention the bride & groom) got keepsakes of the day in the form of bottles with pretty awesome artwork featuring the stars of the occasion.

that kicks ass! a very good idea, wish I thought of that

[Nyoibo]

And personally, *I'm* not against one type of arsehole. It's very useful. Otherwise, your digestive tract would have to work slightly differently... O-O

Eew, really didn't want that mental image.

[BlaqueKatt]

My friend got married last weekend, I was in the wedding party. Most of the other bridesmaids and the groomsmen and the groom were getting totally sloshed

I have never understood this mentality-

"hey honey let's spend our first night as a married couple totally wasted and puking then get up and on our first day as a married couple we can be hungover and feel miserable"

I was actually at a wedding where the bride had to wash vomit off her wedding dress-hers, the grooms, and the bridesmaids-they went on a "drunken hayride" through town* between the ceremony and the reception-it was lovely


*stopped at every bar in town plus had bottles on the haywagon-oh and the couple's 3 kids were with them on the hayride-the bride was upset later that there were very few reception pictures of her(hmm vomit stained dresses don't photgraph well) and her groom ended up passed out on the dance floor and had to be carried into a car and then into the honeymoon suite......

[blas87]

I know right, BK...I really hope my friend wasn't too disappointed that night, considering the groom could barely walk!

[Peppergirl]

I know right, BK...I really hope my friend wasn't too disappointed that night, considering the groom could barely walk!

I'd safely assume she was disappointed. I'm quite sure his legs weren't the *only* thing not functioning properly.