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You're wrong! You're bad! You're inadequate! You're inferior!
No I'm not!
Hey, you're getting defensive now! That's so bad and wrong! See? You're a loser!
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There's nothing wrong with being defensive. If someone is criticizing or accusing or just trying to put me down, they're attacking me. It doesn't matter the reasoning or the context, whether its a boss or a friend or family member, someone is basically saying "You are wrong." They might say it with a smile, and even have a really good reason for it, but the fact is I'm still being attacked. And I have every right to explain my position and defend myself. Maybe they're not seeing the whole picture and need to be enlightened. There may have been a key piece of information they weren't privy too and it clouded their judgement. Even if that's not the case, I'm not psychic so I can't know that, and I have every right to explain my position and defend myself.
But apparently even that is out of line now. I either have to be a doormat and let people treat me like crap, so I'm weak and unassertive, or I have major attitude problems because I DARED to question someone else's flawed opinion of me.
No I'm not!
Hey, you're getting defensive now! That's so bad and wrong! See? You're a loser!
_____
There's nothing wrong with being defensive. If someone is criticizing or accusing or just trying to put me down, they're attacking me. It doesn't matter the reasoning or the context, whether its a boss or a friend or family member, someone is basically saying "You are wrong." They might say it with a smile, and even have a really good reason for it, but the fact is I'm still being attacked. And I have every right to explain my position and defend myself. Maybe they're not seeing the whole picture and need to be enlightened. There may have been a key piece of information they weren't privy too and it clouded their judgement. Even if that's not the case, I'm not psychic so I can't know that, and I have every right to explain my position and defend myself.
But apparently even that is out of line now. I either have to be a doormat and let people treat me like crap, so I'm weak and unassertive, or I have major attitude problems because I DARED to question someone else's flawed opinion of me.
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