Tough Love

[SorryIsGoodEnough]

I've seriously had it.

I am bipolar. Right now, I'm depressive.. I'm not suicidal right now, and I'm on my meds. I'm really struggling.

My mother though...my entire family...they've crossed the line from tough love to intolerance. I understand that change has to start with me, and I'm trying, but threatening to take my daughter away, going so far as to walk out of the house with her WITHOUT MY CONSENT...calling me incompetent because I dared tell you how I FEEL....

Please don't tell me I need to see a therapist or otherwise seek help. I have a therapist I see weekly. Thanks though.

Is it just me or is attempted kidnapping of my daughter and telling me to kill myself stepping over the line?

[Nyoibo]

Unless you've been declared mentally incompetant and are not her legal guardian taking her without your consent is kidnapping.

[Cats]

Unless you've been declared mentally incompetant and are not her legal guardian taking her without your consent is kidnapping.

This. If they're going to be tough on you, be just as tough on them. Next time they do that, call the cops on them, seriously.

If they really think you're THAT bad that you're unfit to be a parent, that's what social services is there to decide; not theirs.

Do you live with any of those family members? If not, change the locks.

[BroomJockey]

I believe the proper charge would be "custodial interference." And SIGE, change may have to start with you, but added stress like that doesn't help.

[Talon]

Is it just me or is attempted kidnapping of my daughter and telling me to kill myself stepping over the line?

What the FUCK?!

They've not only crossed the line, they've Olympic-pole-vaulted over it and landed in another country. I second what the others said about calling the cops, and possibly getting a restraining order. How's that for tough love fuckers?

[BroomJockey]

telling me to kill myself stepping over the line?

HOLY CRAP. I missed this line the first time around. That... wow, that's... just... not cool. I didn't wanna make this suggestion at first, but after noticing this line, I'm gonna do it. Next time they try and take her, CALL THE COPS. Tell them a family member took your daughter from your home against your wishes.

[Fryk]

I MOTHERFUCKING HATE how families think that being related give you free reign to be an asshole whenever you feel like it. I would DEFINITELY change the locks and cut off contact, as well as call the cops. You need to be the one to start documenting things like this, because when they call social services (and they will), you need to have your side of the story on record already. PLEASE tell me you don't live with any of them.

[violetyoshi]

They've not only crossed the line, they've Olympic-pole-vaulted over it and landed in another country.

I know this is a very serious situation, but I just wanted to mention the above statement amused me greatly.

[SorryIsGoodEnough]

I live alone with my daughter. I wish I didn't though.

The problem with calling the cops is that I don't have a car right now. I need my mom, to be honest. I use her car and she helps me buy diapers and stuff in between when my welfare money runs out and the 1st of the month. I'd be utterly alone without my mom.

So I feel like I'm stuck. Like I'm basically being punished for needing her. And that I'm incompetent and should die for not being able to stand on my own.

[BlaqueKatt]

I use her car and she helps me buy diapers and stuff in between when my welfare money runs out and the 1st of the month. I'd be utterly alone without my mom.

try to get in contact some local churches-I know the mormon church(much as I dislike their teachings) where I lived gave me grocery vouchers and drove me to the store to pick up said groceries, after my husband left-they would've given me diapers as well-but as money was tight before he left I used cloth.

[Fryk]

Are there busses nearby you could take?Or look and see if you can find a grocery store that delivers. Some still do, and they even let you shop online and arrange for delivery that way.

[LadyMage]

everything everyone said I second third and fourth! Your mother is kidnapping but don't call the cops yet tell her the next time she takes your daughter without our consent YOU WILL CALL THE COPS FOR KIDNAPPING and if she says to kill yourself again, tell her "RESTRAIN ORDER IF YOU SAY THAT AGAIN" and make sure you go through with those threats if she doesn't believe you and pulls those stunts again

Try to find friends or programs to help you with transport in the meantime, this way you are not stuck